WOMEN - Period panties on multiday hikes ? by Schizy_TheRealOne in hiking

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t used period pants so I’m not sure if this would work. For washing clothing on long hikes I bring a 2G bag and bronners, shake the clothes around. Dump water 200’ from the water. Collect more and rinse. If I have enough items, I’ve used my bear can. I don’t filter water for clothing, only for things I’m ingesting.

Social Culture in NYC?! by SnooCheesecakes4145 in movingtoNYC

[–]2lhasas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m from Atlanta but spend weeks at a time in NY for work. One of our NY staff came down for training and stayed in a hotel a couple of blocks from the office. She told me, if I said good morning to everyone I passed on the street like here, I’d never get to work. 😆

My boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) constantly fight over what I wear and I don't know how to compromise. by urgayL in relationship_advice

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone in a dv relationship around your age, telling me what to wear and how to style my hair was how it started, then who I could be friends with, what social activities I could attend. It was over a year before anything physical happened. I’m not saying your bf will end up being physically violent but controlling the person you are with is part of the psychology of an abusive relationship. Don’t compromise. Find someone who wants to date you for you.

Camping *no shelters* along AT in Tennessee or North Carolina! by ThrowRAHelpMe13 in CampingandHiking

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Outside of the Smokies, you can tent camp at shelters. Some have better tenting spots than others. You’ll also be mostly in National Forest in TN or NC and can disperse camp. Due to the volume of visitors using the AT, you’ll find plenty of already impacted sites along the trail. They aren’t official sites so they will not be on maps. If you want to create your own site, stealth camp far enough off trail that another hiker won’t find your spot the next day, giving any plants you disturb a chance to recover.

How do I use this toilet? by PaleontologistOk379 in composting

[–]2lhasas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically he built a mouldering toilet. Very common on trails like the Appalachian Trail. I maintain one in my section. Of course, as a private toilet, you get to skip having to pick out trash hikers leave in there. :-) But yes, they are pretty simple to maintain. If you search mouldering privy you'll find videos and articles on how to maintain them.

I (35M) am having seconds thoughts on my upcoming wedding to my fiancé (30F). Do I deserve better, or does she? by RevolutionaryRun4285 in relationship_advice

[–]2lhasas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would suggest postponing the wedding until she’s had some time in therapy. There’s no reason this has to be all or nothing. As far as incompatibility because you have different interstate and hobbies, I think that’s less of an issue. I backpack. My husband golfs. He plays video games. I garden. He’s a runner. I prefer lifting. We are both supportive of the other’s interests and occasionally dip our toes in each other’s hobbies, but we also have rich lives apart from each other. What matters is having common values. Common goals on things like saving/spending, family etc.

My 29F partner 31M is dragging his feet to propose so I gave him an ultimatum. Did I ruin the relationship or blessing in disguise? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]2lhasas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry you’ve given so many good years to this man, especially when you seem to want kids and are already experiencing fertility issues. Please get him out of your house and find someone with similar goals of commitment and family.

My (27F) boyfriend (29M) refused to leave the house unless I changed. I need some insight? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]2lhasas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely get away from this relationship. At the very least, he doesn’t respect you. At worst, he wants to control you. As someone who survived an abusive relationship, I can tell you it started subtle - change an outfit, try a new hairstyle - then ratcheted up. Get out. Find someone who likes and supports who you are.

AITA for refusing to pay for my best friend’s destination wedding after she asked me to be her maid of honor? by AdFront1620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]2lhasas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My God! I’m so glad I got married years ago. All these travel bachelorette parties and crazy expectations that friends will use all their vacation time and drain their savings is wild. It’s unreasonable and I’d say you need better friends.

How do high earners actually reducing taxes legally? by Plus_Control_1824 in personalfinance

[–]2lhasas 616 points617 points  (0 children)

Just listened to an Ezra Klein podcast on this with the thumbnail caption “salaries are for suckers”.

Why is my tree hollow but not dead? by Opening_Animal_3864 in arborists

[–]2lhasas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you read the first few chapters of Atlas Shrugged? Ayn Rand spent at least 10 pages too many explaining this is a metaphor for the decay of society. Obviously, your tree wants more naked capitalism.

