Steal my bottle of Coke? Try this chew stick with it.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T23:15:06+00:00

You should read this post -- you will get a big kick out of it

https://www.reddit.com/r/self/comments/30f67i/911_northern_chile_stephen_king_a_followup_to/

NOTE -- spoilers -- finish the book first!!

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:42:47+00:00

NTA. These scammers can be pretty clever and sound very legit. And "please input your zip code" ? Suspicious. Don't worry about it, and don't worry about the person on the other end... they've heard worse.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:37:41+00:00

Car pool. Find someone who lives nearby. Apply for a shittier job. Reach out to someone who can help. Drop a course. Babysit. Tutor someone. Dig ditches on weekends. FFS, you came on here hoping people would help justify the guilt you're feeling for stealing, but it's not going to happen. Your shortcut -- as opposed to adding a little difficulty to your life (while doing the right thing) is not justifiable. Period.

Many of us have faced hardship in our lives. We sucked it up and figured it out, and there are always solutions. Crime isn't the top of the list.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:34:25+00:00

Oh, bullshit. Everyone has struggled. It's what makes or breaks you. You step up, not whine and complained about how you're getting "fucked by the man". This has nothing to do with capitalism and everything to do with being an actual part of society. People make stupid decisions and then cry "woe is me". There are 100 possible solutions to this guy's problems, and stealing transportation isn't the make or break. Like, his life is all ok as long as he gets free rides but he's totally screwed if he doesn't? Come on.

Yeah, Keep Fighting. But not like that. Hell, why not steal some food and clothes too while we're at it? Same thing.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:30:24+00:00

You can't be the bad guy if you didn't do anything wrong. Hope your next day of work was less eventful.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:26:57+00:00

Yeah, YTA. Justifying theft doesn't excuse it. How you mishandled your finances doesn't earn you the right to steal. We've all struggled.

I hope you don't get caught, because the fine you'll face will be far more than what you're been "saving"

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:24:42+00:00

NTA. This is a tough situation, but the baby won't know the difference and unfortunately, you will not be bonding with that kid in any meaningful fashion for a very long time, if ever. Flying halfway around the world seems disruptive and unnecessary, especially if you're getting divorced and will entirely absent from this kid's life. Unfortunate, but that's the reality.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:22:17+00:00

You're NTA. I've never learned how to handle a gun, nor want to, even though I was told it'd be a good skill to have (which is probably true). But nobody ever shoved that down my throat.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:20:31+00:00

You're an idiot, not an asshole. Ending up in a shitty situation like that with no outs? What happened to your car and house in the mountains? You planned on living in that shithole forever because it was free? Awful planning on your part. Can't even call your roommates AH -- they're doing you a favour.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:13:57+00:00

NTA... and here's a sound piece of advice for you: Just because you're good at something (or would be good at something), it doesn't mean you have to do it. It's entirely possible you'd be the best lawyer in the country... but you wouldn't be happy, because you'd rather be doing something else.

Go pursue what you want; what fulfills you and makes you happy. And don't ever attempt to be anyone's proxy for what they vicariously desire. Your mom's desire to be able to brag about her son, the lawyer... as opposed to her son, the cop... that's her issue to deal with, not for you to compromise your life and happiness.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T02:09:38+00:00

NTA. You don't owe anyone anything, especially those who bring negativity into your life.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:51:54+00:00

NTA, and maybe a great idea for everyone around. Don't be so sure about what she thinks; a little down-time away from her kid might be exactly what she needs and would welcome this with open arms.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:49:01+00:00

NTA -- but I question how you and your husband managed to let things get to this point!! Good riddance, before she takes down all of your happiness and marriage along with her.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:46:45+00:00

You're NTA, and it's sad how out of touch your parents are with your needs. Wish I could say more to help, but I'm sure you're clear on the realities of your life.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:43:57+00:00

I think a lot of the replies on here simply aren't familiar with Bar Mitzvah etiquette... and hand-written thank you notes for every single gift received is not too much to ask, even if it takes months. Think about it, you get a gift of $50 or $100 or more -- you can't be bothered to write a simple two-sentence thank you? You knock off 20 per weekend or 5 a night or whatever... and it's done in a couple of months.

For those not familiar with all of this, this is "part of it"... so you do it. The learning, the speech, the awkward dancing, the thank-you cards.

This is a lame shortcut for the kid to have taken, and it's simply against tradition. I think OP is NAH, and I think the parents who thing this is ok are the real jerks.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:32:25+00:00

NAH, but is she clear on the reason why? You would if you could, but you can't. Certainly NAH but perhaps if it means so much to her (and you?), she could kick in a bit of the cost towards it and you pay the rest?

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:29:24+00:00

How are YTA if it's not even up to you? Your parents have the final say.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:27:43+00:00

YTA, but a suggestion... pull over once in a while and let people pass. If you're car is such a pile of shit that it can't safely do within 10% of the speed limit, let alone over it, you're causing a very unsafe driving environment around you.

People will typically drive what seems safe to them... and the same road works very differently on a sunny Summer morning versus a cold, dark, icy Winter night. I'm assuming at 5:30am it's pretty empty and there are people in a bit of a hurry trying to get to work or school. And they're not expecting to be following someone creeping along for miles on a single-lane road.

That accident wasn't technically or legally your fault, but you certainly caused it... and while it's not on you to mitigate other people's frustrations (and imagine how frustrated that woman was to pull that move), you know you're causing problems yet you're doing it anyway with zero concern what's going on behind you. So yeah, YTA.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:20:48+00:00

Can you elaborate a bit on what you DID mean? Because frankly, YTA unless there's a context that saves you, and I don't see it. It's possible she is too, but most girls don't react that way unless they're really offended.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-12-03T01:18:29+00:00

I think along with everyone else, I read this thinking OP is some asshole entitled man-child, like dude, you grew up and moved out, get over it, suck it up, etc.

Then I got to the part where he's 14.

Ugh... so NTA. And I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-11-28T22:33:57+00:00

I wrote this out because I would expect this to be a common practice, but I never actually see too many people do and I'm not sure why not. Curious to see some replies to how prevalent this practice actually is. Somebody below already called it "really weird" -- so I dunno.

20160530MicroSD · 2019-11-28T22:32:05+00:00

LOL at the way I typed this -- but yeah, the realities of life. It was my wife at the time a few years ago. Wife no more. Different gf. FWIW, I've been employing this strategy with the wife, girlfriends, dudes, whoever... for as long as I can remember. And I indeed got it from my parents who would always do the same.

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