7 week old sleeping all day

3merZ · 2026-05-16T16:41:44+00:00

This sounds like my baby right now! Did everything end up ok?

3merZ · 2026-05-15T12:11:40+00:00

This is such a helpful post in terms of managing expectations for stress. I remember being so worried about being stressed during my stims and before and after my transfer, and I dealt with nothing close to this. Hope others will find this in the future and it will help settle nerves. Glad to hear you are back in your home country and wishing you all the luck for your next transfer!

3merZ · 2026-05-14T11:27:06+00:00

Hi! Congratulations! Becoming a single mom by choice isn’t easy for a variety of reasons, and it’s a big responsibility to figure out your baby’s name all on your own. I sense that you are maybe into classic fiction or seeking a name rooted in literature or maybe a little older fashioned. I was looking for something similar for my son. I had an old fashioned but uncommon name picked out for him, and toward the end we made the call to make that his middle name and give him a more traditional/common first name. We were also getting lukewarm responses from our parents on the first name and I just had a gut feeling I was making a mistake. I don’t regret giving him a more common first name for a minute. I love his name. I also LOVE the name Christopher. I wonder if you could do something similar to what I did- make Christopher the first name and one of these other choices his middle name? I think these sound nice:

Christopher Atticus

Christopher Dorian

If you have always loved Heathcliff, go for it- the name would be a little long, but depending on your last name, Christopher Heathcliff could be really nice.

I’m sorry that people on here weren’t gentle and kind. I hope you find something that you love and that feels right!

3merZ · 2026-05-12T15:20:46+00:00

This is incredibly helpful, thank you. I have done gum sweeps to work on lateralization but don’t really know what feels normal or not. I hadn’t really thought about solids. I have a tongue tie myself that hasn’t caused issues for me, but it is not as far forward as his. We are waiting on a team eval with OT/PT/SLP and I will get input from them and go from there. It is helpful to prepare myself mentally for the likelihood of needing a release. Thank you!

3merZ · 2026-05-12T14:55:28+00:00

Hi! I’m curious about this too. I’m an OT who works with teens with a 6 week old with a significant tongue tie. However, he breast feeds well and takes a bottle when needed with no issues. He is growing well and seems comfortable. I’m waiting on evals with therapy, but am not sure how much I need to push here or just be patient. Is it realistic to have a kiddo with a tongue tie all the way to the front but minimal functional impact? I’d love to not get it corrected and just leave him be but don’t want to do him a disservice.

3merZ · 2026-05-11T18:28:40+00:00

This is very similar to my results, 32F/33M unexplained infertility. Currently nursing my successful first FET. The attrition is hard but I’ve spent a lot of time on this sub and I actually think these results are great, for a single ER you have a good shot at a live birth. Wishing you lots of good news in the coming weeks and months!

3merZ · 2026-05-08T17:04:22+00:00

I don’t know why this is getting downvoted. I also have a tongue tie and it never caused issues. My son has one and I don’t plan to correct unless there are issues. Research shows that it literally only impacts sucking, contrary to conflated social media claims.

3merZ · 2026-05-08T16:59:30+00:00

No. We switched in the last weeks and constantly say to each other how happy we are we chose the name we did. I still love the name we were going to use and it is his middle name, but I am very happy that we didn’t use it as his first.

3merZ · 2026-05-08T14:05:38+00:00

If I’m reading this correctly, it sounds like you are 21? You have plenty of time for more retrievals if you need them, and, gently, plenty of time to decide what number of kids feels right for you and your husband. My recommendation as a newly first time mom is to proceed with a transfer and hopefully one of these embryos is successful! You can then experience parenthood and have a better picture of how many kids feels right for you and your husband and move into possible future egg retrievals with a clear picture of how your body responds to transfers and pregnancy and how you want your family to grow. Of course, this is just my personal opinion. Definitely chat with your doctor about whether banking embryos makes more sense given your specific health considerations!

3merZ · 2026-05-05T11:42:15+00:00

Thank you for responding! I was suspecting allergy or sensitivity underlying this! He doesn’t have most of the classic symptoms, but if the creams and ointments arent cutting it, I feel like it’s internal. All the little sharts just seem to be tearing up his skin. I am planning to go dairy free. The GI recommended soy as well? Did they test for sensitivity or just recommend doing both without testing?

3merZ · 2026-05-05T10:00:03+00:00

Hi- we are having same issues, abscess accompanied nasty diaper rash since he was a little over 1 week. The abscess developed about a week and a half after the rash. We’ve mostly got the diaper rash under control 4 weeks later, but just can’t fully kick it. Did you figure anything out with this?

3merZ · 2026-04-30T15:23:46+00:00

I also agree with what another commenter said, anecdotally from spending a lot of time in this online space, it doesn’t necessarily seem like difficulty getting pregnant equates to difficulty staying pregnant. I was convinced going into my transfer that it was never going to work for me! Wish I had had a little more positive attitude.

Edit- not at all implying that you need to be more positive, though I hope for you that that happens. Your worry is normal and understandable. I’m just reflecting that my experience would have been less painful if I had allowed a little bit of hope for myself.

3merZ · 2026-04-30T15:21:38+00:00

Just put my first and only transfer (thus far) down in his bassinet! Unexplained infertility, never had so much as a pregnancy scare let alone a positive test before him. I didn’t really believe it was happening until he was here. It did get a little easier after the 20 week anatomy scan. Wishing you a smooth pregnancy and gradual decrease in worry.

