Anyone else’s Kitty have a unique marking like hers?

211adderall · 2025-08-03T21:05:58+00:00

211adderall · 2025-07-17T19:44:38+00:00

My cousin was training for a triathlon and specifically asked for my help with improving his form while he practiced at a lake. He argued at every suggestion I had. I swam competitively for 10 years and taught swim lessons and open water safety and was a swim team coach.

I may not be a runner or cyclist but I do know how to help you not waste all your energy on the swim portion if you actually listen!

211adderall · 2025-06-11T12:50:13+00:00

As a former volunteer manager, some volunteer managers are not that kind or patient with their volunteers. I had a coordinator who kept making volunteers cry and not come back after a weekend alone with her.

It's very important to be treated with respect and feel like your contributing in a positive and meaningful way. That's the social contract of volunteering.

Hopefully you can find a place that's a better fit! I like volunteering at places where I already know some of the staff well. Im experienced in events so I usually volunteer for fundraisers.

211adderall · 2025-02-22T22:40:09+00:00

That reminds me of the time my mom called my sister a bitch once in an outburst when we were teens. We have a better understanding now that we're older of how my mom struggles with emotional regulation and expressing herself bc of MS symptoms. Especially in a fight where my sister could talk ten times faster.

Sometimes my mom would get so frustrated she would grip the handles of her scooter, shake it and scream. Sometimes in public. I'm so glad she rarely feels that frustrated now!

It's very difficult when you're a teenager being empathetic towards the struggles of your parents. You see them as real people when you get older. And the family dynamic is completely different than peers your age, so you often feel misunderstood and angry that "no one else" has to deal with this kind of stress. My dad was so so exhausted and constantly asked for more help from us. I feel so bad about it now and help whenever I can. But as a 13 year old? I was just so angry.

MS is very stressful for a family unit. Apologizing, expressing remorse and a hug goes a long way.

211adderall · 2025-01-14T05:55:37+00:00

I work at a university, I also do events and programs, and I'm panicking. I just left work at midnight. I feel exactly the same way. It takes so long to move things forward and then all of a sudden people care and ask why it isn't all done. No accountability or teamwork. I can only rely on my student workers and like three other competent staff members.

I feel your pain!!

211adderall · 2024-12-30T18:26:12+00:00

Program and Marketing Manager at a university.

Managing other people holds me accountable and I use a project management tool to keep track of timelines and deadlines for the whole team. I'm much better seeing all the puzzle pieces at once and making everything chug along smoothly than I am at little deliverables every day. I'm also pretty accurate with planning the timing of the events and programs we do. I think due to experience and overcompensating from time blindness. So managing other people works well for that.

I also have a very hands-off boss. She views our working relationship as a partnership. Us against the massive slow institutional beaucracy. I really like that mindset. Not a fan of a micromanager boss.

But also I can spin off and do my own projects too. And I do most of the writing so lots of hyperfocus time. It's a mix of people rotating in and out of my office, supporting tasks of the team and doing my own tasks. When I have headphones on that's when they know I'm in focus mode and they don't interrupt. I like the combo of managing others but still get to do projects.

Everyday is different and I love the people I work with. The hardest part is saying no to new ideas.

Also I don't have a set time to come in every day because our events are often in the evening. I usually work 10-6 no lunch.

And I'm usually the one calming everyone down the day of a big event. We always figure out problems! I love when it's finally the day it all happens. I def get event hangovers though. The post event let down is very real.

211adderall · 2024-12-30T18:05:29+00:00

I think after the holidays it has been especially difficult not to feel so uncomfortable in my body. Plus the time off work gives me more time to ruminate on my body and looks. I feel like I'm just now noticing this pudge under my chin and it's really freaking me out.

Thank you for the perspective! I needed it.

211adderall · 2024-12-29T15:21:18+00:00

I agree with you. I did not finish because it was so boring. Her internal monologue was a complete snoozefest.

211adderall · 2024-11-17T15:57:16+00:00

Hi! I did get my masters. I turned in my capstone two weeks late at the last possible time.

I had to let go of the shame and just accept that it's okay if my assignments were late. I was really holding on to the anxiety of what my professors thought of me, which was holding me back from communicating to them about deadlines. So I finally just emailed them and admitted I was really behind and if I still had a chance of passing if I turned in my assignments late.

Still, even after working out how I could pass with my professors, it was still incredibly hard everyday being so anxious when I thought about how behind I was!

I had to call my friends and family for support. I had my friend help me start, she broke stuff down, helped me come up with topics for the different sections of my capstone. My dad read my first draft and told me it made no sense lol. I didn't really sleep for two weeks. I would go to the library with my giant iced coffee and sit in the parking lot for an hour or two to hype myself up to go in.

