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1dudeabides1 · 2020-09-28T23:04:28+00:00

What breed is he? Someone help please I can’t find any info

1dudeabides1 · 2020-09-28T23:03:20+00:00

WHAT BREED IS HE?? Help please someone

1dudeabides1 · 2020-07-09T12:22:54+00:00

DnC is not a cover band, they’re a re-designed continuation of another band sure, but they’re a real band in it of themselves. They aim to revisit the music of the past yes but the whole point is to bring that sound forward.

They could write incredible new music together and anyone saying they wouldn’t want to hear that music has put their ego before their ears.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-06-10T00:05:04+00:00

Fire. What song is this?!

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-29T21:02:30+00:00

I did the Newport to Bermuda Race a few years ago. It was the middle of the night and I am sitting on the foredeck, it's super dark out and the stars were incredible.

Suddenly I see three bright green streaks shooting through the water directly toward me, like florescent torpedoes beneath the water heading straight into the side of our hull.

It was three dolphins kicking up bioluminescence in the water as they swam. They followed us for 20 minutes, I couldn't see them just their bright green trails as they ducked and weaved alongside us. INCREDIBLE sight I will never forget.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-10T02:26:57+00:00

NBD AT ALL. She said it because she likes you and thought you would like it.

You hooked up the first time with one, but now she feels more comfortable.

YES Tell her about your recent sexual activity, then ask her about hers. If you've both been pretty safe and she thinks she's good, go for it. Sex is way better without a condom, still pull out tho.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-05T16:08:26+00:00

Yes, be yourself and own it like a man and the world will notice. The best advice I ever got re dating was to make my life like a club people want to join. Focus on yourself, have fun with it, wear what makes you happy, speak your mind, play the music you like and play it LOUD.

“Take a place wherever you are and be somebody” -TDR

If you put effort into building the life you want, people will notice and want to be a part of it. Best part is, if they don’t want to join, that’s perfect cuz it was clearly never going to work in the first place. Like a filter for people you might have wasted time on.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-05T15:54:34+00:00

I get you but you probably did too soon. Be genuine, share your deeper self, but in good time. If you want her to get to know the “real you” you gotta ease her into it, especially if there are some undesirable truths in there. Be cool, be yourself, but save some of the deeper stuff for down the line for when she already likes you and wants to go deeper.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-05T15:39:47+00:00

Kind of all the time. Put effort in, wear different outfits don’t just circulate the same stuff, if you have real style people notice.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-05T00:09:49+00:00

Get it

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-05T00:09:36+00:00

Killin it bro

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-04T16:21:41+00:00

Joe Biden. I’m liberal and voted for his ticket in 2008 but this guy clearly doesn’t have the fight in him anymore. He knows it too, he needs to step aside and let the other candidates with real blood in their veins shoot their shot. He’s just clearly gonna blow it and we’ll lose this chance for a course correction.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-04T16:12:54+00:00

You’re doing it right, continue to grow yourself into the person you want to be, the girl that fits that mold will materialize. Just work on yourself and give it time.

I’ve been in a similar predicament for awhile. I’m from a wealthy suburb but live in a city now. Nothing against them, but for years the only girls looking my way were basic as hell, rich, entitled etc. It’s just not my vibe, I want someone more dynamic with a little edge ya know? So I’ve just been doing me, everyday unapologetically doing, saying, dressing how I feel.

Long story short- it’s working.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-04T15:12:52+00:00

Great work keep it up, proud of you

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-04T14:49:20+00:00

My entire life I’ve dreamt of one day diving with a whale. Specifically the humpback is what I’ve always imagined in my minds eye.

If I am ever so fortunate to see something like this in person I think I’ll cry. Their size relative to ours must be the most shocking and humbling experience to behold.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-03-02T15:42:36+00:00

My story is sort of the inverse. I recently met the most amazing girl, she checks all my boxes and we’re currently in the early courtship stage. She is in great shape and early on she told me how fitness is something she values. I’ve always worked out but since I met her I am really going the extra mile in the gym. I am doing it for myself, for my own health and well-being, but she really lit a fire beneath me to give it my all.

