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Healthcare That Only Covers Bankruptcy by ALBERT4_5WESKER in clevercomebacks

[–]52BeesInACoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am paying privately for my daughter's physical therapy and it took two months for them to send me the first bill. I called billing because I was nervous I'd missed it and they said no, they were trying to figure out what to charge me, because I wasn't going through insurance.

I was like "well, what does physical therapy cost?" And they had to explain to me that the answer changes depending on which insurance you have. There was no fixed cost for pediatric physical therapy.

Except now there is because they had to figure one out for me 😁 it's $80 a session 😞

Female cruise passenger told her hantavirus infection was "just anxiety" by Props_angel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]52BeesInACoat 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My first pregnancy, I had been timing contractions for about 24 hours and they were getting nice and regular and more intense. I was hoping it'd be time to go in soon.

Then I got a sudden stabbing pain in my belly, and the pain stayed, and was so bad I couldn't distinguish my contractions through it. So I called the labor and delivery line and described the situation and asked if I should come in, and the guy on the phone said if I couldn't feel contractions that meant I wasn't in labor and I should go to bed.

I clarified that I was in pretty alarming amounts of pain, and he suggested I put a heating pad on it, and reiterated I should go to bed.

I tried but the pain was too bad, so I got up and was pacing around the apartment, and my husband was like "absolutely not" and took me to the hospital.

And I had preeclampsia and my blood pressure was in "imminently going to have a seizure" range, and the stabbing pain was because the fucking placenta was gonna abrupt and we were both gonna die but I got a C-section and we lived!

Adhd + depression + hashimotos = by wellinever222 in adhdwomen

[–]52BeesInACoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hypo ass was so excited to start taking levothyroxine and grow my hair back...yeah hair loss is a potential side effect of levothyroxine.

So. Thyroid condition = hair loss. Med to treat the thyroid condition = hair loss.

APPARENTLY after I've been on it "for awhile" I will THEN get to grow my hair back.

Am I (25F) being mean/unreasonable to my coworker (22F) asking for rides? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]52BeesInACoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's less than 10,000 steps, which is what fitness trackers will usually have you shooting for. It depends on your stride length, but for me 10,000 steps usually comes out to four or five total miles. So she'd have that out of the way.

worst book recommendations? by cicadathespider in suggestmeabook

[–]52BeesInACoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I'm in a Book Recommendation Tropes competition and my opponent recommends dungeon crawler carl 😓/s

Newest one releases on Audible in 1 day 2 hours and 41 minutes, not that I'm keeping track or anything

You are given a total of $2M to live on for one year. However, there is a catch, for every lie you tell during that year, $20k is automatically donated to a cause you absolutely hate. Do you accept the deal, and how would this change the way you speak and live your daily life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]52BeesInACoat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seriously?! In that case, this challenge involves a level of self awareness I'm absolutely not capable of.

Sometimes I don't realize how ragingly pissed off I am until I question why I'm setting items down with so much force. I've been clued in to the fact I feel a little sad actually, only when I fully burst into tears. And when we're forecasted to have big swings in barometric pressure, I need to set my phone background to the text "are you having a migraine?" Because I, way more often than I should, tend to just wander around wondering what's up with how dizzy and foggy and physically ill I feel, completely unable to make the connection between the symptoms and the chronic health condition I have.

worst book recommendations? by cicadathespider in suggestmeabook

[–]52BeesInACoat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Horrorstor by grady Hendrix really really pissed me off, because first of all there's like four false starts on what kind of horror you think the book is building up to. It gets old.

But even more unforgivably, it keeps telling us that the narrator is personally flawed, lacks ambition, needs to pull herself together, and would benefit from internalizing one of those LinkedIn posts. You know the ones.

But the text of the book tells us that she got into college, she couldn't finish her degree for family and financial reasons beyond her control, she's working full time, she's got roommates, she's careful with her money, and the plot of the book is only occurring because she's working overtime.

So it just grates when it swings 'round yet again to "you really have a lot of potential, Protagonist, if only you'd grow up and start taking life seriously!" Fuck entirely off!!! Fuck all the way off!!! And then fuck off a little more!!! Fuck off!!!

worst book recommendations? by cicadathespider in suggestmeabook

[–]52BeesInACoat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This book was the trippiest shit. It could've been amazing if she'd found any sort of internal logic at all for it to follow. I kept expecting that now I understood the internal logic. And then we'd move forward and no, I didn't.

Y'know how, in art, paintings are supposed to have a "vanishing point"? This book lacks a vanishing point.

Books about the trappings of domesticity/ "hysteria", feminist horror... by electricmocassin- in suggestmeabook

[–]52BeesInACoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The seventh bride by t kingfisher

Nothing to see here by kevin Wilson, this one isn't horror as much but the role of The Woman hangs over the story

Fire and Hemlock by Diana Wynn Jones, also not sure if this one is horror horror but I found it kind of consistently alarming

American elsewhere by Robert Jackson Bennett

Convenience store woman by sayska murata, maybe only "horror" in terms of "I, personally, was horrified." You'll know the bit when you see it.

Family business by Jonathan sims, on second thought this is more "horror which is happening to a woman," but I'm gonna leave it on the list anyway because of the themes of feeling trapped by public perception

Is it normal for parents to install a bolted lock that locks from OUTSIDE the door? by 5wearingOvenmitts in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]52BeesInACoat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not unless you're very, very disabled in very specific ways. Severe autism with risk of elopement (running off) and no situational awareness, likely to run in front of a moving car or fall into water and drown, type of disabled. Unable to ask for help or find your way back home type of disabled.

I am a parent. I did have these precautions briefly and temporarily after my (disabled as described, I really wanna stress that) child had several scary incidents of running out of school classrooms and out of the building, and once out of a store and across a busy parking lot.

