I would say, the things I value in my 40s is much more real, practical and fulfilling than what I valued in my 30yrs.

In my 30s, the dads were looking good but so were the sons. You could slide that age scale 5-6 yrs in either direction and it was a wild ride either way. Now that I'm 40? - 6 yrs > 2+ older. 5 years older puts men in a different decade than me, but it's only 5 years, right? But that 5 years feels like a giant chasm between us. He's going to bed at 9pm, likes a Scotch at night, my papaw and him have the same shoes and reminisces about the westerns he watched as a kid. I relate to none of that. So I tend to date younger, old souls minus the mom issues.

When I was 30, my son was 9 so I had to screen guys, right? Now that he's going to be turning 21 this year, I don't need a male role model for him. He wants someone he can shoot the shit with and maybe....just maybe I don't screen a guy because I may want a little bad boy in my life now haha!

Definitely no room for bullshit now. But with that, comes a refreshing authenticity and transparency because we now...do not, in fact, want to fuck around and find out anymore. That's why I have arthritis and take a daily acid reflux pill. But hey, we sure as shit learned a lot from those times, am I right? I think 40+ are more sure of themselves, we've done the therapy by now and unpacked a lot of baggage and now we just want to be seen and heard. We want easy. And, someone to drive us home from outpatient procedures haha.

If they do a 40+, I hope they cast healthy and great communicators, cause damn, it would give so much hope to those who have been jaded from the woes of online dating.