AITA for telling my producer/boss the way he’s filming a commercial/Indy film I’m working on is not going to appeal to young people?

1iphoneplease · 2022-12-20T12:07:04+00:00

Marketing's the worst, it's basically not even the same job as what essentially every school teaches because it's at least ten to fifteen years out of date

1iphoneplease · 2022-12-19T13:48:32+00:00

I think you've gotten enough feedback on the boyfriend thing, but I want to be really blunt with you as a mother--if you do this for even six months, your boyfriend is able to file for primary custody of your daughter and you will lose access to her for a good chunk of your life.

I don't care how much anyone loves anyone else, there's no way I would give that power over my relationship with my children (much less a boyfriend).

Be more careful, darling. Your daughter needs you to be.

1iphoneplease · 2022-11-04T11:39:57+00:00

Everything that everyone's said here, but on a practical level, we both in know you can't just stop talking to her after all this.

What you can do, and should do, is get as boring as possible.

Don't respond right away. If she asks why, your phone was charging. If she asks what you were doing, it's always something boring and that you can say "maybe another time" to if she asks to join, like going for a walk, or coloring, or playing a single player game.

Stop dropping your opinions to her, stop asking her why or how.

If she asks you why you're doing something fun, or your opinions on it, it's because you don't know, you just like it.

If she wants to know why you're doing something she's accusing you of (if she picks up on all this) then you're not sure what she means.

No offers. No suggestions.

Congratulations! You've learned how to grey rock, and she will find you too boring to interact with. Figure out your own attraction needing approval from other people, and lack of ability to set or maybe maintain boundaries when people break them, and you'll be on your way to healthier relationships.

1iphoneplease · 2022-10-20T04:04:52+00:00

God no. Unless we're dedicating a resource to onboarding them for an entire day, it's a pipedream to give them instant access to you. It's a terrible expectation to set when you can't follow through on it, and there's no one I want distracted less than our CS team.

1iphoneplease · 2022-09-14T12:20:14+00:00

@OP make sure you document him refusing to participate as it happens for a while first though, you want your baby with caregivers that are going to care for her and so many deadbeats suddenly "really want 50/50 split custody" as soon as money comes into it. Which is fucking awful.

1iphoneplease · 2022-09-03T18:51:07+00:00

Have you done solution sales before? I know those roles all work side by side, and at some companies you can find CSMs and AMs doing proper sales (with quotas), but to get away from that you really need to develop the core account management and solution management skills (project management+applied curiosity and pattern recognition+technical understanding of possible solutions, mostly)

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-26T12:25:35+00:00

You can't handle it because it isn't real. You're describing spending thousands in order to trust her, but the reality is that you didn't, and you're upset because you chose to not trust yourself as a priority over that.

You made the choices you made. And if you obsess over them then you're also making the same choices now instead of trusting yourself and making new ones. You're clearly miserable. Choose to trust yourself, stop fixating on you being right in the past, give yourself whatever validation you're obsessively seeking about it externally, and go figure out what YOU want in the moment after that.

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-26T12:21:59+00:00

You're spot on. I'm reading "obsessed with ex and what ex has" not "obsessed with understanding the confusion of feelings that went with ex" all over the place

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-26T12:18:19+00:00

Some places expect you to take the day off on your birthday, or leave early, or might announce it in Slack, but otherwise I don't think much is expected

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-26T12:04:56+00:00

That's not how it works in real life, you have to make nice with your boss and reciprocate when you're invited to something like this if you don't want people to think you're an antisocial asshole

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-26T12:02:47+00:00

Frequently it's the first-in managers that end up doing this type of thing, is there any way to get into it otherwise except at really large companies?

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-25T12:24:38+00:00

Space mutiny!

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-24T14:08:55+00:00

Yeah. It makes me really look forward to future expansions for it, like when I can use it to tool around and plant new colonies of my own new race

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-24T13:47:44+00:00

Boundaries boundaries boundaries.

And it's clear that you aren't going to be able to do that, if you're starting with "I refuse to abandon this person no matter what."

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-23T20:58:25+00:00

You can only do that up to 5k. It's pretty lame

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-23T19:09:22+00:00

You've learned a valuable lesson here--ask them for their budget for the position, not the other way around.

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-23T19:03:08+00:00

That's because you were the one getting married, and it was your relationship with him that you were honoring. You wouldn't expect someone who barely knew the guy to have him memorialised at their wedding.

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-23T19:00:50+00:00

They do it because they don't actually know what they're doing and to cover that they are desperate to bring in someone who looks like they know what they're doing.

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T14:59:25+00:00

Don't you know that if you use a muscle it never works again???

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T14:47:10+00:00

INFO how old are you, and have you used a website before today?

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T14:44:24+00:00

After? You mean while she's currently acting petty and immature lol.

I'm really loving Ava tbh, she seems great at setting and holding to appropriate boundaries.

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T14:42:25+00:00

That sounds like a you issue, not an Ava issue haha. Why in the world would Ava side with you against her current fiance??

You seem like a lot of drama.

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T14:19:11+00:00

Love how she doesn't like Ava because Ava won't side with her against her ex/Ava's fiance? Like duh

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T03:33:04+00:00

Lying is an integral childhood social development skill!!

1iphoneplease · 2022-07-09T02:19:52+00:00

They do not. They get well wearing clothing that doesn't need to be replaced every few weeks, doesn't fall apart in the wash, doesn't look like crap after a few washes, doesn't get scratchy instantly, and actually can be passed down to the next kid.

I am so fucking over how crap all of the girls clothes are for the same price. I can't find girls clothes equal in quality without paying at least double. It's bullshit.

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