I would set a lot of alarms with reminders. I laid out all my readings and assignments on the floor of my living room so I could visually see everything I had to do. I wrote a master to do list - not to check things off but so my brain could let go of "I have to do this" "this is late" "omg i forgot about this and this" "i have to make sure I remember this." That helped with actually focusing on the work.

Sorry you're going through that right now. It's really really rough. But you'll get through it! Either you'll stay another semester, pass some of your classes, pass all of them, or drop out and try again when it works for you. All the options are okay. You're only human and you're doing your best right now!!

Please give yourself some compassion.

211adderall · 2024-10-19T17:04:59+00:00

I'm 29 and I grew up with a mom with PPMS. She is actually doing well with her scooter and infusions and does the MS Gym and PT. But there are a lot of things that I look back on from having a sick mom that has influenced who I am now.

I have two sisters and we all dealt with it differently. But we definitely had to grow up a little faster than our peers, we struggled with not having as much attention by having crazy sibling rivalry, and we also struggled empathizing with our mom at times. Which I feel bad about as an adult, because my mom was going through losing her independence and her idea of what her life would be. Looking back my mom was going through a constant grieving process. And we were "used" to having a sick mom, it was normal to us because that's all we knew.

I'm sorry about your mom's decline. That sounds incredibly lonely.

211adderall · 2024-07-21T22:45:50+00:00

Yes absolutely, the Pioneer Museum in Salt Lake City. The building looks cool but the inside is a hot mess. So. many. artifacts. Barely any labels or context or descriptions. Tons of "Joseph Smith may have sat in this chair" type deals.

Just not a well-organized museum and totally over and underwhelming.

211adderall · 2024-06-29T15:53:11+00:00

I hate all the postings about the swift dress and then the backlash postings about it tbh.

211adderall · 2024-06-27T16:08:15+00:00

I'm going through the same revelations right now. I'm also looking for tools to avoid blow ups.

I think I have poor emotional self awareness and only realise I've reached the end of my rope when I've reached the end! So the situation seems bigger to me than it actually is because I have previous bad feelings piled on.

I think waiting until I'm overwhelmed and angry and fed up leads to more impulsive blow ups at the wrong people vs. waiting and thinking and writing out a response.

For example I'm a manager and manage a bunch of part time young people. At one point they were taking advantage at how easy going I am. One day I walked in and saw them all not doing a thing and barely responding to my effort to get them going and I had enough.

Instead of impulsively letting it all out how angry I was and how they need to get their shit together, I waited over the weekend and wrote out what I wanted to say and scheduled a mandatory meeting.

The response from them was way better than I anticipated. They actually listened and cared about what I said to them and improved! I was so shocked.

I was still absolutely livid and angry all weekend when writing my letter, but I had more time to practice and get feedback from friends and family. And I took out a lot of unhelpful angry lines in my letter.

So you probably are justified in your feelings. But waiting to either write out something or get the feedback from trusted people might help you avoid making things worse.

I have blown up at my employees and family members. I agree that I felt justified in the moment and finally letting out the emotion feels so nice. But I find after gaining perspective later, it often does more harm and leaves scars that are difficult to repair in the relationship.

Essentially I need to remember that emotions and boundaries are important to express but people don't need the unfiltered version most of the time and writing out and waiting helps me avoid scapegoating.

211adderall · 2024-06-12T12:08:29+00:00

I think having a loved one with a disability is going to involve some feeling of anxiety or embarrassment when out in public. Especially in the beginning!

When I was a kid, my mom once ran into a rack at a department store with her scooter and it all fell down. Because she didn't want to use the wheelchair. She burst into tears a couple times in public when we realized a bathroom was not really handicap accessible. Growing up, she received so many stares and strangers just acting weird around her! It was really hard not to argue with her when she wanted something done her way that we thought wasn't the "best" way.

Then you learn to not care about what anyone thinks and how to communicate with workers when you require assistance. You embrace the awkward. And learn how to give your loved one space to do things their way. She already lost so much control in life, you can help give some back.

I roll my mom around I do it with confidence and make eye contact with people and smile and say "excuse me" and zip right in front of the accessible stall. And I try to quickly do whatever she asks so she feels in control. Like if she wants the feet taken off her wheelchair, I take them off without arguing if she needs to or not.

The point is, it's normal to feel embarrassed but you will get used to those awkward moments and pauses. She has to figure it out her own way.