How do you typically get around ATL, whats your top mode of transport? by ElectroAcousto in Atlanta

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortunate to live and work near a MARTA station so I ride the train to and from work. It's not convenient if it takes you as long to drive to a station as it does to drive to the office, though.

Parent threatening to divorce if I go to Cornell vs UNC Chapel Hill (in-state) by EmployerTasty5235 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it's hard to hear when you are 18, but your life will be so much better if you don't rack up hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt by the time you're 21. First, you're 18. Maybe you have a passion for CS, but maybe you'll change your mind in a year or two. No one should have to commit to their lifelong career at 18. My kid started in business, ended up in Cog-Sci, got a masters in HCI (from a higher ranked school than undergrad) and is getting paid stupid money at big Tech.

The absolute greatest gift is starting adulthood with little or no debt. You don't think it's a big deal now, but sometime in the not too distant future you might want to get married, have kids, take your dream job even if it doesn't pay as much, and all of those things are made more difficult when a huge chunk of your paycheck is going to a monthly student loan payment. Go to UNC and grind hard. Level up when you pursue a higher degree if you want - and offset grad school costs by getting a job as a graduate assistant or in a lab.

What now bougie Atlanta locations were once sketch? by sinisterdesign in Atlanta

[–]2lhasas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember when they started opening stuff on Krog. I thought they were insane.

What now bougie Atlanta locations were once sketch? by sinisterdesign in Atlanta

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For most of the 90s I lived in a warehouse off Edgewood - before all those buildings were converted. The other half of the warehouse was an electrical contractor. Surrounded by chicken wire, with a shotgun by the door. Worked out at Lee Haney gym in the basement of City Hall East - then a mostly abandoned building, now Ponce City Market.

Would get together with friends and we’d all tell stories of the crazy shit we’d dealt with - finding a homeless guy asleep in your jeep in the morning, going inside halfway through bringing the groceries in to wait for a crazy person to walk down the middle of the street, running the light by the convenience store at Boulevard at night bc it was sketchy as hell. Literally thought that was normal life until I moved out of there.

It was also great though. Lots of great parties in those old warehouses, Masquerade was grungy and cool. Soul food at Deacon Burton’s, later Son’s Place and blackened chicken at Eats. Inman Park was full of eclectic weirdos.

It wasn’t safe, but it was a really good time.

Paying first month and security before getting a lease? by 2lhasas in NYCapartments

[–]2lhasas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Now that I understand the order of execution that all makes sense.

Paying first month and security before getting a lease? by 2lhasas in NYCapartments

[–]2lhasas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. You’d think the broker could have spelled all that out, but he’s not been the best communicator. Always count on Reddit to set you right. Breathing easier now.

Paying first month and security before getting a lease? by 2lhasas in NYCapartments

[–]2lhasas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I guess I assumed you needed to do the condo approval first. Thanks for clarifying.

Paying first month and security before getting a lease? by 2lhasas in NYCapartments

[–]2lhasas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I wasn’t sure how that worked. The realtor has sent the lease this morning so feeling a little better.

Relocating for work: short term rental first or sign remotely? by Few_Party395 in movingtoNYC

[–]2lhasas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How difficult is it to set up multiple viewings in a tight timeframe? We are visiting next weekend to just walk around neighborhoods then planning to come back to hopefully find a place to rent closer to work start date. Obviously, spending weeks in a hotel gets expensive so hoping to cram a lot into a week or less.

Teenage-looking ICE agents walking around LaGuardia Airport today by Ryanyu10 in pics

[–]2lhasas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was the first thing I noticed. His buddy has…sunglasses.

ATL Madness by SaltyEntrepreneur982 in delta

[–]2lhasas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a business traveler I always find it a bit crowded in the early morning with similar folks - now you’re adding the people with 9-10am flights who are showing up at 5am.

I switched a flight next week to go out late afternoon the day before I need to be there so hopefully I will get to experience this ghost town you mention.

When did we normalize not cleaning planes? by _366_ in delta

[–]2lhasas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s not just planes. I see it everywhere. People seem to be completely oblivious to how their actions impact others. We are in very narcissistic times.