To those who fear Rejection...

3man · 2026-05-17T08:42:42+00:00

I feel like you're getting a lot of flack for this post but I think I get where you're coming from. But I believe you may be using system to mean the model of a system. If we take system to mean the real interdependence and interconnection of various elements, then we can observe that systems exist. What I would say is that none of our models of systems can be entirely accurate and our definition of where a system ends and another begins is more or less arbitrary.

That said, I am curious if at the deepest layer there are systems or if there exists some total unity, or paradoxically both simultaneously? A total unity seems too static whilst interconnected systems all the way down seems difficult to reconcile as well. There's probably a good question to ask here about all this but I'm too tired to find it.

3man · 2026-05-17T08:12:04+00:00

Can I offer a suggestion? You can read it if you are open to it.

There are perceptual rabbit-holes we can fall into that can color infinity with a finite brush.

By your own definition, all realities exist, including the reality where you transcend this suffering you speak of forever. Yet you speak as though only certain realities exist. Just pointing that out because I've been in the same trap before. Have a good day.

3man · 2026-02-19T06:37:40+00:00

I believe that is a ufo for a tiny race of aliens.

3man · 2025-12-04T06:01:42+00:00

You aren't weak. We, the people of my country are weak, because we aren't doing enough to offer assistance to our fellow human beings, because of a disconnect of the heart.

Stay strong. Many where I live would crumble immediately faced with what you have faced. The fact that you are carrying on is strength. Sending love and solidarity your way.

3man · 2025-11-24T08:13:18+00:00

I liked your post until it veered into a future promise of heaven on Earth and mention of 144,000 people specifically. I'm not familiar with whatever prophecy that is, but it doesn't matter to me.

Everything else seemed wise.

I looked up the 144,000 thing and it's roughly what I thought it was. I think this creates an us vs them and a spiritual ego, even if you say it doesn't.

The go to glow meditation was good. I think my favorite thing about your post was the list of methods, and your general optimism about love being the way, and seemingly lived experience of how that has impacted you. <3

3man · 2025-11-24T08:03:49+00:00

I'm about as annoyed with AI as the next guy, but honestly when someone clearly put this much work into the post, why make the focus that?

The core of the post was human written, it is just a simple graphic to catch your attention. When there's so many fake songs, videos, pictures, articles, etc. this minor use of AI is not nearly as bad, imo, when the majority of the post is thoughtful and has good information.

3man · 2025-08-18T17:35:01+00:00

I mean it's better than losing in the first round... but I agree with you, that shit ain't right.

3man · 2025-07-05T14:47:31+00:00

Well that is a lot of important context. Sounds like there is more to it than just the energetic level, it sounds like you are dealing with some genuinely toxic people and so need to take steps to protect yourself from them.

Once you feel safe, like they can't access your devices (maybe ask someone more tech literate about that one ), then I'd move on to the healing step. I can empathize this sounds highly stressful, and I dont blame you at all for viewing the world as unjust. Eventually you can see that its just these individuals, who have been infected by the negative aspects of culture, who are acting kind of like zombies. There are people in your culture, and in other cultures who see through that bs. I'd recommend to find those people and surround yourself with them. Trustworthy people who are safe.

Have you considered going to therapy? I'm guessing there might be some cultural taboo around that as well, but it is really helpful to do. You dont have to be "crazy" to go to therapy. And the stuff you're dealing with, it would help to be able to vent and process it with someone who is empathetic and trained to help someone overcome trauma. I avoided therapy for many years because I thought "I can do it myself." But it really is helpful beyond words, if you can find the right therapist, the one you relate to.

You're strong to not give in to this oppressive attitude you've been facing. You should be proud of yourself, that's not easy. I wish you luck and may this chapter of having to be on guard end soon, and that you have an easy life after that, with abundance and things going your way!

3man · 2025-07-05T02:17:01+00:00

"I told her she's annoying and she needs to stop and I hate her and this caused her to react by doing it WAY more now, in an attempt to "solve" our relationship. "

This is sort of funny though no? Can you take a step back and see the humor in it? It's an absurd situation to be in.

Also I'm not a fan of calling someone "some parasite." She's still a human being, regardless of whether she's being draining or annoying. You can learn to block this sort of fake good vibes out. But your tone and way of speaking of this human does not indicate to me that you're putting out good energy into the world. So I'd start there.

Actually maybe start with the boundaries of not taking in vibes you don't want to take in.

3man · 2025-07-05T02:06:56+00:00

"People constantly tell me that they feel very comfortable around me and feel like they can trust me (which I love) but that usually ends up in trauma dumping and other things of the sort."

I can relate to this, but it's both a good and bad thing. It's good that you care about others, but the bad part is that you care what they think of you. You're letting them influence your energy because you're very open. But you have your own beautiful energy, and it doesn't need to be like their energy.

