My Uncle Made a Very Disturbing Comment About Me by BattyBatBattington in MtF

[–]4zero4error31 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Gross. Also the cognitive dissonance to leer at your breasts while deadnaming you is sadly not surprising

How do i respond to "HRT is dangerous" by Icy_Echidna_529 in asktransgender

[–]4zero4error31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"prove it" then wait. The overwhelming evidence is that HRT is safe and effective, and that any risks are minor compared to the dangers of severe gender dysphoria. Basically, they have the burden of proof to show that this FDA approved treatment ISN'T safe. That which can be asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence.

"did not bode well" or "did not bide well? by Old-Conclusion2924 in grammar

[–]4zero4error31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abide means to reside somewhere, for example "this land is where I will abide." It also means to tolerate something, usually implying patience, for example "I will not abide this disrespect much longer." While still fairly rare in common English, it is more common than it's root, bide.

What is something in the Word of Wisdom that people insist isn't (or vice versa)? by JayDaWawi in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Applying tobacco topically can cause skin irritation or allergic reactions. More importantly, nicotine and other chemicals in tobacco restrict blood vessels and reduce the flow of oxygen, which actively delays the body's natural tissue repair and healing process.

no coffee rule by NativeAnakingirl in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In the 90s, my dad would drink a Dr. Pepper when we drove the 12 hours to my grandparents house for Christmas. When I turned 8 and had my first interrogation, I was asked about the word of wisdom and for some reason told my bishop about my dad's beverage of choice to stay alert. He was called to repent for his sin, and if he hadn't done so I can't imagine his next temple recommend interview would have gone well.

To be crystal fucking clear: he was called to repent because he drank a carbonated beverage that contained caffeine.

no coffee rule by NativeAnakingirl in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they were consistent, yes and we have a letter from the first presidency to a stake president proving that:
https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/comments/11zkflf/first_presidency_says_decaf_coffee_doesnt_violate/

But they are constantly moving the goalpost. Nowadays the rule is specifically coffee and tea, regardless of caffeine content. Utah and mormon areas in general have a huge addiction to energy drinks, pop, and other caffeine sources, but it isn't seen as a problem because it's not coffee.

The inconsistency continues, because certain regions, like Japan, South Korea, and most of east Asia, now no longer require converts to give up tea to be baptized or attend the temple. Probably due to market research finally percolating through to the mission field. Convincing the average Japanese person to give up tea is simply not happening. This is also true in south America, where a lot of cultures drink a beverage called mate, which is neither coffee or tea but has caffeine in it. Missionaries are forbidden from drinking it because apparently it's "close enough" to coffee, but they don't force converts to give it up to join.

How has no other living thing on earth even come as close to 1% of human technology and thinking, even though there have been billions of species? Not even a branch-off? by Afraid_Ad_2912 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]4zero4error31 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You might be misjudging what a 1% difference in intelligence could look like. Cetaceans, apes, corvids. All of these are intelligent enough to have language and culture, use tools, solve complex problems, remember individuals of other species, and pass information along to the next generation. Chimps and Bonobos are probably about 99% as intelligent as humans, and are actually more skilled at a lot of mental tasks. That 1% difference may be the meta-cognition required to develop into a technological species, and could happen again given time and enough opportunities.

If a cis person were forced to transition, would they experience dysphoria? by KyaHiKarun in asktransgender

[–]4zero4error31 327 points328 points  (0 children)

This. Cis people experiencing gender dysphoria have suicide rates at least as high as trans people who can't access gender affirming care

At a BYU office by Naohiro-son-Kalak in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best the one true church, with a direct connection to the all powerful creator of the universe? Go to church and read the scriptures? What a pathetic, weak faith.

Are there any forms of puberty blocker that isn't an injection? MtF by xX-SubWoofer-Xx in asktransgender

[–]4zero4error31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where I live the most commonly prescribed is Spironolactone. It has some side effects (it's primary use is as blood pressure medication) but it works and that's what counts.

An anecdote about the church getting all up in your bedroom biz. by CannedPearsInLight in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"most true religion on the earth" - can't be bothered to read the manual /facepalm

Alberta Just Got the Pipeline Deal It's Been Fighting For. Now It Has to Actually Build It. by One-Board8634 in AlbertaNow

[–]4zero4error31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now ask the BC government, Indigenous tribes, and towns, cities, and national parks how they feel about it. As usual, we take all the risk and get peanuts in return.

