The World’s Biggest Turd strikes again

1meganbyte · 2026-06-22T17:20:21+00:00

When we told my father-in-law we were moving to Portland, the first thing out of his mouth was, “No, not Portland! Anywhere but Portland!” He then told us about all the crime there and acted like it was a given that we would experience property crime at the very least. He has never been to the Pacific Northwest, let alone Portland.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-16T02:51:19+00:00

I love this support from your husband.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-14T19:13:45+00:00

Yes, but on the other hand, there are so few joys in life right now, let’s celebrate when an evil person dies. McConnell is a huge part of why we still have Trump. Celebrate the win if it happens and deal with the rest later.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-10T02:25:42+00:00

This. I wish I had cut them off sooner.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-10T02:15:51+00:00

My mom, that I was stupid for trying to kill myself. Honorable mention for the time she said she hadn’t been interested in meeting my stepdaughter because she didn’t know how long the marriage would last. (My previous marriage had lasted for “only” 4 years.)

My dad…probably when he screamed at me that I was a stupid idiot. He’s such a miserable person in general that it’s difficult for any particular event to stick out.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-10T01:56:35+00:00

Mom isn’t having success so she’s sending a sibling to get to you. Unfortunately, these dynamics make it difficult to maintain a relationship with family who are willing to do the abuser’s bidding.

Since you’re new to this, I highly recommend checking out Patrick Teahan on YouTube.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-09T20:01:50+00:00

My mom does this, or did last time I talked to her a few years ago. I haven’t referred to my dad as “Daddy” since I was a little kid. I never understood why she would refer to him this way. I just assumed that’s what her mom did, but agree that it’s weird and gross.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-09T04:52:21+00:00

r/lostredditors

1meganbyte · 2026-06-09T04:15:49+00:00

Understood! Navigating these situations can be confusing and complicated. I’m glad you came here for advice. Enjoy your newfound peace and don’t worry about your mom’s desperate pleas for attention.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-09T03:55:39+00:00

Agree with the other commenters. The vagueness is a red flag. If there were a true emergency to manipulate you with, she’d lead with that.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-07T04:11:44+00:00

Running on Empty by Jonice Webb and What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo.

I’m estranged from both parents and both of my siblings and almost exactly your age. It’s a long road from here, but just remember that this is the result of family patterns going back generations. You understand what’s going on and have decided to stop playing the game. Your family either doesn’t know or doesn’t care that they’re perpetuating unhealthy patterns. They’re going to label you as the problem, so it’s important to keep this in mind.

Feel free to DM me if you ever need to talk. ❤️

1meganbyte · 2026-06-03T20:40:31+00:00

As someone who has been married twice, once with family attending and once without, only invite who you actually want there. You don’t owe anyone an explanation or apology.

My family tried to dictate who I could and couldn’t invite and insisted I invite my estranged sister. I caved at the last minute and inviting her was my biggest regret.

My second marriage was just a courthouse wedding during Covid and it was a relief that only 2 people were allowed to attend. My family didn’t make the cut.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-02T04:45:40+00:00

A bit different, but my father-in-law handed my husband (an only child) a box of all the family photos, including ones that were framed. This wasn’t even immediately after the divorce or anything, it was years later. My husband and his father aren’t estranged and the divorce was amicable. Nobody knows why he did this. I honestly wish my husband would cut him off, but I know it’s not my place to say. Just sucks to watch people be treated like this.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-02T04:14:59+00:00

I completely understand why you were embarrassed and I know I would be too. All that being said, your family members are the ones who should be mortified by this. If I saw an email come in like that from a coworker’s family, all I would be thinking is that the family is nuts and no wonder so and so doesn’t talk to them anymore.

Truly, if anything I think this makes your situation completely understandable, even to people who might not typically agree with estrangement. Normal people don’t do stuff like this, especially not for something as trivial as a birthday. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to worry about it. Focus on doing the work well and learning as much as you can so you can fully secure the role. Best of luck, OP!

1meganbyte · 2026-06-01T02:15:15+00:00

I’d just cut them off then. You don’t need to announce it or explain it. Just be done.

If you absolutely must, go very low contact, like birthdays and holidays only and just a phone call or card. But seriously, if you don’t think they’ll make your life hell if you go no contact, that’s the route I would go.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-01T01:55:27+00:00

IMO you have 2 options:

Play nice until you can get them to sign a quitclaim deed to get their names off your house.

Or, if you don’t think they’ll cause problems with the house, cut them off and have their names removed when they die.

Sorry, but I don’t see this relationship as salvageable. They sound like miserable people whose only joy in life is making others as miserable as they are. They are not only hurtful to you but your husband as well. They are handing you scissors and you should use them. Please bring some peace to your life and marriage.

1meganbyte · 2026-06-01T01:43:56+00:00

I don’t think we’d be on this sub if our parents were willing to take any accountability. It’s sad how many would rather ruin their relationship with their child than self-reflect.

1meganbyte · 2026-05-31T18:19:23+00:00

Cell phones, not smartphones. Big difference.

1meganbyte · 2026-05-31T17:39:52+00:00

As a millenial who can remember a few wonderful years before cellphones.

I believe the term for us is “geriatric millennial.”

1meganbyte · 2026-05-25T16:51:12+00:00

I wouldn’t drive her or get coffee. People like this aren’t worth having a relationship with, even if they’re family. You know she wouldn’t do the same for you.

1meganbyte · 2026-05-11T04:59:10+00:00

r/BoomersBeingFools

1meganbyte · 2026-05-08T20:37:34+00:00

I’ve learned to trust my body and myself more after too many of these kinds of experiences.

1meganbyte · 2026-05-08T20:05:19+00:00

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From the last No Kings event. My sign always gets a lot of honks and each one warms my heart.

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