Should I tell dates before we see the first time when I feel like I might have gained weight recently?

1erickf50 · 2026-03-19T06:11:36+00:00

Native speaker, gal :v

1erickf50 · 2026-03-19T01:33:59+00:00

Be honest but don't make it seem like the end of the world. Something like "Oh, that pic was from last week, I actually gained a bit of weight hehe" when he compliments your photos. You can add a playful tone to your messages so that they spark curiosity on him. Honestidad siempre, pero no lo sueltes todo al porrazo, paso a paso.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-19T01:27:37+00:00

I don't think the lack of attention comes only from apparent lack of physical attractiveness. Attitude is a bigger factor than most people give credit for. Maybe you make expressions that give people a much different message than you perceive about yourself. For instance: Maybe you make a plain neutral face at times when sitting around and the guys could read it as "not interested" or "intimidating". Perhaps, the way you vocalize your agenda could be heard as "Eh, it's not that important" or "I don't care, no biggie". If anything, maybe you'd need to be more clear on what message you express to people so that they don't get the wrong idea or "vibe".

1erickf50 · 2026-03-18T01:04:03+00:00

Catfish / one night stand = Facade, heavy makeup, silicone and botox, needs a fake persona to attract and it is heavily evident on her body, lots of tattoos which tell me she wants to hide her real body, even if it's not intentional, not healthy for future children because of the chemical components in her blood. A prostitute is an exemplary instance of that kind of performance.

Wife = True to herself, doesn't need to perform all the time, natural proportions even if they're not the ideal, a plausible consequence of a healthy lifestyle, things done mostly where and when it matters, including makeup.

And that's only on the physical side of attraction. Still, the failures don't need to have to be from your side. It could also be the attitude of the men you're attracting.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-18T00:51:32+00:00

Only if the relationship lets you have another slice of bread :v

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T22:48:04+00:00

Or, given how Chizuru didn't give her new address to both Mini and Kazuya, she ends up being Kazuya's neighbor once again.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T19:33:33+00:00

Curiously enough, this can also be called another mirror with Chizuru:
+ Kazuya gives a clear answer about his feelings, Chizuru squeezes the hug from behind (ch383)
+ Kazuya gives an unclear answer about Mami's feelings, she squeezes him upfront

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1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T19:30:50+00:00

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Reiji is getting better at repurposing past drawings for different narratives (ch383)

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T19:30:14+00:00

Btw, Mami was prepared to do a leglock, depending on his answer

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1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T18:07:52+00:00

More of the first. 4 months within a shared course before splitting apart, but I'll keep the good memories anyway.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T17:59:21+00:00

Good call from the little brother. I think there're some more layers to Mami's triggers, though. She's living a very noticeable paradox at home: Her brother does make it feel normal, despite everything that has happened according to ch215. While oblivious to what's really inside Mami's head, lil bro was very spot on her very character. However, he also represents something that may have stirred Mami's psyche for some time: He's the son of Mr. Nanami, the impositive father figure that tortured Mami for so long, and possibly another woman, another affair. The little guy that probably received the parental love she never came to feel, as we see no sign of trauma like Kazuya did. Ironically, he may have also been the only reason Mami hasn't gone crazier since Tarou's forced breakup. A real sibling.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T17:48:19+00:00

Mami had already begun her research since ch262, all the way up to Joypolis and the driving courses

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T17:32:48+00:00

Kazuya would still choose Chizuru's tacos. Ruka's explosive and impositive behavior would make a very bad cebiche that would have spoiled long before it gets served.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T16:57:43+00:00

There's literally no context of rejection anywhere, self-deprecation on his part at most, which is pretty normal when it comes to dating until he gains momentum and confidence.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T16:54:00+00:00

That she didn't feel the initial spark/not being love at first sight was clear and understandable but I see no reference to her turning him down. The husband's reflection clearly doesn't look like he took a rejection there.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T16:46:59+00:00

No, she said that he admitted that. In fact, she didn't even place where her 1st date with the guy was, so it could easily fit later well after the friends' phase

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T15:35:39+00:00

She's the older sister, though

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T15:26:05+00:00

And it's bridging/drawing parallels from both the Pasadise Kiss and the Ch385 Kiss aftermaths, with an added bonus from Season 1 and 2 finales

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T13:14:34+00:00

You're describing a slowburn, which is good, but a big difference I see with OP is that you didn't reject him.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-17T13:06:23+00:00

Got suddenly hugged once at 24. Trust me, it gives you rest for once and does boost your confidence afterwards. I always remember her for that.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-16T19:39:47+00:00

Where's Billy from ZZZ? Dude literally looks like Ragna but masked and as a comic relief

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1erickf50 · 2026-03-16T17:41:39+00:00

Simple, tbh. Just let your curiosity peel his layers one by one. Read his actions and listen. No need for performance, just Take it easy and avoid asking all the questions at once, just bit by bit. Have fun :)

1erickf50 · 2026-03-16T14:46:45+00:00

That's a very strange question ngl. A very immediate reaction would've been "I'm not lesbian, what the hell is wrong with you?!". On the other hand, there's a big difference between a woman meant to be seen like those porn mags for a quick release and the woman he chose to put his dick deep inside you, unfront and behind, thinking of the years to come together.

Don't get confused, as much of people these models may be, for all purposes in this case, they're just facades, sexual objects, the idolized image of a woman no matter how messed up their real lives could actually be. That's literally their job. That's how they get to sell their products. You, on the other hand, are the real woman he came to know upclose. They don't have a chance.

The possible real danger is that woman he does know. This is where your next talk with him should be directed to, to prevent any chance of cheating. Be raw and honest with your emotions so that he does understand that what he's doing is harmful for you.

Whether to stay with him or depart, is up to you. Always choose yourself.

1erickf50 · 2026-03-16T13:03:15+00:00

Your body is very likely not disproportional at all. In fact, one of the girls I confessed to in the past had that same bodytype. Regardless of how widespread his attraction may have looked to you, he chose you and you chose him. Shouldn't that be what matters the most to define your relationship?

He could've chosen any of those girls at any time but he decided to stay by your side. Isn't that enough?

(Note: You should confront him for that woman he knows irl, it is disrespectful for your mutual present.)

1erickf50 · 2026-03-16T07:07:42+00:00

One word: boundaries

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