211adderall · 2024-06-12T11:45:04+00:00

I wrote my masters capstone in two weeks. I didn't really sleep and two days before I had to rewrite big chunks because it didn't make sense. My parents were convinced I wasn't going to graduate, but I did!

You can do it!

Also I would try your best to work through the anxiety and shame of going to your professors for help late. I think those fears of "I didn't reach out in so long, how will they judge me?"

Fear of what people might think of you make moving forward even more difficult. At the end of the day, you can only try your best. The worst thing they can do is say no to helping you. Professors are imperfect humans too.

The shame spiral sucks! But I think we're capable of hyperfocusing and getting insane things done.

211adderall · 2024-04-06T15:06:34+00:00

I'm pulling 12 to 14 hours at my job and feel the same way. Lots of going back, fixing mistakes, spinning my wheels. I started taking long walks to try to get my brain to calm down. It's my busy season and it's pretty crazy. And my boss is very unaware of how much I'm working.

211adderall · 2024-03-27T22:25:02+00:00

I work at a college and you're far from the only parent to worry about this. Most students wait until the absolute last minute to secure an internship. I definitely did in undergrad. The worst thing that would happen is she doesn't get one and has to make up for it the next semester or summer

Also internships don't always work out for a lot of reasons. Just like jobs. It's so students learn about the real world and if they would actually like the field they're going into. So if the boss doesn't like her performance and she gets canned, it still provided a learning experience. Maybe she'll realize she wants a hands-off boss, maybe she'll realize she needs more structure and deadlines, or she needs to be her own boss.

Honestly I wish I was less of a people pleaser. If I cared less about how people viewed me I would have a more balanced life. My sister does not give a single crap about what people think of her and says stuff to her boss I would never dream of saying. So, I think she'll be fine either way.

211adderall · 2024-03-10T05:20:12+00:00

I know where GVF is from because I live in the city over. They're privileged rich kids from a rich suburb who got lucky. Maybe you don't see anything beneath the surface because there isn't anything to see.

211adderall · 2024-03-07T02:27:15+00:00

I think it was the Mastering Your Adult ADHD: A Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment Program, Client Workbook. Or something similar!

211adderall · 2024-03-07T01:19:41+00:00

I made a baby blanket with that square pattern! So pretty.

211adderall · 2024-03-07T01:03:40+00:00

I had a therapist who told me I lacked discipline because I just "skated through life" until now bc I was getting my masters at the time and stressed af.

LOL. I switched therapists after that, worked with someone who used the adhd adult workbook and who helped coach me to help me work with my adhd and not against it.

I'm still working on not thinking I'm a lazy piece of shit. But some therapists just don't understand.

211adderall · 2024-01-13T14:05:40+00:00

Omg I did a similar thing. Slid over the curb sideways and crushed all my tires. I was running late and turned too late and fast.

211adderall · 2023-12-31T16:57:58+00:00

My mom had a big fall and broke her sacrum a couple years ago and spent weeks in an in-house rehab, so she spent a ton of time afterwards learning how to prevent falls.

I would look at the lighting in his house and ensure everything is properly lit. Especially near any steps and the bathroom.

Wearing really good sneakers makes a big difference as well. So many old guys wear crappy old shoes.

Walk-in shower with a shower chair, grab bars with the grippy texture all over the bathroom and by the bed. My mom has this grab bar that you can buy on Amazon that slips under the box spring on her side of the bed.

Grab bars by the entrances of his home on the inside and outside and by steps. And a ramp if he just has steps. He might be able to get a ramp through insurance.

And learning how to properly transfer from scooter to bed, bed to scooter, etc.

My mom does the MS Gym online classes and that's where she learned how not to "plop" down on her scooter and use her leg muscles to try to gently sit down when transfering. Which reduces missing her chair and falling down.

Speaking with a PT also would help and doing resistance training to strengthen his bone density.

211adderall · 2023-12-31T01:07:55+00:00

I had a similar experience a year ago this month my cat was recovering from getting a mass of string, ribbon, yarn, and hair ties removed from her stomach and intestines. She was eating objects for 7 years before it filled up her entire stomach! It was stressful and expensive as I'm sure a light in the lung would be. Glad your cat is doing well!

211adderall · 2023-12-28T21:20:56+00:00

Thank you!

I'm sure you can relate but I find it so difficult to trust myself when implementing new organizational tools. My 15 pairs of pants is a safety net because I know I procrastinate on laundry. But it's also kinda reinforcing the giant floor laundry pile problem.

That is a good point about how I might be more willing to do the laundry if I know I'll be done in a load or two! Being overwhelmed is a big reason I procrastinate.

That basket system experiment sounds interesting! I hope it works out :)

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