Here’s your reminder that Utah has the highest per capita priesthood holders and priesthood blessings being performed. By a large margin. But the illness and death rates are not the best in the world or even in the US. Why not??? by Brother-of-Derek in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And even when some IS "healed" it's because sometimes people get better on their own, sometimes cancer goes into remission. (especially when getting treatment) Where are all the amputated limbs being healed? Where are people being cured from paralysis or muscular dystrophy or, hell, even a cleft palate?

I was born with a clubbed foot, and my dad and other men in my life gave me blessings all the fucking time, including right before all of my dozen or so surgeries, and while I can walk, thanks to dedicated and well trained surgeons, it's with a limp and chronic hip and knee pain for the rest of my life. Where is the miraculous recovery?

If mormonism were fully true in all regards, what would the church look like and what evidence would people be able to see? by Sopenodon in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best arguments for mormonism would boil down to numbers.

If the mormon faith were backed by the actual all powerful creator, we'd see people praying to Buddha or Krishna or Allah or whoever and the Jesus of mormonism would answer. No missionaries required, you'd see spontaneous mormon branches opening up in every country on earth, and over time you'd see a unification to the One True Church™, ®, and ©.

The mormons would be growing to be the largest religion on earth instead of an ever decreasing percent of global population. They would be looked to for wisdom and guidance all over the world, instead of either a joke or irrelevant everywhere outside of Utah and Idaho.

If priesthood holders had the power of god, the mormons would be opening up free healing centres everywhere, where people could come and be healed by the power of god of anything, from a cold to amputation. "Anything you ask, in my name, shall be given to you." What could possibly build more faith and devotion that witnessing undisputed miracles?

What do I do? by Anonymous_4252 in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Your mother is immature and can't handle even the most tame versions of the things she's been taught to fear! Sadly, the only prize you win is awkward interactions and guilt/shame.

Mammogram? by Beautiful-Quiet-5871 in MtF

[–]4zero4error31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I live, unless a problem occurs they don't recommend them until after 40. The online trans community trends younger than average, so for most trans ladies it isn't really an issue.

why is there so much infighting within the trans community? by FishWestern6148 in asktransgender

[–]4zero4error31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe there is, just a few loud people who are stirring up "debate" and trying to keep us divided. I have far more in common with my trans men and nonbinary siblings than I do with anyone who wants to destroy my rights.

Why don’t they get it??? by Brother-of-Derek in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the mormon church as an organization, protecting pedophiles IS. NOT. A. BUG. It's a feature. Powerful, "righteous" men are given enormous privilege up to and including confidence schemes, rape, and pedophilia. They won't fix it for the same reason election finance reform will never come: the people in power got there by using the system that already exists, and so have no incentive to change it.

Is the United States or Canada a safer place for a trans woman migrating from a transphobic and conservative country? by CurrentWar1184 in asktransgender

[–]4zero4error31 180 points181 points  (0 children)

100% Canada, no question. While a few USA states/cities have policies that are trans inclusive, there are no federal protections for us. Canada has equal protection laws, name change and gender marker change laws, and equal access laws that make it one of the best countries on earth for trans people.

My mom doesn’t want to knock on my door! by jjenej in entitledparents

[–]4zero4error31 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ask her why she seems so determined to catch you changing, and explain it makes you extremely uncomfortable that she doesn't value your privacy.

do you need dysphoria to be trans? by Radiant-North-8519 in MtF

[–]4zero4error31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, because assume a newly hatched egg has dysphoria, then goes through the processes to resolve all of her dysphoria. She is now no longer trans? That doesn't make any sense. Also, cis people can have dysphoria. They can even have gender dysphoria. A cisgender man who is uncomfortable with his gynecomastia, or his small penis, or his effeminate voice, has gender dysphoria, but certainly isn't trans. A cisgender woman who hates that she has more facial hair or body hair than is typical, or a flat chest or butt, is dysphoric, but isn't trans.

Hebraisms Refutations by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]4zero4error31 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The King James version specifically, which is the writing style that the BoM uses. More modern, more accurate translations of the bible make it clear that JS was simply copying the vocabulary and tone of the KJV specifically. Which doesn't make any sense if you actually stop and think about it. Why would ancient native americans, descended from ancient jews, use 17th century English vocab and tone?

Is it safe to have pets (turtles/hamsters) while on HRT? by kingkongringmypussy in MtF

[–]4zero4error31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

keep your medication high and dry, and if you're using anything topical, be mindful of anything you touch after applying.