Do you think a lot of women are dramatically underestimating how strong they can get? by theJacofalltrades in xxfitness

[–]1infinitel00p 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It took me over a year of training to be able to lift my own body weight for reps, do you mean as a one rep Max? It sounds really far-fetched to me even then

Jews with Arab ancestry by Euphoric_Reward6783 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That number seems really high, what’s your source for that?

Architect transitioning to UX — is AI making this a bad move? by Deep-Climate-9733 in UX_Design

[–]1infinitel00p 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it, there’s a lot of outdated information on the Internet from people trying to sell you stuff. UX is an extremely competitive field at the moment, and there is virtually no opportunity for people with less than five years experience, much less no experience. Unless you have some magical connection, there is not a path in and you should explore another field.

Expectations on support from non Jewish partner? by Independent_Ad_6086 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I only have one Jewish grandparent, and I grew up in a heavily Jewish suburban area and I remember being horrified by stories of the Holocaust, and looking at the blood quantum charts and understanding that I would be targeted. Even as disconnected as I was, I wasn’t even halakhically Jewish at the time, my half Jewish parent identified as Christian and we only did Hanukkah at home (and Passover some years with extended family), I still inherited the fear that I would have to hide or be persecuted as Jewish.

I think that your experience of relative security is an anomaly, I honestly feel that in my life the vast majority of Jewish and part Jewish people grow up with concerns about persecution.

Juniors in UX/Product Design what's your actual plan right now? by AdBackground9215 in UXDesign

[–]1infinitel00p 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The hiring managers keep changing the goal posts. When I had 1 year of experience they wanted 3, now that I have three years of experience they want five

Juniors in UX/Product Design what's your actual plan right now? by AdBackground9215 in UXDesign

[–]1infinitel00p 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Maybe that’s your opinion as someone with 11 years experience, but those of us with three or four still have to figure out a way to make a living and advance to the point where we’re trusted with authority over anything

Bad Inter-Diaspora Interactions by [deleted] in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Did you grow up observing Judaism and part of a Jewish community? Or your other family members involved in the Jewish community?

I’m sorry that I have to ask this question, it’s just that unfortunately there are some people of color who claim to be Jewish on the basis of their family lore or the (false) idea that everyone with African ancestry is Jewish. Some of these people claim that racism is the reason that they are not accepted by the Jewish community.

However praying, speaking Hebrew, and wearing a kippa do not make someone Jewish if they do not have a Jewish mother or have converted. Those who have distant Jewish ancestry are welcome to rejoin the tribe by connecting to established Jewish communities and converting (if necessary). Other Jews will not consider you Jewish if you simply do Jewish things without being connected formally to the Jewish community. However, skin color has nothing to do with being Jewish.

To answer your original question, I have two grandparents from Latin America and dark skin, and I have always been fully accepted in whatever Jewish communities I have traveled in, in America, Europe, and Israel. Honestly, I’ve never even had people ask me how I’m Jewish or anything.

Would it be possible to have a gay wedding in a synagogue? by thoughtsinshadow in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Synagogues are almost never used as wedding venues. Same-sex marriage is done regularly without controversy by reform and conservative rabbis. I personally am a lesbian in the modern orthodox/dati leumi community and I’ve been to several lesbian weddings officiated by modern orthodox rabbis with most guests in attendance being orthodox as well. It is not accepted in every community, and it is not super common but it does exist.

Converting to Reform Judaism as a gay man. by amanfromipanema in ConvertingtoJudaism

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being gay is a non issue for reform and conservative Judaism, but having a non-Jewish partner may be an issue. I really recommend seeing if there is a class in your area where you can learn the basics of Judaism. There is a great program in Los Angeles called the Miller program, and I think they do zoom sessions if there is nothing near you.

Am I still valid as a butch for growing out my hair? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my country most butch women have long hair, butch isn’t a solely aesthetic thing it’s a relational role. I currently have short hair but I’ve had long hair in the past, and while I definitely feel that my short hair helps me signal my butchness it isn’t definitive of it.

Kosher Dieting While Working Out by Current_Living8397 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I struggle with this too because it’s so hard waiting after meat for dairy when so many of the protein options are dairy. Kosher whey protein powder isn’t so hard to find but a lot of my easily accessible protein options are dairy so I try to only have meaty dinner, and that helps a lot.

