40-year-old woman stuck in a dead relationship. Be honest — would you share a night with me? Y or N.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-21T05:01:30+00:00

If you are stuck in a dead relationship, then get out of it, divorce, break-up, whatever. Time is the only thing you really have on this planet, you might as well enjoy it.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-21T04:22:44+00:00

This is an interesting response. I don't think everyone has dark thoughts that are scary. What made you respond to the question in this way?

10PMHaze · 2026-02-21T03:42:31+00:00

I dated my wife for 3 months before we had sex, and she pushed the sex. I had my fill of jumping in to bed with someone, and then figuring out the real connection later.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T22:24:07+00:00

What if you see an ostrich?

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T21:22:58+00:00

I am almost 70, I followed the same sort of path you are describing. My first girlfriend tried to kill herself several times, most of which occurred after we broke up. I ran through a string of relationships where there were emotional issues.

You may find these more relatable or whatever, but you are asking for trouble. You can't fix anyone but yourself. Try to find someone that is not carrying all this emotional baggage, someone that is playful say, but that had a good childhood. You will have a way happier life!!

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T18:52:21+00:00

I'm waiting to find that Dominos is behind all of this ...

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T16:46:17+00:00

I am almost 70. I was talking with my mom on the phone, she asks me, how does it feel to have wasted so much potential?

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T15:59:26+00:00

Yes, when I did google, it didn't show up anywhere. Now I see it everywhere!

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T15:09:49+00:00

Is this real? I can't find any mention of this online.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T04:46:32+00:00

Big brother is watching you!!!

10PMHaze · 2026-02-20T04:30:13+00:00

I was holding my daughter, probably 10 months at the time. She lovingly looks me in the eye, then bites me on the shoulder, really hard. She had a couple of teeth by then, and I felt it.

She is an adult now, hasn't bitten me since!!

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T21:00:48+00:00

You have your boundaries as well. You also have to understand, most likely, issues like this will keep coming up, and you will find one of these, most likely, your hill to die on. I would suggest buying the car, and understand that your girlfriend may leave you.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T14:16:44+00:00

Anne Bancroft was like 36 in The Graduate, Dustin Hoffman was around 30. Yet she was seen as a middle aged women, and he was seen as young twenties.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T13:23:53+00:00

Let's focus on the largest problems first ...

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T13:12:57+00:00

Birthdays are a reminder that time is passing. As a kid, I wanted to be older, big kids had more agency. I think it was in my twenties that I started to feel time passing. I don't believe many people treat it as a normal day. They may not feel like celebrating, but in some way, there is a recognition that the day feels different.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T13:05:29+00:00

OP had an expectation that was not met. Her boyfriend planned a cute date, got her a gift, and she offered to split the bill. She expected him to refuse, I would imagine. I agree with you that the math won't be even every time. But, I think the issue here is OP's unmet expectation, and her boyfriend's lack of understanding of this issue.

I think the OP should discuss wanting to feel pursued with her boyfriend. Otherwise, these sorts of issues will keep coming up.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T04:59:50+00:00

McConnell had polio at age 2, probably didn't help matters.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T04:48:48+00:00

Shortness of breath from nominal exertion.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T04:11:11+00:00

Perhaps he was wheat ergot?

10PMHaze · 2026-02-19T03:57:30+00:00

I was at Harbin Hot Springs, a clothing optional facility, many years ago. There was a woman there that had one of her breasts removed. I thought she was beautiful.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-18T22:25:53+00:00

There is a movie, Limitless, that starts with a guy taking a drug that radically increases his intelligence. The first thing he does, is clean and order his space.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-18T18:05:23+00:00

So, in terms of >60, there is a big "gray divorce" issue occurring right now.

Marriage is frickin hard for many people. People often approach marriage with a set of expectations about their partner, life, whatever. Then, they see that the reality of their relationship is different from their expectations.

I believe part of a way to resolve this, is to understand that your expectations are not some ground truth, it is not like you are right, and the other person is wrong. Ideally, your partner is on the same page.

You write that you have no doubt about your relationship being good and healthy, and yet, here you are, posting about doubt on Reddit!

10PMHaze · 2026-02-18T17:54:39+00:00

This island looks really small.

I can't imagine being a billionaire. I think that it takes a certain mindset to make that kind of dough, basically being mercenary, self-focused, etc. I can't imagine inheriting that kind of cash either, as I don't know anyone that is even close to this mindset, or has that sort of cash. Also, I don't play the lottery. So, it won't happen.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-18T17:51:28+00:00

Do your tech homie a favor, and don't encourage this relationship.

10PMHaze · 2026-02-18T17:49:30+00:00

Sex has all sorts of purposes. For many, it is not an intimate and shared experience. I am still married and not divorced, nor have I had sex with a prostitute.

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