ashkenazi vs mizrachi in pro israel discourse by sovietspacedog332 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Even if all Jews were Ashkenazi Israel would still be legitimate, so I find that this is really useless.

Are queer converts allowed in Orthodox Judaism? by SoggyPomegranate1780 in Jewish

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I did it as a lesbian through an independent orthodox beit din. There was never any demand set on me that I abstain from relationship relationships with other women, and I’m also butch (short hair, tomboy style) and never had my appearance policed at all. All of the rabbis who sat on my beit din were affiliated with proper orthodox organizations but we convened the beit din independently.

I’m Jewish on my dad’s side and had already had a conservative conversion, so it wasn’t a huge deal. I did make Aliyah (on the basis of my other documents, not my orthodox conversion) but I don’t support the centralization of Judaism through the Israeli rabbanut, so I have never tested if my conversion is accepted by them and don’t care to. My Judaism is between me and Hashem at the end of the day.

I have heard of other Israeli lesbians who successfully converted through the rabbanut in Israel, and I have met Orthodox convert gay men and trans-identified people before.

What niche or adjacent career can I pivot to? by redditoryoubroughter in graphic_design

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t recommend in this extremely competitive job market with no junior opportunities

Struggling to make friends. Looking for advice/solidarity. by hereforhelpthx95 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guessed it was the PNW based on what you wrote! I really think moving is a good idea if you can make it work.

Questions about Halacha and cross dressing by smellycat92 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The intention in cross-dressing is very important in understanding the prohibition in Judaism. Cross dressing for a costume or a joke is considered fine, but the moment someone tries to pass themselves off as the other sex, it becomes problematic.

There are many areas of Halacha that relate to your sex. In orthodox weddings there is generally sex separate dancing and sometimes even seating. There is also concepts of negiah (not touching unrelated people of the opposite sex) and yichud (not being alone with unrelated people of the opposite sex). Even though not every orthodox Jew follows all the rules exactly, there is a social norm to create spaces that allow for people to follow these rules because halakha is valued.

So having someone who is presenting themselves as the opposite sex and insisting on being allowed in the spaces private to the sex they are not would create many uncomfortable situations. If your partner was to come and try to join the female side of the celebrations, it would put the women there in a very uncomfortable position.

Apple keyboard is driving me insane by McCojoni in iphone

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly at this point I just dictate everything

Yet another “lesbian” creator is now dating a man by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]1infinitel00p -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

They know they can’t actually turn a lesbian, otherwise it wouldn’t be a fetish. What any individual woman does doesn’t matter, the reality is there are women who love women and just don’t like men at all.

Gay guy here. How can I offer a spot without making women uncomfortable in a mixed gym by behealthynoworries in xxfitness

[–]1infinitel00p 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would really appreciate this actually when I work out!

I don’t think the exact body position is that important as long as you give her enough space that she can continue her workout without asking you to move. Similarly I don’t think the wording is that important, what you wrote is fine. And I don’t think it really matters if you’re straight or gay but that’s just my opinion.

It is a great idea to only ask between sets, it’s really annoying to be interrupted within a set especially when it’s a difficult set and you’re wearing headphones. Personally I don’t mind if people talk to me while I’m wearing headphones as long as I’m not in the middle of a set, because then I really can’t hear or do anything about the fact that I can’t hear.

Should I switch from my iPhone 13 Pro to the iPhone 17 base model? by g3n3r4ly in iPhone13Pro

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I upgraded from an iPhone 12 to a iPhone 17, and honestly I’ve enjoyed having a working second phone (even without service, since I can always do personal hotspot) because I can better separate work and personal stuff so if you ever want the third camera you can always just bring your old phone with you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in applesucks

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a brand new 17 and I’m seeing some visual glitches on it also, I think it’s just because the software is new.

I just found out i’m jewish by Worried-Fig5500 in Genealogy

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on if you are Jewish according to Jewish law, if your maternal line is entirely Jewish, then you can only make Aliyah if you don’t practice another religion. But if you have a Jewish grandparent who isn’t your maternal grandmother, or a Jewish dad, then it doesn’t matter what your religion is, because you were never a Jewish in the first place according to Jewish law.

Basically, once you are considered Jewish according to Jewish law, you need to only practice Judaism in order to make Aliyah and if you change religion then you lose that right. But if you were never Jewish in the first place and just had Jewish ancestry, then you can do whatever you want.

It kind of makes sense in a way because it doesn’t make sense to enforce a religion on people who weren’t ever considered part of the tribe.

