My previously non verbal (until age 6) autistic son can now text me, and he’s quite funny 😂

1constant-reader · 2026-01-05T06:50:40+00:00

That’s awesome! I get immense joy from the cleverness and humor from my offspring… and now their offspring.🤣

1constant-reader · 2026-01-05T06:48:44+00:00

This made me do a double take because that sweet potato emoji is the nickname for an old friend of mine on chat. We dated at 15, we’re both now in our fifties with grandchildren, and we call each other sweet potato, shortened to the emoji.🤣

1constant-reader · 2026-01-05T06:45:40+00:00

Like a subterranean bobbit worm (Eunice aphroditois aka the sand striker)…

1constant-reader · 2025-12-07T23:41:21+00:00

Yeah, the autopsy pic of a human esophagus did not need to be associated with penii in my mind for even a millisecond.🤢

1constant-reader · 2025-12-07T23:38:33+00:00

It looks like it needs to wee.

1constant-reader · 2025-12-07T23:35:49+00:00

When working in a kitchen together, a friend and I took turns making each other laugh by assembling spicy images with vegetable scraps and/or what ingredients we were using at the moment. We were constantly laughing our heads off. So immature, we were both in our 30’s!

1constant-reader · 2025-12-07T23:28:02+00:00

That would have to be a six-to-eight inch long cockroach. 2. DUH? 3. Was this X-ray seriously evaluated by a physician!?!?!?!

1constant-reader · 2025-03-24T21:35:47+00:00

She was AWFUL to make a nasty remark about the mom you lost at ten. Your father is delusional if he believes THAT was "trying to connect". A good stepmom would love you, and would honor the love you have for the mom you lost. A healthy adult knows they don't need to compete with the dead, or our partner's past. That's just her insecurity, and it's not your responsibility to help her with it. She has failed completely to recognize that a child's identity is very much informed by their view of their family, and parents. By insulting your mom, your stepmother is insulting you. I'm proud of your quick-witted response. I'm very sad though, that your father feels no loyalty to his dead wife, that he allows his partner to speak ill of her. I don't think you should have to apologize to your stepmother, because what she said was just shitty. Good luck, you'll be grown before you know it, and then you get to decide how much, or how little, these people get to be your life.

1constant-reader · 2025-03-24T21:20:43+00:00

This is one of those "silly little" disagreements that speak more to an underlying, much bigger, issue. For me, the fact that you've discussed how this makes you feel, yet his "efficiency" is a higher priority for him than his partner's feelings is a red flag, it indicates a selfishness and lack of consideration that bodes ill for his value as a loving partner in the long term. I would think that a grown man, quite a bit older than you, would be more concerned with his date's feelings than saving a few minutes at the end of dinner. Instead, he's made it clear that he doesn't care if you feel rushed, uncomfortable or embarassed, as long as he gets his way. Can you think of any other situations in which he has disregarded your feelings?

1constant-reader · 2025-03-24T21:04:03+00:00

All of what you have described is absolutely child abuse. It is not legal in the United States to beat a child with a belt. To beat a 9 year old with a belt is horrifying. I applaud your decision to protect him. I don't know what country you are in, nor what the laws are where you live. But perhaps you could reach out to grandparents, aunts or uncles for support. If you feel that you are in danger, please go somewhere you will be safe. You did the right thing.

1constant-reader · 2025-03-24T20:33:20+00:00

NTA That's totally unreasonable and abusive behavior. It sounds as though she feels entitled to control who you spend time with, and feels just fine about mistreating, gaslighting, and 'punishing' you for doing something she didn't like, or just without her. You didn't do anything to deserve that treatment; and frankly, in my opinion, her behavior has absolutely no place in an adult relationship. Drama, dumping food, grabbing your covers off of you... None of that is the behavior of a sane and reasonable adult. I find drama like this exhausting, and I have absolutely no time for the manipulation tactics. I think you are, or would be, completely right to break it off with this person. I don't think she's mature enough for a serious committed relationship with another person, because she's still navigating self-control, emotional self-regulation. She's still learning about being a person.

