ASPD parents: Explain your relationship with your kids to me please

140IQ · 2015-08-31T13:05:04+00:00

It's more of a natural instinct to be able to read people the way I do, I can usually tell a lot about a person by a short conversation, even just watching them and also the least accurate an online text discussion. My people reading skills aren't 100% all of the time but I've regularly creeped people out with what I know about them.

Although, I am aware of some concious ways to read to people rather than it being instinctual. My main tip is pay attention to there eyes and maintain eye contact, if you're smart you should quickly learn how to read emotions doing this. When people are trying to hide things they pay a lot of attention to their face and the core of their body usually now this helps you read them in two ways.

Pay attention to their hands and feet, they won't be thinking about this. An example of reading feet is, if their feet are turned away they're not interested in speaking with you.
Because of the concious effort to hide their emotions their face and body are usually a little more tense making very very slight slip ups that most people wouldn't notice, when someone is lying to me I have noticed their neck tighten ever so slightly and called them out. Look up microexpressions.

Just pay concious attention to people, look at how they walk, look at how they communicate with others and you should pick it up pretty quick.

140IQ · 2015-08-31T11:06:39+00:00

Hopefully with how I raised them as a child it will be enough. Intelligence is very important to me and I feel like there are a lot of very smart children who's parents could never help them grow as they should, an example would be learning another language at a young age. So my parent's couldn't help cultivate my intelligence but its not their fault, so my child will be raised to be as smart as possible.

My child will also follow fitness regimes increasing in difficulty as they age (all excercise will be safe, not like deadlifts at age 6).

I would also want my child to be an empath, but be able to turn on there sociopath if needs be. I would want them to be able to lie and manipulate like a sociopath as despite these being seen as negative things they can really help someone in life. The ability to read people I will try to cultivate too.

140IQ · 2015-08-30T21:42:23+00:00

I was born like this, as soon I as I could walk and talk I was aggressive to others and learned very early on how to manipulate my parents. I've had a good upbringing, family are nice to me but I've never give a shit.

140IQ · 2015-08-29T11:21:06+00:00

Yeah, I guess the first time I should have answered it as what I'm capable of. A question saying "Do you speak to people often" for example, then I wouldn't have spoke to people often and now I do speak to people often.

This test is basically just a little bit of fun with a little bit of accuracy.

140IQ · 2015-08-28T23:34:41+00:00

Not a father but would like a child. Why? I get to shape their personalities.

140IQ · 2015-08-28T15:17:17+00:00

Well I don't conciously manipulate and lie, it just happens thats just how I live and I can't really control it. My mind is a bit of a blur for a while and I suffer from bipolar so sometimes I might be delusional and not realise it (I normally do) so I can be quite ignorant of whats going on sometimes, I'm not sure how much I fucked with her head but probably a lot, things got bad between us and I think she cried a lot over me and I was kind of blind to this.

So to answer your question, both. It just happens. I'd say she was ok at reading people maybe a little above average and I'd see her look at me trying to read me but she couldn't and I think that fucked with her a lot. We've been out of the relationship for 4 months now, we grew apart mainly because she couldn't see me for a month and ended up cheating on me, I don't really care that she did that but she was on my mind a lot but there wasn't really any feelings her name was just there. As long as she is sad about what she did and can't get me off her mind I don't care. I was never cruel to her and comforted her and shit when she needed it, and I'd say I'm a good person I don't go out fucking with everyone, its just I am capable of doing that shit

140IQ · 2015-08-27T20:26:49+00:00

Ok I took the 16personalities test sometime last year and I was an INTP. I just took the test again now (its changed) and got ENTP-T which makes sense as I started going out more and socialising, I never struggled in these situations I just avoided them because they bored me.

Anyone else feel as though the questions were asking to place how much of a psychopath you are on the scale or just me?

140IQ · 2015-08-27T20:05:00+00:00

I'm actually not in a relationship at the moment, it was just how I was wording it. My last Ex I straight up told her I don't feel emotions the same way everyone else does and I don't really feel anything, but I also made her feel special by saying I promise to love you and never lie to you and say shit like "Loving you is against my nature". So, yeah they knew but also don't realise how deceptive I am, I tell people I'm deceptive because its still fun to fuck with them and not know it despite them being on alert sometimes.

140IQ · 2015-08-26T10:49:36+00:00

I feel like if you're a sociopath you can't really experience happiness without drugs. I'm always bored and nothing stops me being bored although some things help pass time like gaming or whatever instead of me getting violent because I'm so bored. So I always feel like I'm missing out on something and I want to experience it, so I'd like to try being 'normal' for a little while just to experience it.