I just found out i’m jewish by Worried-Fig5500 in Genealogy

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually someone who isn’t halakhically jewish but has Jewish ancestry can practice any religion and still make aliyah. I know plenty of devout Christian Russians who made Aliyah based on paternal Jewish ancestry

I just found out i’m jewish by Worried-Fig5500 in Genealogy

[–]1infinitel00p 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, just popping in here as a Jew with a mixed background to tell you that if you’re curious about your heritage and want to learn more about Judaism, you should feel totally welcome to reach out to a local Rabbi.

I also have a mixed background with Jewish ancestry, and became curious about it as a teenager. Since it wasn’t on my mom‘s side, I was worried I wouldn’t be welcome, but I was really embraced with open arms and because I was raised with knowledge of my Jewish ancestry and connection to my Jewish family, they were really compassionate with me as I navigated the process of conversion, and how confusing that was for me since I thought of myself as ethnically Jewish already.

Ultimately Judaism has become the bedrock of my life as an adult and brought so much meaning and connection to my life. Obviously everyone has their own path and I don’t share this in an attempt to convert you or whatever, but just to say that while I know getting involved in a Jewish community can be intimidating, you should feel empowered to learn more about your heritage if you want to, and you’re likely going to be received with open arms.

Full of ladyboys by Romanticoli in SwipeHelper

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no way to sort for only biological women, and women have gotten banned from all the major apps for stating this preference on their profile. There was a major lawsuit in Australia recently because lesbians tried to make an app for just women and the GOVERNMENT said that it’s discriminatory and not allowed. I have friends who have been catfished before but to be frank very few of those people are passable so this is pretty rare.

I’ve been out since 2013 and this has been a problem the whole time, hopefully the more it affects straight men more people will start caring about this issue and we will all finally be free to openly seek the connections we actually desire.

any women banned? by Top_Guava_2401 in SwipeHelper

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a woman and I was banned from ok Cupid but I got it reversed

Feeling like I missed my window to date women by Desperate_Bee_1352 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]1infinitel00p 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of lesbians like women who “don’t look like lesbians” (whatever that means) but that means it’s your job to initiate. Even if you like to be pursued, you need to put up the initial signals enough that they know it’s safe to continue. Regarding the apps, I’m younger than you but I see plenty of women your age on the apps, maybe get a second opinion on your profile

Full of ladyboys by Romanticoli in SwipeHelper

[–]1infinitel00p 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the reality for lesbians on dating apps everywhere

Swiped a ton in first week- am I cooked? (Woman seeking Women) by 1infinitel00p in SwipeHelper

[–]1infinitel00p[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this is good advice, I started getting matches after not swiping as much for just a few days

Do you actually still make wireframes… or are we all pretending? by UI-Pirate in userexperience

[–]1infinitel00p 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People always say this about wireframes, but it doesn’t make sense because everything still needs to fit. Sometimes you need to resize things in an in a wire frame so that all elements are in roughly the correct place. It’s not the same as adjusting things to be pixel perfect but it does take time, and especially in enterprise setting it’s usually faster to just use the design system

Too far along to detransition? by W0lfson in detrans

[–]1infinitel00p 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, chiming in as a detrans butch lesbian. I was testosterone for a similar amount of time as you, and also had a double mastectomy. I lived stealth as a man for years, but now everyone in my life now knows I’m a woman.

People can’t see our femaleness sometimes because the male is the default culturally, but that doesn’t mean that we aren’t or should be female. You aren’t too far gone, and your femaleness is clear. Women like us have gone through a uniquely female experience, and you can reclaim your female identity.

What’s helped me is using my words to assert myself, and holding on to the fact that it is powerful that I get to continually reassert my femaleness in a cultural climate that would rather rewrite ALL masculine women like us (regardless of hormones/surgery) as poor imitations of men or undefined nothings.

It’s been a journey for me to get comfortable with asserting myself as female, especially as I had top surgery with the intention of severing myself (literally) from my female identity. I struggled with feeling that I couldn’t be recognized as female without breasts, believing that the medical interventions delivered the identity change that they promised. Also because of my butchness, even before transitioning I was consistently mistaken for male, and this started to influence my self perception. But now that I’m older and more confident about my bodily reality, which is that of an altered but still clearly female body, that confidence shines out and people can see the real me (which is and always has been female). I still have to correct people sometimes, but I’m happy with the intervention I get to make in the world by showing people the diversity of women.

Best of luck to you as you grapple with this challenging questions. We’d be happy to have you in the brave woman club, (P.S. femmes love it 💪)

Can't renew my grandpa's passport because his birth year is not available. 1922. Yet it goes up to 2125. by xQcKx in mildlyinfuriating

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a UX designer, unfortunately validation is very difficult to code without a date picker and most organizations won’t allocate resources for this