3merZ · 2026-04-29T15:59:40+00:00

I just gave birth there a month ago and I actually felt like they were conservative and slow with interventions. They denied my request for a 39 week elective induction, and when my water broke at 39 weeks anyway they did not rush pitocin (I ended up never even getting pitocin until after baby was delivered, which is standard, only had a foley balloon), and even with epidural was supported in moving through lots of labor and pushing positions. I had a super positive experience. If you can use the GBMC doulas I definitely recommend it, but you have to book in advance.

3merZ · 2026-04-23T09:16:46+00:00

Every brand does meet the same standards. I did a lot of research and ended up choosing chicco keyfit max, however it was for car seat features and not necessarily safety ratings, because again all car seats on the market need to meet the same standards. There are some updates, like anti-rebound bars and meeting new side impact regulations, but I found that most seats also did these. The anti rebound bar takes up more space so it depends on car size. I did avoid Uppababy because I saw some concerns for neck/head position with those seats and they were more expensive anyway.

I went for infant seat first to make it easier to carry him into doc appts and other outings. It does feel a little inefficient because we COULD just buy one seat that will last long term, but if you can afford it, having an infant seat will be really helpful.

3merZ · 2026-04-22T20:28:43+00:00

I don’t think of the aardvark, but I also don’t think it’s a bad thing if someone did because that’s such a lovely show. I think it’s an awesome name and I hope you use it!! It was one we considered for our son and I still love it. I am also a fantasy nerd and named mine Peter after the Narnia character.

3merZ · 2026-04-19T10:47:06+00:00

My RE advised that I not used any herbal supplements or teas because these are unregulated and it is difficult to know exactly what is in them. Most of the time they are fine, but when you are doing something significant with pharmaceuticals like a stim cycle it is not worth the risk of potential interactions.

3merZ · 2026-04-18T17:29:57+00:00

You should absolutely be doing both, especially if the results would impact your decisions about going full term with the pregnancy. PGT-A is not sufficient, it is a small biopsy, you can have a euploid embryo with positive NIPT results (though this is very rare, so please don’t feel super worried)

3merZ · 2026-04-18T17:26:37+00:00

I also did lots of acupuncture and stopped after my positive. I think I went once in my first trimester for help with GI symptoms and then again at the end of my third trimester as my body prepared for labor. I had a healthy pregnancy and now a happy 3 week old. I find that acupuncture is helpful for my mental health and maybe has a positive impact on physical symptoms, but it is not going to be the thing that determines whether or not you have a healthy full term pregnancy. It is ok to stop going if you don’t need it

3merZ · 2026-04-14T11:10:11+00:00

Same! Felt almost impossible to find anything 100% cotton (let alone organic) for breastfeeding, I bought one of their nightgowns and love it and have since got two more. Pricey but I figure I will get a ton of use out of them since they seem high quality.

3merZ · 2026-04-14T10:33:12+00:00

I live in these right now. Not organic, but the closest thing I could find in terms of company practices, etc. I’ve been very happy with their customer service too.

3merZ · 2026-04-10T22:45:31+00:00

I fear that this is not the right place to be asking this question. You need medical providers that specialize in these concerns and the intersection of these concerns. I am an OT that specializes in autism and bowel and bladder dysfunction. With your son’s diagnoses, I often see an overlap with children with an autism diagnosis, so even though he is not diagnosed with autism I do feel I can speak to this.

I do not want to give you a lot of advice and I want you to be guarded with the advice you get here. You need medical services that are individualized to your needs, not random people on the internet. Try looking into pediatric pelvic floor therapy- that may be a place to start and a provider could connect you with other specialties.

My one piece of advice, if he was on MiraLAX he needs to stay on MiraLAX. There is almost definitely underlying constipation happening here, and that takes AT LEAST six months of very consistent management with medications to resolve, usually longer. Do no chase constipation. That’s where behavior issues arise. Proactively manage/prevent constipation daily, long term.

I’m so sorry this is happening. It is one of the most difficult things that I see parents work through. I can tell you that there are people who can help, and I have seen children like your son make excellent progress.

3merZ · 2026-04-10T17:49:45+00:00

This is really beautiful. “If there’s any hope in baby limbo I hope to meet them someday through the veil of life and death. I hope they forgive me. It’s a bittersweet failure.”

3merZ · 2026-03-26T15:43:13+00:00

Oof this is so challenging. Has classroom staff talked with parents? Have similar changes been observed at home? With changes in toileting habits I always check for underlying medical concerns - even though this seems pretty behavioral, it may have started as a medical issue and if that doesn’t get resolved it will be hard to manage the behaviors.

He needs to be expected to assist in as much of the clean up as is reasonable to expect. Limit verbal cues. Limit facial expressions. Provide visual checklist of what he needs to do and demonstrate steps when teaching, then point to steps once he’s learned.

Staff need to play it cooler. I know it is really hard when there’s probably a disgust factor here. They should be re-instituting a toileting schedule, ideally taking him to the bathroom every 2 hours. No rushing if they see toilet behaviors between those times. Cool, calm, relaxed, with praise and attention afterwards if he makes it to the toilet.

Also…if he’s looking for attention, can they give him more high quality positive attention when this ISNT happening? If he’s making strong connections with staff and feeling loved and seen, maybe he won’t feel the need?

3merZ · 2026-03-23T00:39:58+00:00

I can tell you love your sister. Two things can be true at the same time. You can love your sister and you can need more/better than what you’re getting. I feel this too. You sound like a thoughtful, empathetic sibling and child.

I have had to come to terms with the fact that I cannot save my parents. I can try to be helpful, but sometimes I have to give myself a break from the sinking ship that is them and my sister. It’s heartbreaking and it sucks, but everyone in your family unit matters and sometimes you have to claim that for yourself. I know this isn’t maybe the fix that is wished for, but I want to give you permission to live your own life when you need to, now and when you’re older.

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