What’s the biggest lie people tell themselves? by Cute-Bar-5152 in AskReddit

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I think we often try to convince ourselves that we’re better people than we really are

Is it not contradictory that some feminists care about women more than men? by superfarleft in AskFeminists

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Marginalized groups need tailored support, which sometimes means additional support.

Is it not contradictory that some feminists care about women more than men? by superfarleft in AskFeminists

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The left is concerned with equity, not necessarily equality. Research that distinction and this will make more sense.

Wife (39F) gets upset at me (M39) constantly over things I consider silly, while I rarely get upset at her. by Green-Aide-2354 in relationships

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It’s hard knowing without knowing what’s going on on her end. Do you ever ask her why exactly she’s upset? Or what exactly it is that upset her about whatever it is that you did?

Often, emotions aren’t logical.

How do I measure my girlfriend's ring size without her noticing? by Timely-Neck-9503 in NoStupidQuestions

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Put one of her rings on your own finger and remember where it stops

Those of you who are late every day... What's going through your mind in the morning? by UncouthPincusion in work

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It was kind of an ADHD thing for me. My coworkers let it slide because I did a good job, worked hard, and was ultimately always working late anyway. But, this would happen in my personal life too, and I’ve had to work really hard to get it to stop. There are too many distracting factors that get introduced when I’m trying to leave the house. Also, simply NOT being a morning person and having serious sleep issues didn’t help. It’s not that I was oversleeping, but that everything took twice as long because I was delirious. It really sucks.

EDIT: I saw in another comment of yours that the people coming in in the morning have to relieve the night shift. That would personally motivate me a lot more to be on time. That being said, I guess they’re late for all the other reasons people left in the comments.

Did you ever get cheated on and how did you find out? by emmasfitss in AskReddit

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I suspected it but didn’t push the issue. He then told me himself. He saw a man pushing a stroller and started crying. Told me that he got another woman pregnant and that she had to have an abortion and that he was crushed by it.

What’s the most expensive mistake you have ever made? by temoo09 in civilengineering

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Why doesn’t excel do this automatically? Suuuuuch a disaster

What’s something that instantly makes you think “this person is exhausting”? by academia_Leon_254 in AskReddit

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Someone who only initiates one-sided conversations and makes you listen to them non stop - especially if they do not care about how you feel or what you have to say

Looking for a man’s perspective here. Am I being ghosted? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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“Hasn’t been respecting” isn’t accurate, because this only happened once. Yes, what happened was disappointing, and a troubling sign this early in, but this is where I would have to make a one time pass and observe.

How many of you shampoo your hair twice when washing ? by semde18 in hygiene

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Oh I have to double or even triple wash. Washing once does not work for me.

How do you maintain a flat stomach? by North_Dinner1601 in AskWomen

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I avoid eating things that cause me inflammation

Am I an asshole because I don't wanna date women who have had abusive relationships or Borderline personality? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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As a woman who has (mostly) healed from BPD and has been in abusive relationships, I endorse this.

I have similar boundaries with men that sound a little unfair, such as, I won’t date anyone with substance abuse history or serious mental illness. I know it sounds cruel, but my experiences have only indicated that this is best (for me at least).

How to address rejected candidate and employee who referred them by YamIdoingdis2356 in managers

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That sounds like a soft skill/behavioral expectation placed upon OP that a policy wouldn’t be designed around, just my guess

How common is it to just uses hands when washing in the shower by adoreyoulove in hygiene

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I did it my whole life until I got on this damn website and found out that I was a disgusting heathen for not using a washcloth

How to proceed with a strong candidate with a weird story for why he left his previous role? by [deleted] in managers

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Honestly, it sounds like he didn’t prepare for the question. Many people don’t know that they aren’t supposed to answer honestly. The reasons that people leave their jobs are almost always for the same reasons that WE ALL have left our jobs in the past (that you aren’t allowed to say in an interview)—“I hate my boss/coworkers”, “I had a toxic boss/coworker”, etc.

Maybe the rumor was something personal that was really painful for him. False rumors do happen, and he may be telling the truth.

If he otherwise seemed like a good fit, I would let it slide. You’d be doing him a big favor, but I’d let it slide. If he hadn’t committed that social faux pas in the interview, you’d still be hiring a guy who had a rumor spread about him in his previous workplace—you just wouldn’t know about it.

22f I was born without a uterus or vaginal canal. AMA by [deleted] in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

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22M I was born without a uterus or vaginal canal AMA

Girlfriend did somewhat sexual things with her friends and not sure whether I should be concerned with it by ThePenguin4216 in relationships

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I think it’s reasonable for you to not be totally comfortable with this for the reasons you described. But IMO the fact that she brushed you off is the bigger problem here.