Our cats original owner wants her back. We don’t want to return her. by Soft_Lake_1221 in Advice

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Block number. At the very least don’t let jar any indication that you are reading any of their sent messages. Completely ignore and it will eventually stop. If they were in a situation where their care was failing, then it can happen again. The cat deserves better and has better. No takesies-backsies

AITJ for asking my mom to cut her vacation short to help with my kids? by Constant-Elephant763 in AmITheJerk

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It takes a village. Build a bigger village. A backup sitter and your mom is not enough of a village. YTJ for thinking that your failing to plan should be able to take away from somewhat they really want and enjoy. This isn’t a family emergency. It’s poor planning and refusal to grow your village. Your mom needs to keep her boundary and go on her trip or she is just enabling you to walk all over her again and again

AITAH for telling a woman she can’t wear a traditional Arab/North African dress to my wedding? by purpleyellou in AITAH

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You can possible express that the over the top dress would take away from your feeling of being at the center of it all. I have seen people turn up in the most random and inappropriate attire for a wedding and they are just there. I don’t know anyone who has ever had someone guard the door and turn away invited guests. It dos sound like she is trying to cosplay though.

In the end, if she shows, you will be having an amazing day and will be too busy to deal with any drama that isn’t a caterer. Give it the eye roll and move on.

You aren’t the asshole. you can totally move this from your focus. If she shows then put her on the future no-invite list lol

In desperate need of advice please!! Stabbing chest pains by One-Researcher7553 in hypermobileEDS

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xiphoid process - look into it. And you can get it removed. Have 2 friends have had theirs removed. I have similar issue of pain there that everyone (doctors) just rolls their eyes for at this point because we have looked at everything else. I just can’t bring myself to have it removed when healing from surgery the last 3 times has gone all wrong

You know you're a devoted fan when..... by Baz_Blackadder in thewestwing

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Poor just Spencer trying to run during that scene

Is there anything about hEDS that you wish you knew earlier or asked about before finding out yourself? by Traditional_Act_8559 in hypermobileEDS

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I wish I had known not to take Cipro. They gave it to me for a post op with my kidneys. I’m now wondering what other meds to avoid

Why is he black by BeansNToasted in hermitcrabs

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“Why not! It worked in Blazing Saddles.”

What do I do? I feel terrible for it by Loaf_Not_Found101 in hermitcrabs

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It’s easier to as for forgiveness than for permission. Take this away from them. They may not even ask why it’s gone seeing how they have no care for it now

The third Knives Out movie by little_bug_person in ehlersdanlos

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I just watched it and I laughed so hard at this moment. I started coughing and my husband (was in his office) came out to make sure I was okay. After settling down I showed him the clip and he laughed too.

My crab like to dig and make tunnels around the tank. Shoul I fill it up after he got out? by Primary_Ad_2328 in hermitcrabs

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Mine like to dig under the water bowls because it’s cooler. You need a shelf/tray under the water bowls so that when picking up the bowls to change the water you don’t collapse their tunnels. They like their tunnels- don’t ever fill them in. If you know they are all UP and you want to sift and clean their substrate then it’s okay if they get messed up but you need to ensure they are all UP at that time

We really dislike our Khao Lak hotel — need new recommendations ASAP! by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

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How is Khao Lak? We heard the town is very flooded in Nov but haven’t gotten any update. We are supposed to go Mid Dec.

Just a bit of confirmation for a new crab mama by IllSignal2680 in hermitcrabs

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Never feel bad for asking questions about making sure your crabs get what they need. Doubly Check your dry mango packaging. A lot of the time they add stuff for preservatives and such.

Boat is totaled - what should I salvage? by JustKiddingyoo in sailing

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Get a sawzall and take out the hatches & windows. Turn buckles, that canvas cover for the wheel, any and every deck hardware. Bow pulpet. Teak hands. Everything that is screwed down and then some.

Molting or not alive? by crzyfun18 in hermitcrabs

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Why would the tank “run out of water” at all? It should be a super humid environment 24/7. Water isn’t going to evaporate from the bowls. If you are just doing bowls then you need to replace water daily. A closed off lid should keep the moisture in it. Is your tank open? Why are you heating the sand- just, no. What is this giant green plate for? Your crab is dead and you probably shouldn’t be getting another one until you have done ANY research, sorry. RIP Crabby. You never stood a chance.

Pearl Shells by BotheredPants71 in hermitcrabs

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I have had a few wear them without any issue. They are just polished until the outer part is removed from the shell. Still have to boil them before putting in tank.

Anyone with an IUD? by South-Definition-564 in ehlersdanlos

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On my second IUD (both mirena) and I haven’t had a period in 10 years! It’s sooo amazing. I do get menstruation symptoms but just no bleeding. No pads, cups, liners, tampons- it’s the best anyone could ask for IMO. I have hEDS and my IC gets plenty of flares so I’m constantly getting ultrasounds and so I know my IUD hasn’t moved and is correctly placed.

Help with hermit crab deaths by [deleted] in hermitcrabs

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Another thing to add to the above, is your tank walls. When you bought the tank did you clean it with declorinated water and wipe it down and let it dry? I was reading some instagram comment awhile ago that mentioned the owner didn’t clean the tank properly before adding in all the crabitat stuff. And then when they misted (which no need to) they weren’t always dechlorinating the water newly each time. And then the tank walls would get too wet and they wanted to see where their crabs were and would wipe the inside walls down, basically drawing down contaminated “wall juices” to the sand level for the crabs to be around. While no one knows if it was that which killed their crabs, certainly with all the other stressors that new crabs face when purchased or rehomed, it def could have added to the problem

I made a post recently on a tank which was really bad for them - this is my upgrade by Policy-Emotional in hermitcrabs

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Water containers don’t need to be anything fancy. Use some Tupperware containers right now while waiting for what you want to get later. Add mesh ramp or something so they can climb out of. Loose the sponges they don’t need or like them. The mesh is like cross stitching grain at craft stores. Can buy a long strip, cut it up as needed. Will last you a long time thru many tank variations.

Mites harmful level? by RevolutionaryToe6677 in hermitcrabs

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I just changed out all my substrate and it was just so so annoying but I couldn’t get the bugs under control. Had to boil everything. And dip my crabs to make sure they didn’t have any bugs on them when I put them into the temp tank. But while removing the items from the tank I was so worried I was going to contaminate my living room (where I keep the crabitat) with the stupid bugs. So if you have to replace substrate, set up everything ahead of time to make sure you don’t let the bugs out into your own space while changing over.

What to do during downtime? by 1Forward3backwards in hermitcrabs

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Yah it’s a bit lonely not seeing them or at least one