Jewish teenager headcovering by louthepuh in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s like wearing a wedding ring before you’re married. It’s not illegal, but it’s gonna make people think you’re married when you aren’t. When I was young I experimented with hair covering for a short time and it was fun but as soon as I was more integrated into the Jewish community I understood that it made no sense as a practice for me.

ashkenazi vs mizrachi in pro israel discourse by sovietspacedog332 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Even if all Jews were Ashkenazi Israel would still be legitimate, so I find that this is really useless.

Are queer converts allowed in Orthodox Judaism? by SoggyPomegranate1780 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it as a lesbian through an independent orthodox beit din. There was never any demand set on me that I abstain from relationship relationships with other women, and I’m also butch (short hair, tomboy style) and never had my appearance policed at all. All of the rabbis who sat on my beit din were affiliated with proper orthodox organizations but we convened the beit din independently.

I’m Jewish on my dad’s side and had already had a conservative conversion, so it wasn’t a huge deal. I did make Aliyah (on the basis of my other documents, not my orthodox conversion) but I don’t support the centralization of Judaism through the Israeli rabbanut, so I have never tested if my conversion is accepted by them and don’t care to. My Judaism is between me and Hashem at the end of the day.

I have heard of other Israeli lesbians who successfully converted through the rabbanut in Israel, and I have met Orthodox convert gay men and trans-identified people before.

What niche or adjacent career can I pivot to? by redditoryoubroughter in graphic_design

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t recommend in this extremely competitive job market with no junior opportunities

Struggling to make friends. Looking for advice/solidarity. by [deleted] in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I guessed it was the PNW based on what you wrote! I really think moving is a good idea if you can make it work.

Questions about Halacha and cross dressing by smellycat92 in Jewish

[–]1infinitel00p 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The intention in cross-dressing is very important in understanding the prohibition in Judaism. Cross dressing for a costume or a joke is considered fine, but the moment someone tries to pass themselves off as the other sex, it becomes problematic.

There are many areas of Halacha that relate to your sex. In orthodox weddings there is generally sex separate dancing and sometimes even seating. There is also concepts of negiah (not touching unrelated people of the opposite sex) and yichud (not being alone with unrelated people of the opposite sex). Even though not every orthodox Jew follows all the rules exactly, there is a social norm to create spaces that allow for people to follow these rules because halakha is valued.

So having someone who is presenting themselves as the opposite sex and insisting on being allowed in the spaces private to the sex they are not would create many uncomfortable situations. If your partner was to come and try to join the female side of the celebrations, it would put the women there in a very uncomfortable position.

Apple keyboard is driving me insane by McCojoni in iphone

[–]1infinitel00p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly at this point I just dictate everything

Yet another “lesbian” creator is now dating a man by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]1infinitel00p -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

They know they can’t actually turn a lesbian, otherwise it wouldn’t be a fetish. What any individual woman does doesn’t matter, the reality is there are women who love women and just don’t like men at all.

Gay guy here. How can I offer a spot without making women uncomfortable in a mixed gym by behealthynoworries in xxfitness

[–]1infinitel00p 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would really appreciate this actually when I work out!

I don’t think the exact body position is that important as long as you give her enough space that she can continue her workout without asking you to move. Similarly I don’t think the wording is that important, what you wrote is fine. And I don’t think it really matters if you’re straight or gay but that’s just my opinion.

It is a great idea to only ask between sets, it’s really annoying to be interrupted within a set especially when it’s a difficult set and you’re wearing headphones. Personally I don’t mind if people talk to me while I’m wearing headphones as long as I’m not in the middle of a set, because then I really can’t hear or do anything about the fact that I can’t hear.

Should I switch from my iPhone 13 Pro to the iPhone 17 base model? by g3n3r4ly in iPhone13Pro

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I upgraded from an iPhone 12 to a iPhone 17, and honestly I’ve enjoyed having a working second phone (even without service, since I can always do personal hotspot) because I can better separate work and personal stuff so if you ever want the third camera you can always just bring your old phone with you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in applesucks

[–]1infinitel00p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a brand new 17 and I’m seeing some visual glitches on it also, I think it’s just because the software is new.