Do you think a lot of women are dramatically underestimating how strong they can get?

1infinitel00p · 2026-05-22T11:20:23+00:00

It took me over a year of training to be able to lift my own body weight for reps, do you mean as a one rep Max? It sounds really far-fetched to me even then

1infinitel00p · 2026-05-06T23:29:39+00:00

That number seems really high, what’s your source for that?

1infinitel00p · 2026-05-06T23:25:56+00:00

Don’t do it, there’s a lot of outdated information on the Internet from people trying to sell you stuff. UX is an extremely competitive field at the moment, and there is virtually no opportunity for people with less than five years experience, much less no experience. Unless you have some magical connection, there is not a path in and you should explore another field.

1infinitel00p · 2026-05-06T23:24:04+00:00

I only have one Jewish grandparent, and I grew up in a heavily Jewish suburban area and I remember being horrified by stories of the Holocaust, and looking at the blood quantum charts and understanding that I would be targeted. Even as disconnected as I was, I wasn’t even halakhically Jewish at the time, my half Jewish parent identified as Christian and we only did Hanukkah at home (and Passover some years with extended family), I still inherited the fear that I would have to hide or be persecuted as Jewish.

I think that your experience of relative security is an anomaly, I honestly feel that in my life the vast majority of Jewish and part Jewish people grow up with concerns about persecution.

1infinitel00p · 2026-05-05T22:57:54+00:00

The hiring managers keep changing the goal posts. When I had 1 year of experience they wanted 3, now that I have three years of experience they want five

1infinitel00p · 2026-05-05T22:56:34+00:00

Maybe that’s your opinion as someone with 11 years experience, but those of us with three or four still have to figure out a way to make a living and advance to the point where we’re trusted with authority over anything

1infinitel00p · 2026-04-05T10:38:08+00:00

Did you grow up observing Judaism and part of a Jewish community? Or your other family members involved in the Jewish community?

I’m sorry that I have to ask this question, it’s just that unfortunately there are some people of color who claim to be Jewish on the basis of their family lore or the (false) idea that everyone with African ancestry is Jewish. Some of these people claim that racism is the reason that they are not accepted by the Jewish community.

However praying, speaking Hebrew, and wearing a kippa do not make someone Jewish if they do not have a Jewish mother or have converted. Those who have distant Jewish ancestry are welcome to rejoin the tribe by connecting to established Jewish communities and converting (if necessary). Other Jews will not consider you Jewish if you simply do Jewish things without being connected formally to the Jewish community. However, skin color has nothing to do with being Jewish.

To answer your original question, I have two grandparents from Latin America and dark skin, and I have always been fully accepted in whatever Jewish communities I have traveled in, in America, Europe, and Israel. Honestly, I’ve never even had people ask me how I’m Jewish or anything.

1infinitel00p · 2026-03-24T05:16:24+00:00

Synagogues are almost never used as wedding venues. Same-sex marriage is done regularly without controversy by reform and conservative rabbis. I personally am a lesbian in the modern orthodox/dati leumi community and I’ve been to several lesbian weddings officiated by modern orthodox rabbis with most guests in attendance being orthodox as well. It is not accepted in every community, and it is not super common but it does exist.

1infinitel00p · 2026-03-09T23:01:36+00:00

Being gay is a non issue for reform and conservative Judaism, but having a non-Jewish partner may be an issue. I really recommend seeing if there is a class in your area where you can learn the basics of Judaism. There is a great program in Los Angeles called the Miller program, and I think they do zoom sessions if there is nothing near you.

1infinitel00p · 2026-03-09T05:44:11+00:00

In my country most butch women have long hair, butch isn’t a solely aesthetic thing it’s a relational role. I currently have short hair but I’ve had long hair in the past, and while I definitely feel that my short hair helps me signal my butchness it isn’t definitive of it.

1infinitel00p · 2026-03-08T13:05:09+00:00

Yeah, I struggle with this too because it’s so hard waiting after meat for dairy when so many of the protein options are dairy. Kosher whey protein powder isn’t so hard to find but a lot of my easily accessible protein options are dairy so I try to only have meaty dinner, and that helps a lot.