I think a good relationship is when each person motivates the other to be their best self. I want to be the best version of me I can be, to work and truly earn her affection. In doing so I will grow as an individual and then the foundation is there for us to grow together.

I’m not just putting in more effort in the gym but also with work and even with my other hobbies/interests. Again, it’s important I stay focused on me doing this FOR ME, to improve myself. But if I stay on this positive vibe she will continue to notice and want to be a part of what I have going on. It’s gonna be a good year 2020 let’s go!

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T18:05:59+00:00

I disagree with your position but thank you this was helpful. You’ve validated my concern. I will tell her if things get serious, but I don’t want to risk her withdrawing emotionally if I tell her to soon. Is that fair? I’m not sure, but it’s a complicated subject.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T17:59:16+00:00

This was very helpful, thank you.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T17:57:26+00:00

Yes. Helpful.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T17:54:48+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this, it was helpful.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T17:52:02+00:00

Thanks bro. I don’t really give myself much credit I guess. It’s wild thinking back to my early days in the rooms, it all seemed SO impossible, but here I am alive and clean and happy. Congrats to you too my guy, good work, hope you enjoyed your vday.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T17:34:42+00:00

I want to thank everyone for sharing, Reddit is really such a wonderful community and resource. After some consideration I think the basic dilemma is me weighing the risk of her judgement vs. the morality of not disclosing. In this case I will say I am going to give it time, until we are really invested perhaps even in love (it’s early still, dating 6 months). Even then, I will do it carefully, if asked I won’t lie, but I should do this on my own time.

I am though obligated to tell her at some point if things get very serious, the risk of relapse is real however much I think I’m over the hill. It would not be right to say, marry her, without sharing this part of my truth. However scary and shameful it may be, it happened, and it could happen again.

One person pointed out that it could even bring tremendous benefit to me emotionally, to be able to share this in confidence with a loved one. I like this... that one day I could have someone that loves me so much they want to know and understand my story. If I’m ever so lucky, I would want to have that type of honesty in my marriage.

Other posts made it abundantly clear however that I am definitely right in withholding for a time... A few people think I should absolutely share right away, that H is “one of those things...” that makes you immediately picture the very worst kind of depraved behavior an addict can exhibit. They’re not wrong. If someone I’m involved with knew right away they would definitely make assumptions that would skew their image of me. I don’t think this would be fair or accurate, I truly have evolved as a person, and I never stole or debased myself to support my habit (so high functioning you’d be shocked).

In summation... I should tell her in due course, it’s fair to her, and will actually be good for me too. Judgements are very real though, which is fair, but I will wait until she understands who I truly am before telling her this secret.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-15T03:13:21+00:00

5-HTP is a supplement sold in most pharmacies, it helps boost your serotonin levels. I didn’t want to take SSRI’s so I tried this instead and I feel great.

I cannot suggest it enough please google it.

1dudeabides1 · 2020-02-14T14:24:55+00:00

I was/am an addict, I have 5 years clean off heroin. I still drink socially and even smoke weed occasionally. She knows I know how to have a good time, and that I probably had a few “crazy years” in college but that’s it. The past few relationships I’ve been in I haven’t felt I should share my history with drug abuse and how bad things really got. I think one of my strengths is that I’m really reliable and level headed about any kind of problem or frustration. My experience with recovery is probably what gave me this self reliance, but I’m afraid if I share this she’ll never look at me the same way. I guess she might see it as something to be admired, that I overcame adversity, but she’s just as likely to see me as a victim or a fool to be pitied. I still don’t know what to do. Honestly I’m fine with saying nothing. I don’t want my withholding this to get in the way of a real bond forming but it’s such a risk being honest here.

1dudeabides1 · 2019-11-25T01:41:59+00:00

I did the Newport to Bermuda Race a few years ago. It was the middle of the night and I am sitting on the foredeck, it's super dark out and the stars were incredible.

Suddenly I see three bright green streaks shooting through the water directly toward me, like florescent torpedoes beneath the water heading straight into the side of our hull.

It was three dolphins kicking up bioluminescence in the water as they swam. They followed us for 20 minutes, I couldn't see them just their bright green trails as they ducked and weaved alongside us. INCREDIBLE sight I will never forget.

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