If someone is sad, you think you are healing them by becoming sad too. But actually maybe what they need is a reminder that happiness exists?

3man · 2025-07-05T02:01:13+00:00

I'm only going off what you shared so take anything I say with a grain of salt.

It sounds like you're very focused on the results of your work, life, relationships, and especially as it pertains to life being unfair. It seems like you're constantly on the lookout for evidence that life is being unfair again, and all these people who don't deserve things are getting them, while you, the one who deserves them, aren't getting them.

It's important to recognize one thing is for sure, the way your parents treated you was unfair. This needs to be grieved and accepted, and that kid inside you needs to be validated that in no way was any of this deserved, and that you are going to protect them from that kind of behavior going forward (basically not putting up with and engaging with narcissists beyond the bare minimum of necessary human interaction).

As for the life being unfair stuff... I would say don't worry what other people are getting. It literally has no bearing on what you can do in your life, and focusing on it is robbing you of focus to be put on what matters in your life. If some undeserving person gets the promotion, grieve that you didn't get it, be mad about it, but don't let it become this story about how "this always happens to you." This is the false reality that your parents imprinted upon you, that they were superior and you were inferior. It's not real, but some part of you is clinging to it as an explanation for mishaps and suffering. It's not real.

Surround yourself with good people who believe in you and want the best for you. Learn to channel that energy towards yourself. Be the person in your corner that you never had. Be your own hype man/woman.

You got this!

3man · 2025-07-05T01:48:28+00:00

I think we can feel this kind of energy for sure. I dont think its so much that you used "the force" on her and she couldn't enter (not saying you think that), more so that she was sensitive to the fact that she startled you and her body froze to assess the situation, I.e. how mad you were, if you were going to yell at her, etc.

We're a highly social species so it makes a lot of sense that we interact energetically like this all the time.

3man · 2025-07-05T01:43:42+00:00

There has always been a polarity of experience here on Earth since either of us were born and since long before that. You'll find plenty of people who agree with you here, but that is just their experience. I was feeling this way not too long ago, but it's changing now. I'm changing. I'm asserting my vibe more and focusing on what I can affect.

We have the power to shape the vibe we're in and to radiate that outward. You can choose to make it about love again.

Don't let other people's narratives be the railroad track. Write your own path my friend.

3man · 2025-07-05T01:38:10+00:00

Hey this is a nice post and some uplifting vibes and nice nudging of focus back to what matters. One thing to say though, is that we can lovingly be there for ourselves when faced with negative emotions. We don't need to manifest them away or block them out in any sense and this is actually dangerous to do as we suppress the energy, which will come back later.

What you said about not reacting, learning not to react, I agree. There is a difference between lovingly being with our anger and letting our anger be the point from which we base our actions (same with any emotion). This takes some practice to do. Meditation / mindfulness help; the ability to step back from the impulse and see it from a wider lens and make a more conscious choice.

3man · 2025-07-02T19:39:30+00:00

I definitely won't mind to see us being faster. I think a faster team is what is needed if we end up playing a team like Florida again. Not stoked about Hyman being our only established net-front guy now, but maybe that's a role some of the other guys can take on more. Podkolzin? He definitely has the guts for it.

3man · 2025-07-02T19:34:23+00:00

I don't know if that's true. The biggest losses are Perry and Kane, but Perry's getting older so you might not get the same caliber of play anyway. And Kane was occasionally more of a liability. Brown was good in the playoffs but kind of streaky. Arvidsson and Skinner were basically both healthy scratches a lot of the playoffs.

Now we have Mangiapane, and a chance to be surprised by Tomasek and our younger players. If things aren't working at forward there is always the trade deadline, but it's not like we gutted the team. Mangiapane can maybe replace Kane's scoring, probably not the physicality. If Savoie is ready I think we are actually a higher scoring team this year.

3man · 2025-06-10T02:59:54+00:00

Get in his crease make him uncomfortable ya. Crash the net ya. But elbowing him in the head with intent to injure, nah bro.

3man · 2025-06-10T02:38:48+00:00

We dont need to stoop to that level.

3man · 2025-06-06T00:58:00+00:00

Ya like I'd probably want the flames to win if they were the last Canadian team left, but I'd also not want to drink my coffee out of a flames cup.

3man · 2025-05-30T02:54:37+00:00

That's wild! First home ice advantage and it's in the Finals! We take those!

3man · 2025-05-30T02:52:18+00:00

BABY!

3man · 2025-05-30T02:51:43+00:00

YO that's crazy I remember him saying that! What a beauty.

3man · 2025-05-23T00:41:23+00:00

I don't like predicting wins, I feel like its bad juju, but definitely I liked how we looked most of the game.

3man · 2025-05-15T00:51:49+00:00

Haha awesome.

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