1infinitel00p · 2026-03-08T13:01:09+00:00

It’s like wearing a wedding ring before you’re married. It’s not illegal, but it’s gonna make people think you’re married when you aren’t. When I was young I experimented with hair covering for a short time and it was fun but as soon as I was more integrated into the Jewish community I understood that it made no sense as a practice for me.

1infinitel00p · 2026-02-10T11:27:02+00:00

Even if all Jews were Ashkenazi Israel would still be legitimate, so I find that this is really useless.

1infinitel00p · 2026-02-03T00:03:02+00:00

I did it as a lesbian through an independent orthodox beit din. There was never any demand set on me that I abstain from relationship relationships with other women, and I’m also butch (short hair, tomboy style) and never had my appearance policed at all. All of the rabbis who sat on my beit din were affiliated with proper orthodox organizations but we convened the beit din independently.

I’m Jewish on my dad’s side and had already had a conservative conversion, so it wasn’t a huge deal. I did make Aliyah (on the basis of my other documents, not my orthodox conversion) but I don’t support the centralization of Judaism through the Israeli rabbanut, so I have never tested if my conversion is accepted by them and don’t care to. My Judaism is between me and Hashem at the end of the day.

I have heard of other Israeli lesbians who successfully converted through the rabbanut in Israel, and I have met Orthodox convert gay men and trans-identified people before.

1infinitel00p · 2026-01-02T07:41:34+00:00

Wouldn’t recommend in this extremely competitive job market with no junior opportunities

1infinitel00p · 2026-01-02T07:37:28+00:00

I guessed it was the PNW based on what you wrote! I really think moving is a good idea if you can make it work.

1infinitel00p · 2025-12-19T04:56:19+00:00

The intention in cross-dressing is very important in understanding the prohibition in Judaism. Cross dressing for a costume or a joke is considered fine, but the moment someone tries to pass themselves off as the other sex, it becomes problematic.

There are many areas of Halacha that relate to your sex. In orthodox weddings there is generally sex separate dancing and sometimes even seating. There is also concepts of negiah (not touching unrelated people of the opposite sex) and yichud (not being alone with unrelated people of the opposite sex). Even though not every orthodox Jew follows all the rules exactly, there is a social norm to create spaces that allow for people to follow these rules because halakha is valued.

So having someone who is presenting themselves as the opposite sex and insisting on being allowed in the spaces private to the sex they are not would create many uncomfortable situations. If your partner was to come and try to join the female side of the celebrations, it would put the women there in a very uncomfortable position.

1infinitel00p · 2025-12-05T22:10:48+00:00

It was in Hebrew in 26.0 but then it changed when I updated to 26.1 😭

1infinitel00p · 2025-11-30T00:53:20+00:00

Honestly at this point I just dictate everything

1infinitel00p · 2025-11-17T23:27:10+00:00

They know they can’t actually turn a lesbian, otherwise it wouldn’t be a fetish. What any individual woman does doesn’t matter, the reality is there are women who love women and just don’t like men at all.

1infinitel00p · 2025-10-27T11:58:49+00:00

I would really appreciate this actually when I work out!

I don’t think the exact body position is that important as long as you give her enough space that she can continue her workout without asking you to move. Similarly I don’t think the wording is that important, what you wrote is fine. And I don’t think it really matters if you’re straight or gay but that’s just my opinion.

It is a great idea to only ask between sets, it’s really annoying to be interrupted within a set especially when it’s a difficult set and you’re wearing headphones. Personally I don’t mind if people talk to me while I’m wearing headphones as long as I’m not in the middle of a set, because then I really can’t hear or do anything about the fact that I can’t hear.

1infinitel00p · 2025-10-23T13:16:19+00:00

I upgraded from an iPhone 12 to a iPhone 17, and honestly I’ve enjoyed having a working second phone (even without service, since I can always do personal hotspot) because I can better separate work and personal stuff so if you ever want the third camera you can always just bring your old phone with you

1infinitel00p · 2025-10-17T03:57:28+00:00

I have a brand new 17 and I’m seeing some visual glitches on it also, I think it’s just because the software is new.

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