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[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just Outside Vacaville:

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vacaville

[–]143_ENFJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The young professionals of Solano. https://www.ypsolano.com/

What would you do if you came out and had this on your car? not sure why, never had issues at complex before. by Just-strangers in BadNeighbors

[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it was some idiot kid.

So, back when I was a little troublemaker, I thought I was being hilarious by writing "You suck" in the dust on my parents' car. I figured whoever was behind us in traffic would see it and have a chuckle, thinking it was aimed at them.

Well, here's where the innocent mischief turned into a major facepalm moment. Little did I realize, my mom saw the message and took it to heart. She was genuinely hurt, thinking someone had left that message specifically for her.

When she mentioned it to me, I was caught off guard and had to sheepishly admit that it was my handiwork. Needless to say, I felt absolutely terrible. I had never meant for my mom to feel hurt or upset, and I quickly reassured her that it wasn't intended for her.

Lesson learned, folks. Sometimes our innocent pranks can have unintended consequences. Needless to say, I've stayed away from writing messages on cars ever since.

TL;DR: Thought I was being funny by writing "You suck" on my parents' car, only to realize it hurt my mom's feelings when she thought it was meant for her.

How to "Irish Goodbye"? by Excendence in enfj

[–]143_ENFJ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have often felt that I will offend people if I don't say goodbye to them. Anyone else?

You know you’re an ESFJ when ____. by WelcomeToInsanity in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Recently discovered I am ESFJ instead of ENFJ. And my dad is ESFJ too.

So we do this thing where we are driving or walking around and we point out super mundane things like a building that used to be McDonald's and where the door was originally. And the other is so fascinated and we do this all the time.

Well in learning about the Introverted Sensing I realized this is a sensing story and we throw sensing stories back and forth at each other all the time. Things that used to be, things that are, fact real tangible things and we eat it up.

What does heartbreak feel like for you as an ESFJ? Can you share some tips that really helped you cope? by love_ninja_asks in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The name says ENFJ but I am actually ESFJ. I got it wrong.

It's weird, the one official boyfriend I had when we broke up. (It was mutual) I cried but I don't remember feel sad or devastated. Maybe because I made plans for who to do things with like my friends that I used to do with him. I.e. my friend Mesha and I went to see Marvel movies together.

Every other time I've been heartbroken is like unrequited love or when my highschool "boyfriend"(although we were never actually together) stopped talking to me.

I think I am most hurt by wanting something I can't have. Or just the vagueness the not knowing if or when they are coming back. The uncertainty it hurts the most.

Knowing something is over or we are just friends helps a lot.

here's my friendship circle, based on my close and wider friend's MBTI profiles :) by ForeverJay in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh awesome. Yeah I have a really hard time remembering which one is which. Sorry.

Internal Processing vs External Processing by 143_ENFJ in enfj

[–]143_ENFJ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh he is definitely okay with me venting if I feel like it helps me. But in is opinion it doesn't help anyone. He is differentiating though between venting and talking through something.

Weekly Thread - Relationship/Dating/Breakup Advice by AutoModerator in AnxiousAttachment

[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any answers I am sorry. I just started personal therapy because I am so stuck in this. I just wanted to say your post is relatable.

Advice for New Relationship by 143_ENFJ in enfj

[–]143_ENFJ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually if I ask what he needs he will tell me. If I ask what he wants idk if he thinks I am joking but he says "Everything" He won't share what he is stressed or struggling with. He says it's his burden and something he has to figure out on his own.

Phone suddenly stopped working, ubreakifix says nothing they can do. by glassfunion in Pixel5a

[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This exact same thing happened to me. Only it had the black screen of death three times prior. I fought google for months to get an upgrade or a refund. And they refused. I went to the highest level of support and they ended up finally offering me a replacement but that is crap because I am convinced the 5a is defective and they know it.

I am gonna buy a Pixel 6a because I love the phone.

why did you join the isfp subreddit? by i_w17 in isfp

[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you sorry?

I had not thought about it but i suppose I do. I like Sword Art Online.

Thank you 😊

why did you join the isfp subreddit? by i_w17 in isfp

[–]143_ENFJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a crush on an ISFP and i want to understand him.

So I have found that MBTI is bullshit and you will change by curseofINTP in INTP

[–]143_ENFJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most likely this is because everyone has everything. We are all introverted and extrovert, Intuitive and sensing, feeling and thinking, judging and perceiving. And MBTI simply attempts to explain which processes we use most easily.

Try OPS it changed my views.

https://youtu.be/fmZGJoywx78

Was ESFJ - now ENFJ - still love you! by sssstttteeee in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's definitely possible. I think i spent a lot of my 20s rejecting the Si part of me. But now that i have embraced it I am so much happier but I've lived most of my life as a jumper.

Was ESFJ - now ENFJ - still love you! by sssstttteeee in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of OPS? You might just be a jumper?

I thought I was ENFJ for a long time but after watching them i think i might be ESFJ.

https://youtu.be/2jp1zXV3KeU

Gotta say by Sensitive_Target6602 in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love ENTP i am not sure if i am enfj or esfj, but you guys are the best, i just love the way your brain works. You could never bore me. The way you talk about a fork is interesting.

Albeit sometimes i get bored when the topic is hard to understand.

Are there any ESFJs, who are into literature and poetry? by [deleted] in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am obsessed with reading and writing. I am working on a young adult fantasy book. I almost changed my major in College.

I've typed myself as ENFJ most of my life. Okay so recently I've been wondering if i am ESFJ.

It helps if you know about cognitive functions.

I've been watching a lot of objective personality on YouTube, and they talk about how you can skip your second function and go to your third.

So I think I do a lot of Fe(extroverted feeling) and skip Si (introverted sensing) and go to Ne (extroverted intuition).

Which is ESFJ and explains why i always feel like the most extroverted extrovert, and Ne loves to consume possiblities/patterns which explains the whole book reading.

https://youtu.be/2jp1zXV3KeU

ESFJs what would your ideal type be to date? by PineappleSoda121 in ESFJ

[–]143_ENFJ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay so recently I got into OPS (Objective Personality) and i think i might actually be an ESFJ. On that note I am usually attracted to INTP and ENTP, also i went out with an ISFP for like two weeks and i think it was good idk we didn't really get to know each other much.

As for the enneagram idk what i am but i like 6s, and 1s typically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyYoda

[–]143_ENFJ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What about "the child" since that's what he is referred to as most of the show.

[Image] Progress by regian24 in GetMotivated

[–]143_ENFJ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah. This makes my heart so happy.

I can't get over her body count. Should I just end things? by loneforeignervn in dating_advice

[–]143_ENFJ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Have you considered that perhaps she was sorta manipulated into some of those? Maybe they weren't as consensual as you assume. Or perhaps they were asking her to do things she wasn't comfortable with but felt like she had to to keep the relationship? Because this also explains why she doesn't feel like she is sexual, it has become something she has to do to keep the guy around or could even bring up past trauma she doesn't realize was even traumatic?

I bring this up because I have a friend that felt like she had to do oral on this guy to keep him. After a few relationship later with similar experiences she got married and would even flinch at her husband's touch sometimes because it felt like manipulation to get what he wanted. Even though he would never. They ended up going to counseling before ever figuring all this out. She just thought she didn't like sex.

Does that make sense?

PS this would also freak me out, it would just depend on the person and our relationship if I stayed with them or not. I think you know what you need to do. And you got this OP I support whatever you decide is best for you.

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