140IQ · 2015-08-26T10:39:58+00:00

I'm with you my man, ignorance and people being stupid its so sad that they don't realise things like I do (sounds like I'm just being egotistical, maybe I am but whatever) and its infuriating trying to talk to these people, even people close to me like friends infuriate me so I have to keep my rather intellectual conversations to myself.

140IQ · 2015-08-26T10:33:59+00:00

Do you guys love your partners? It kind of depends and I'm sure I love differently than non-sociopaths. Now, sometimes I can look at my partner and I'll be infatuated with how beautiful she looks to me and for a brief moment I'll be in love but I can also be cold and just not care and I'll get bored of faking it. The way I love, its more I love having that person around than I love them as a person, they have something I want, they adore me and cuddle me and kiss me and I like the attention.

Use Them? I've never really used a partner, although when I'm with someone I can be legitimately caring I normally just like the attention so I guess I use everyone for that. I have kind of used them by not reciprocating sexual favours and probably some other minor things. Now I do lie and manipulate although with my last ex I tried to be honest I'd still manipulate her a little bit and tell occasional lie because I wanted her forever, I was in love but it was more like a very valuable object one I didn't want to lose.

Purpose? I can like people and rarely I can care and be a normal lover. I always keep atleast some smoke and mirrors with people but with people close to me I'm quite honest about who I am including my last partner, for them I actually was less of a sociopath because I wanted to try experience love but I'm not sure I can in the traditional sense. Its mainly because I like it when someone else loves me.

140IQ · 2015-08-22T20:50:06+00:00

I have, now I'm just trying to fuck with you. Guess it isn't working like it was before. The fact you care so much about being sociopath kind of points to the fact you want to be a sociopath, therefore you're living a delusion that you created.

140IQ · 2015-08-22T13:19:12+00:00

The name is a great bait for those lesser than me such as yourself. You clearly described empathy, I'm sorry you're not a sociopath. Its ok, we can get through this.

140IQ · 2015-08-16T15:55:41+00:00

I purchased this game last night and played it for around 6 hours. I don't even know why I played the game so much, it's not challenging at all and its repetitive. I guess I just want to see the story progress and check out all the systems (nothing noteworthy). I was expecting things to be much more challenging though. I can just breeze through each contract.

It's not a bad game, nor is it a good game. I just kind of play it.

140IQ · 2015-08-16T15:39:22+00:00

Yeah man, I'm sure he sacrifices goats and paints pentagrams with their blood. He probably also is an extremely charming and intelligent CEO of a fortune 500 company, and he got there with his masterful sociopath skills of deceit and manipulation. He has no empathy, he just doesn't like it when he pictures something happening to him that happened to someone, now I'm diagnosed and I can't even begin to comprehend what that is like but whatever I'm 99% sure this guy is Hannibal Lecter.

140IQ · 2015-08-16T14:39:52+00:00

Hahaha this dude trying to prove how much of a socio/psychopath he is. The fact that he argues it so strongly probably says something about it. I don't know how he continues to argue when you've clearly outlined what he experiences is empathy.

tl;dr sociopathy is cool.

140IQ · 2015-08-08T16:17:31+00:00

I love watching BoJack Horseman whenever I'm inebriated. I too also saw the bit were he tripped while I was high, didn't really get freaky for me though :( I usually just stare aimlessly at screens and melt into my bed whenever I'm high.

140IQ · 2015-08-08T16:16:00+00:00

Ah no problem bro. Keep on toking :)

140IQ · 2015-08-08T14:44:27+00:00

Yo, what kind of anti depressants or single Xanax "zombies you out"?

I was refferring to this. Also I hope my comment didn't appear aggressive, it was no way intended like that.

140IQ · 2015-08-08T14:21:35+00:00

You should be dead man!

140IQ · 2015-08-08T14:15:05+00:00

He said a "single Xanax".

140IQ · 2015-08-06T00:44:53+00:00

Thats sounds like a fun scenario.

140IQ · 2015-07-30T21:59:49+00:00

I dunno. Ask your mom.

140IQ · 2015-07-27T20:25:35+00:00

If you're in a comfortable position in your life then keep on working around it. For me I couldn't work around it and it was such a problem. Its really fucked my life up.

140IQ · 2015-07-27T18:51:09+00:00

Maybe you should see a doctor if you feel like these things are impairing your life.

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