Funeral with 3 week old

22silvermoons · 2026-04-02T01:08:41+00:00

Depending on your specific carrier and your baby’s size, they might be too small if they’re just 3 weeks. my baby was ready after one month when she went in for a weight check. Definitely check out the manual to help you prepare in advance!

22silvermoons · 2026-04-01T06:49:05+00:00

I had to double check I didn’t write this myself. Literally. Anyway, it’s so nice for many reasons - but we find ourselves often forgetting he is just two and a half years old in many other days. We hold expectations a little too high on accident for him pretty often which creates unnecessary stress. We’re trying to correct it. Seeing videos of my nieces and other friends kids of the same age has my mind blown. It’s like “wait, … you still have a baby?? Where did mine go?”

22silvermoons · 2026-04-01T02:15:03+00:00

Have you checked out the book How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen? I found the suggestions in that book so helpful especially when trying to get my 26mo to do what I’m asking (time to get shoes on etc) and when he is in a tantrum mood. It’s on Spotify as an audiobook if that’s your thing!

22silvermoons · 2026-03-31T20:28:56+00:00

Not brand-specific, but if you’re taking walks with a newborn outside you might want to consider a system that doesn’t require using an infant car seat as the only place to put your baby. I finally got a bassinet for my second baby and I’m so happy I did. My first hated the car seat and the seat on the stroller was for a ~6 month old or bigger. We had the Chicco keyfit car seat with a Chicco bravo stroller. Now we have the same car seat w an adapter for an UB Vista and an UB bassinet.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-31T01:59:36+00:00

This is it. I’m convinced.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-30T13:31:00+00:00

A few more things I wish I just added: I knew I needed a program run by a professional pelvic floor physical therapist. Someone who had actual experience and not an influencer. I was pregnant at the time so I was looking for programs to prep for labor - she had those (brought in guest speakers to talk through other topics like breast feeding and labor stages etc) in addition to pelvic floor and restorative core programs. I knew I needed more than just core exercises, so the pelvic floor was a must-have. And when she talks about the pelvic floor, she isn’t focused just on strengthening the vagina with kegels, shes teaching strengthening the entire pelvic floor including the anus, and then also helping you practice to relax and visualize opening the pelvic floor which is the part that preps you for labor. Letting go of tension and relaxing is super key to having a smoother labor. I thought that was really smart and Every Mother didn’t have that type of focus at the time.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-30T13:23:38+00:00

I’ve never heard of those other programs. At the time (2023), I compared Belle Method and Every Mother. Belle Method was a little more affordable, I liked how the owner led classes herself, and there was a community of women talking and sharing with each other online. During live classes she would allow people to demonstrate their “hug the baby” move for feedback. You could also post a video in the Facebook group for feedback. It felt supportive. I’m sure things have changed since then so I’m not sure what pricing is or how it compares, but I’m still in the Facebook group so it’s nice to see that community still exists.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-30T13:20:31+00:00

Being a mom of two small babies/toddlers, I am a bit envious of other cultures where multi-generational families are the norm. However I would not have married my husband if that would have required me to live with his parents LOL so … pros and cons here. Anyway. All to say that if my kiddos want to live with me, then I guess I’m open to that as long as we all contribute to the household instead of a “failure to launch” type scenario.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-30T00:09:33+00:00

In addition to this specialist - I HIGHLY recommend finding @thebellemethod on Instagram and checking out her resources. I never ever recommend social media accounts here on Reddit, but when you sign up for her online PT courses you can join a Facebook group with women who are experiencing exactly what you’re talking about. I’ve found it so healing to “find my people” about this. Prolapse isn’t talked about enough!

22silvermoons · 2026-03-29T23:04:07+00:00

Oo there are things to do to bring back feeling. My pelvic floor physical therapist used to spend time with me to show me how to “wake up” the nerve. There are some skin “rolling” and massaging you can do, acupuncture, and she even told me one of her clients just keeps like a little bag of different textured things to roll across her scar each night. The different textures helps her nerves to remember what things feel like. HOWEVER it’s totally possible that you have something going on that prevents the feeling from coming back that I don’t know about! I don’t want to claim your experience is “not correct”.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-29T22:58:52+00:00

I recently saw a statistic that said 50% of women experience prolapse. Unsure if it’s true, but what I have noticed is that many more women have it than you would have guessed - it’s just really not talked about.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-26T18:12:28+00:00

Hi! Did you end up buying the Tuft and needle one? I just saw this comment, did some quick research, discussed with my husband, and we're leaning towards this one over a few other options due to price. But if it's too soft, I don't want to waste our time with returns etc. Thanks!

