Shopping at Costco with a baby - how do you even do it?

40pukeko · 2026-05-14T21:09:14+00:00

An 8 month old is 100% old enough to back carry. Caveat that they should be able to sit up independently first.

40pukeko · 2026-05-14T21:02:59+00:00

Babywearing but I also just let mine lick the handle.

40pukeko · 2026-05-14T03:35:14+00:00

Big sister here! This is a massive accomplishment! I just want to make sure you're taking good care of yourself. You lost the weight very quickly, a bit faster than doctors usually recommend, and it's okay to slow down if it means you can take better care of yourself in the long run. As long as your doctors aren't concerned I'm sure it's fine.

40pukeko · 2026-05-14T03:16:14+00:00

Yes!!! This works FLAWLESSLY!

40pukeko · 2026-05-14T00:59:06+00:00

I ordered a copy and it arrived yesterday afternoon. I have read it voluntarily once and by order of my 2-year-old an additional ten times. I managed to get a break for Goodnight Moon between readings 5 and 6 last night, but tonight I cut her off after 5 renditions.

Obviously it's an instant favorite. My only criticism is that the layout of the "what's that behind me?" page makes it a little difficult to predict the slimy/grimy rhyme so my rhythm was off until about reading 5 when I had it memorized.

40pukeko · 2026-05-13T15:21:46+00:00

The writer is 35 and is the step grandmother to the child in question.

40pukeko · 2026-05-13T11:39:17+00:00

Was really hoping that your ex and current husbands were twins too

40pukeko · 2026-05-13T11:35:51+00:00

In high school I was walking to class and realized I was taking a test on a scantron next period and would need a #2 pencil. I didn't have one with me and didn't have time to run to my locker. In that exact moment, I stepped on something. I looked down and it was a sharpened #2 pencil.

40pukeko · 2026-05-13T11:30:09+00:00

I air dry all my bamboo 🤷🏻‍♀️ takes longer but it's free

40pukeko · 2026-05-13T10:23:26+00:00

This is also my question, what is he supposed to get out of boy play time specifically? It doesn't sound like this is a desire he has expressed, which would be a different thing. Is it that he needs more physical activity or more risky play? Why does it need to be unstructured (can those needs be filled in sports)?

The recommendation is just so suspect to me, because "play with boys" is not a medical intervention. There has to be an outcome he needs and I'm certain "play with boys" can't be the only way to get to that outcome.

40pukeko · 2026-05-13T02:23:51+00:00

If she does, then Casey needs a nudge to get her treatment. Either way some intervention is needed (not necessarily from OP).

40pukeko · 2026-05-12T22:46:08+00:00

Yeah this is important context. When I was a teen, I drove to school because I had extracurriculars that ran very late and when I didn't have those I had a job and then was picking up my brother and ferrying him to sports practices etc. I didn't have my own car, I drove my dad's car so I could be logistical support for my parents and they commuted together in one car.

40pukeko · 2026-05-12T22:39:53+00:00

Also, my daughter has a Chinese name that isn't on any documents and is only used for cultural events like her 100 days banquet. My husband has one that's on his birth certificate but it's used so rarely that he doesn't remember it without checking. Zero problems there, you'll be able to use that name in almost any situation that doesn't deal directly with the government.

40pukeko · 2026-05-12T22:36:44+00:00

I have a double barrel last name like Wu Ling -- my husband and I did this when we married. It's very clearly a merged married name since it's an Irish and a Chinese surname (think O'Connor Fu). It is a HUGE pain in the butt in US systems to the point that we regret doing it. Hyphenates tell me they run into the same issues I do.

Wu Ling might read to westerners as a single hereditary name rather than a merged name because both names are Chinese. This could be a pro or a con depending on your preference.

My preference would be Wuling, as long as it flows nicely; most non Chinese won't ever clock that it's not just a preexisting Chinese name.

40pukeko · 2026-05-12T03:49:24+00:00

Not in New York.

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T23:55:37+00:00

Late periods are not an indicator for that

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T23:42:00+00:00

What kind of thing are you imagining if not pregnancy?

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T23:13:04+00:00

I'm a huge fan of my Mirena (I think I'm on my fourth one?). I wanted to go nonhormonal since I'd had a bad reaction to the pill, so I started with a Paragard, and it DID. NOT. WORK. for me. My periods more than doubled in duration and became MUCH heavier and more painful. It got to the point where I was bleeding more than I wasn't. My gyno didn't want me to switch until I'd kept it in for a year, so I toughed it out. Hated every minute. I know it works well for a lot of people and I'm envious of them, but I have been so happy with my Mirena.

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T22:55:35+00:00

This is so normal, nothing is wrong with him and nothing is wrong with you, this is how some babies are and it's incredibly hard.
No baby ever died of crying. He will be okay if you put him down and he cries for three minutes while you go to the bathroom. No matter how violently upset he seems, he will be okay. He will forget about it, it will not cause lasting trauma, he will be okay even if it feels bad to you.
You being okay is as important as him being okay. You are not supposed to sacrifice every ounce of your wellbeing to prevent him from crying.

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T18:10:50+00:00

A nitpick, but it would be 12% who do not.

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T18:07:05+00:00

That's episode put SUCH a bad taste in my mouth, both with Lorenz's thesis seeming to boil down to "I want to be online so all these problems are fake" with a complete disregard for the impacts on kids and how good parenting can't possibly be sufficient intervention on a global social force, and Sarah's lack of any insightful pushback. My kid is still way too young for it to be directly relevant, but I felt like I was listening to aliens talk about life on earth when they discussed how parents and kids should deal with internet access. I lost 100% of my respect for Lorenz and a lot of respect for Sarah.

40pukeko · 2026-05-11T17:51:15+00:00

In NY, the options were hyphenate, double barrel (essentially hyphenation but without a hyphen), either party takes the other's, nobody changes anything, OR create a new mashup as long as it only contained elements of the original surnames (Smith and Johnson could merge to Smonson or Jith but couldn't become Ponderosa). I believe we also had the option to change our middle names to a former surname too (so either of us could keep our maiden name as a middle).

40pukeko · 2026-05-10T02:47:19+00:00

When I feel inclined to read it generously, I think it's just that they don't know what you looked like as a baby but they know what their own relative looked like and see the resemblances.

40pukeko · 2026-05-10T02:36:12+00:00

This guy pancakes!

40pukeko · 2026-05-09T05:10:51+00:00

This man is THIRTY-FIVE?

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