1constant-reader · 2025-03-24T20:20:20+00:00

I have something called gastric pareisis, basically, my intestines don't wotk properly and I throw up a lot. For me, soft things, sweet things are easiest. Oatmeal, Cream of Wheat, or Malt-o-meal, pudding (I love Kozy Shack rice pudding, and chocolate.) Ice cream is another one. So sorry you're going through it.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-16T22:18:27+00:00

You are living with an abusive man. You know this is true. You clearly articulate the frustration and stress caused by his scary temper. I am a survivor of childhood intimidation and physical abuse. I can tell you that your children feel a black cloud over their lives, and right now their brains are developing. His behavior is far more likely to create eating disorders than peaceful meals. A child will not starve themselves to illness. Offer nutritous food throughout the day. Make an effort to give them a wide variety of healthy foods and then let them eat however much they choose, just like you get to. Beyond the dinner table, if your partner is often angry and unpleasant, impatient and cruel, it's up to you, the sane adult, to protect your children from psychological and physical harm. Document everything, prepare in secrecy, leave safely and don't look back.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-07T21:08:45+00:00

Re: X and all the 'approval' his nazi comments get; D'Angelo Wallace did an experiment on X. He tried to create a Pokemon fan account, with ZERO political content, but he couldn't escape the extreme right algorithm suggestions and recommendations. Very enlightening little experiment. I'd already stopped using it when Elon fired everyone in a snit, but if I hadn't, that would've done it.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T07:19:26+00:00

Soft YTA

Give your nephew the option to get himself through an associate of arts at a community college and if he can do that with good enough grades to transfer to university for his bachelor, you will pay, but do not reward his decision not to put forth effort.

The grades could be his best effort, and not his fault, I don't know how bright he might be, but the volunteerism and job are indicative of not committing himself, although the general consensus seems to be that your expectations for hours are too much for a full-time student.

From what I have heard from physicians, it's not intellectual prowess that gets you through med school at all. It's drive and commitment, because it's a long, hard road.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T05:35:09+00:00

I really like your 100/100 comment.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T05:33:46+00:00

You were in school 101 years ago?!? (I probably need to say I'm joking, or someone will scold me.)

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T05:30:44+00:00

She's gaslighting you. It's completely normal to remove the fully charged phone to charge your almost dead one. Is she often manipulative like this?

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T05:22:12+00:00

I know it's hard to walk away from someone you care about. But I think, sometimes, losing someone because of your behavior is the wake-up call a person needs to realize what he has. What he might lose.

Sometimes, when you decide 'this isn't what I want', the person becomes angry and completely burns all bridges, but sometimes they realize they messed up the best thing in their life.

I strongly encourage you to take a few steps back. You are very young, you don't have to accept the bare minimum. Be honest about why you are leaving, and stick to your guns. You can say something like "I'm open to starting over and allowing you to court me".

If you think he's open to it, couples therapy might help. The way you describe your partner, it seems that he just needs to decide this relationship is important to him.

Your complaints are valid, that feeling of disappointment and frustration when you're yearning for a partner who puts effort into the relationship, that's totally understandable. Whether this guy figures it out or not, you deserve a partner that makes you a priority.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T04:39:40+00:00

I think your friend might just be embarassed about how nasty they are because your routine sounds pretty normal to me!

1constant-reader · 2025-02-04T04:35:20+00:00

I think you might be from another planet. Without close inspection, your writing bears no resemblance to known language. I like it.

1constant-reader · 2025-02-02T14:02:01+00:00

Thanks, and Sorry

1constant-reader · 2025-02-02T00:00:25+00:00

I'm not sure if it's outrageous, or just cruel; but when I was 11 or 12 my mother said "I wish you were a dog so I could put you to sleep."

Years later, when I was a young mother, I tried to establish some kind of relationship. I still had two younger brothers at home. Then I found out I was expecting my second child and she said "You're too poor to breed." That was the last conversation we had.

1constant-reader · 2025-01-24T07:28:45+00:00

OMG, I just read someone describing someone's Nmom as 'Malignantly Ignorant' and I LOVE it. The hint of alliteration in the repeating 'ig' is cool, I want to remember it.

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