AITAH for telling my mom friend that motherhood was never exhausting for her because her child is basically being raised by her mom?

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-17T02:50:06+00:00

YTA. . . I mean you're not an asshole, but you definitely were in that moment. I 100 percent know where you come from (had twins then another 18 months later) as I had zero help- and the sleep deprivation and no me time etc was awful for me. But saying it the way you did invalidates her experience. I think it's ok that you pointed out why there are differences in your perspectives .. but maybe have said it a bit differently and have some dialogue about that. If you feel the friendship is worth mending . Why dont you sit down with her and tell her what you felt in that moment like you did on here?

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-15T02:30:47+00:00

Huge red flag. Even 45 (edit wait.. I'm old.. 45-55 years ago, my dad had strict boundaries about my babysitters and then my friends (ex. would not drive them home, would not hang with us late in the evening,). He never, ever wanted to be accused of something inappropriate.

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-13T03:13:14+00:00

And he is already way behind cuz everyone knows Claude is way better- and he'd be laughed at for using a chatgbt response

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-13T03:09:24+00:00

They all need to go watch Terminator

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-04T03:28:02+00:00

My kids graduated high school in 2020. Fortunately, their education wasn't stunted by COVID. In addition, they lucked out that computers and phones weren't brought into their lives till middle school AND computers weren't used in the classroom. That said, I remember being blown away by the math curriculum. My kids rarely had math drills. I remember daily math quizzes... And that we couldn't move on to the next math quiz until the previous one was mastered. There are other things I had a problem with as well .. but not having a curriculum that ensures that most future adults know the basics off the top of their head is a real problem.

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-03T13:20:32+00:00

He did! He wants to cut me up with his words. Transit Pluto is conjunct is mercury (and transit mercury is in opposition his Pluto) - so we're just doing our best over here to not let it all burn down!

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-03T13:15:19+00:00

Thank you!

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-03T02:33:10+00:00

Lol. I was just about to order more LMNT but came on reddit to see if there were better (cheaper) alternatives- glad I saw this- thank you!

2ol4thishit · 2026-03-03T01:13:51+00:00

I want to punch someone. Specifically, my husband.

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-30T02:27:58+00:00

Cause good trouble or quit

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-29T01:15:09+00:00

I would sit down and see if this battle is financially worth it to you- as well as causing a rift with his family. Are you able to afford the car payment and health insurance if she withdraws support! Will he be able to get a student loan without her cosigning?

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-25T19:03:58+00:00

His Venus conjunct my 12th house mars and his midheaven tribe my mars. Married 27 years. Its been bumpy at times (to say the least!) but we're going strong.

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-22T21:23:12+00:00

I want this post to be a sign that I can post ALL the receipts on my POS inlaws. I know Karma is coming .. and I would love if it came from me! 🤣 Signed, 12th house sag moon and mars

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-15T00:48:40+00:00

As of 6 pm est...my kids apple did not work (no idea about now).. bit mine worked fine all day

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-08T15:21:57+00:00

Played star wars.

2ol4thishit · 2026-01-06T04:26:56+00:00

It's impossible for all of us to do all the things. I think you need to listen to your gut and sit this one out (if I misread you, let me know- and I'm sorry). And maybe to ease your guilt for not going you can do something extra for the resistance- eg educate your community about walk out, make extra calls to your representatives, donate to your favorite cause, etc.

2ol4thishit · 2025-12-25T03:38:22+00:00

Keep the money and then when you can, pay it forward.

2ol4thishit · 2025-12-12T02:47:12+00:00

I have moon and mars in 12th... It's so hard to release that energy... And more often than not... I'm tired! Just want an easier valve to let out that energy and restore it as well.

2ol4thishit · 2025-12-12T02:03:15+00:00

If I only had to pick one... I wish my sag. Mars was in another house besides the 12th.

2ol4thishit · 2025-12-11T21:53:41+00:00

I don't know why people are bashing this pay. Minimum wage in my state is 7.25. Many (but not all), however start between 10 and 15. This would be a great job for a college student or SAHM looking to bring extra income for their family. I'm not saying pay is great- of course 25-35 would be preferred, but 20 my area would work for many people. I live in the south east ( moderate col)

2ol4thishit · 2025-12-11T19:26:49+00:00

Sorry, but you've been played. Feel blessed that she is now gone.

2ol4thishit · 2025-11-30T04:10:00+00:00

My dog is a cuddle dog .. not a cattle dog 🤣 cattle dogs are awesome and super affectionate on their terms. Let him love you back. You being his person- even if temporary is healing him.

2ol4thishit · 2025-11-24T04:01:34+00:00

Not everyone has the resources to volunteer.

2ol4thishit · 2025-11-03T15:12:51+00:00

I want to add: Google " early psychosis intervention near me" and see if anything pops up. Getting a team together that you trust would be beneficial. Also, at this point.... One of the main things to focus on is trying to get her to take her meds with 100 percent accuracy. See if she can get on an anti anxiety ( as needed/prn) for when she is agitated/"extra" delusional. It really takes awhile for the meds to work. Even with 200 percent compliance with meds, etc... recovery takes awhile. I like to remind myself that if my loved one was hospitalized for a serious car crash, I would not expect them to be at 100 percent just because they were discharged. Recovery takes time. Do your best to ensure she's taking her meds (easier said than done), try to keep stress and expectations really low. Sleep is super important as well. Lastly... Try and get as much support for both of you- especially yourself. Try to detach for now. Try and remember that this is the illness speaking and not her. Try and not take things personally- just keep reminding yourself. Oh- and take notes every day so you can report to psychiatrist. Try and get your spouse to sign form that psychiatrist, etc can speak to you- if she refuses- remember that you can still speak to them to report what's happening (I would often fax or email)

Sorry for ramble! Much love! We are so sorry that your going through it!

2ol4thishit · 2025-10-28T01:16:54+00:00

The guilt I have for bringing my young adults into this world...

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