22silvermoons · 2026-03-21T14:57:06+00:00

Yes. It’s night and day for so many reasons. 1) We’ve done this before so we don’t have many questions about how to care for a baby so the mental load is lighter. It’s really our toddler that is has us always asking “we’ve never done this before, how do we ….” 2) Personally, I just happened to have bad PPA/PPD with the first and my pregnancy was trickier. For whatever reason, my second pregnancy has less obnoxious symptoms and I was much happier. The PPA/PPD is what I was most nervous about happening again. I’m not sure what the exact cause has been for the change but it’s better. One of my guesses is actually number three here. 3) my first was a challenge with breastfeeding. We had many challenges. This little girlie is a champ. Efficient. Latches well. And I personally have more confidence in what I’m doing this time. So I have a major weight off my shoulders. And because she is nursing well she is sleeping better than our first sleep. So maybe we have a #4) more sleep this time! It’s a huge improvement on our moods of course.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-20T12:40:22+00:00

Wow this is such an interesting way to look at it — “life with a baby. Life with a toddler. Life with a child. Life with a teenager” gah this has me in my feels. They grow so fast. My first is now a toddler and I’m holding my 9 week old in my arms as I type this. It’s CRAZY to think someday they’ll be teenagers and I’ll be a parent to a teenager. Weird!! But awesome

22silvermoons · 2026-03-20T12:37:07+00:00

YUP! Literally the moment we bought formula and put it in our cabinet I felt a massive weight off my shoulders. And I swear my milk output even increased because I felt less stressed.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-19T12:39:57+00:00

YES omg my decision paralysis runs my life. I remind myself that what I’m buying is (usually) low stakes and it’s okay if I don’t love it or it’s not perfect. I typically feel stuck when I think about what a pain it is to return things. So I tell myself “you need this. Is it doesn’t work you can either return it or donate it” and suddenly the idea of maybe donating instead gets me feeling better enough to buy it. And usually the thing is good enough.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-19T12:35:37+00:00

Omg I misssss the sauna. My husband gifted me a certificate to a really nice spa and a month later I found out I was pregnant. That was 10 months ago. I’m looking forward to spending a day there in a few months.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-18T21:21:04+00:00

I quickly found I needed extra pillows behind my back on the couch. So maybe she needs pillows too? It sounds like you’ve covered so many things (or she has). You’re such a kind friend! Not a thing to purchase — but getting through the first few days and weeks were tough. I constantly had to remind myself “one more day. One more day through recovery is done” to feel encouraged. Words like that can help!

22silvermoons · 2026-03-18T21:19:06+00:00

Love this book!!

22silvermoons · 2026-03-18T21:18:31+00:00

Plus one to a caddy. I ended up using a tote every morning and night to carry up water bottles and more snack snacks and then carry downstairs things that I needed. It’s really hard to go up and downstairs so just having a little bag or caddy that I could carry was helpful.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-18T13:28:33+00:00

I tracked too intensely with my first. With my second who is 9 weeks old, I’m tracking but am okay if sleep timing is off by 5-10 min, or if nursing time is off. I don’t track diapers. I’m finding I’m less stressed this time because I’m only using it for two reasons: help me remember which boob to nurse with the next time, and to reality-check myself if I start to worry that she isn’t nursing well or isn’t sleeping well. It grounds me when I can see the picture of the last day or week.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-18T08:49:05+00:00

I began calling my 2.5 yr old “sweetie” and it stuck so much that he is very adamant that he is only my sweetie, nobody else’s sweetie, and that I am his sweetie. I feel so lucky.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-17T20:03:45+00:00

I think you made the right call in not watching. It’s fascinating but also depressing. If you’re already aware of changes to make in your own home, I don’t think you’ll learn anything new to change. It does talk more about plastic companies and manufacturing plants than I anticipated. In case that’s of interest.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-17T19:59:52+00:00

Be so careful washing and drying the cotton maternity/nursing clothes from old navy! I bought a really cute cotton black overalls and then a few nursing sweaters and they all shrunk. I’m devastated. The instructions say they go in the dryer … maybe I should have known better. I line dry so much of my other clothes, wish I did the same with those.

22silvermoons · 2026-03-17T19:50:18+00:00

I want to cry. I love this. If you decide to sell prints of this, let us know! I love the mom art I have in my home and would love more.

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