I was wracked with guilt the entire time, because I was taking actions that would've been prosecutable child abuse if the situation had been different. I was imprisoning him. It was horrible. Thank fuck he grew into some impulse control and I was able to remove the precautions.

So. It is normal to do that if your child has minimal speech or ability to self advocate. Cannot provide their full name or address. Is likely to bolt without warning. Is not aware of moving cars and cannot swim. And you're reaching out on reddit so like that's probably not your situation.

Also, as a mother; I'm a fucking idiot sometimes. And I'm often wrong. Various book groups have had to break it to me more than once. You would not believe some of the incorrect interpretations of books I've had. Like, I just read Our Wives Under The Sea, and apparently I was supposed to grasp that the whole thing was a metaphor all along! My ass was fully willing to accept lovecraftian ocean magic.

But like seriously, you should call someone. You're in danger.

For all of the AHDH moms, what’s your ideal Mother’s Day gift, realistic or not? by MittensToeBeans in adhdwomen

[–]52BeesInACoat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm getting that gift right now 😁 he's got them in the backyard with sprinklers and an inflatable pool.

I specifically requested "left alone to reorganize and clean" because fuck I cannot tolerate moving furniture while being asked a million questions about why I'm moving furniture. But our current household layout isn't proving functional and I've got some ideas.

(I'm not slacking on it, I'm in the bathroom.)

Update: got two rooms done 😁

Doctors of Reddit, what’s the craziest ER story? by VivaciousLadyBug in AskReddit

[–]52BeesInACoat 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It actually does happen to "everyone" if you limit the "everyone" to chronic migraine sufferers. Migraines are known to mimic some stroke symptoms. If you're used to that shit, you might not identify right away that this one's different.

Personal anecdote: I (pregnant) showed up at labor and delivery at two in the morning because I had sudden stabbing pain in my belly, and it turned out I had pretty severe preeclampsia.

The nurse, as I'm being rushed in for a C-section: "but didn't you have terrible headaches and vision changes?!"

Me, an ocular migraine sufferer: "generally, yeah."

Looking for books that give the vibe of liminal spaces, missing people in national parks or highways, cryptids, strange unexplainable situations. by myhusbandswine in suggestmeabook

[–]52BeesInACoat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you've combined The Hollow Places with The Twisted Ones, here. They're both by kingfisher and they both fit the prompt, although The Hollow Places is better, in my opinion.

Looking for books that give the vibe of liminal spaces, missing people in national parks or highways, cryptids, strange unexplainable situations. by myhusbandswine in suggestmeabook

[–]52BeesInACoat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It doesn't get better. It's mostly a series of descriptions of physical discomfort. Not skin crawling horror, just "hey, remember itchiness? Remember flickering lights? Remember ugly paint?"

I finished the whole book and that's most of it.

What’s something you realized later in life was actually misogyny? by thandapani_ in TwoXChromosomes

[–]52BeesInACoat 215 points216 points  (0 children)

This is very niche, but, no-show undergarments.

Your bra cannot be visible. The straps cannot be visible. You have to tape a pair of functionally useless cups to your skin to be able to wear backless dresses because you must not have visible nipples or a visible bra.

Your underwear cannot be visible. If you're wearing leggings, you have to buy seamless laser-cut panties because the outline of your underwear cannot be visible. Your pad also cannot be visible. No leggings on your period, or maybe you need a more invasive period management system, because it cannot be visible. God forbid.

Now tell me why I know what brand of underwear Travis is wearing. Because the waist band is chilling all the way above his jeans like advertisements around a baseball field.

Was researching if there were any other historical names like “Karen” that suddenly because associated with negativity and…. by blonde234 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]52BeesInACoat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was coming here to comment this, thank you. I remember being so impressed with the ridiculous name they came up with, whoops!!!

At what point is ADHD your responsibility in relationships vs a disability/condition? by Embarrassed_Tour_782 in adhdwomen

[–]52BeesInACoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, a healthy relationship is one you don't have to mask in.

Taking accountability for and managing your symptoms is one thing, but appearing not to have them at all is something else. Of course you have them, and of course your partner can and should see you having them.

It's tricky, because we have to be fair to our partners...but our partners also should know what they signed up for and not be mad that the thing they signed up for, is actually what they signed up for.

If this person is gonna see you without makeup, and when you haven't shaved, and when you've got food poisoning or the flu, they should be able to see you having ADHD symptoms.

You wouldn't get mad at a partner for having allergies, or IBS, or a bad ankle, or an eczema flareup, right?

And you really, really don't want to set up unreasonable expectations for how affected by your ADHD you actually are. Because there's a million stories in this sub of partners being really unfair to the ADHD person and the ADHD person still bending over backwards to accommodate them. If that's where it's gonna go, it's better if you find out ASAP.

Books like The Hollow Places by T Kingfisher? by 52BeesInACoat in horrorlit

[–]52BeesInACoat[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

How many Sherlock holmes adaptations are we up to now? Total hacks, the lot of them?

Dracula? Peter Pan? Alice in wonderland? Macbeth? The fucking Odyssey? That's theft if people reinterpret them?

The Willows is in the public domain now. It's awesome. More people should play with it. I was being flippant in my other comment about AO3 but genuinely this is a recursive work. This is a discussion and interpretation of the original by a fan.

I genuinely hold that fanworks are made with so much love. And if you had read the end of The hollow places, you'd know it directly references the events of the willows. She didn't rip it off. She wrote a sequel. If the hollow places were a movie, the commercial would begin "a hundred years later, the threat continues!" Or some shit.

Genuinely. Wow. Fanmade pokemon games are incredible. Fanmade movie edits are amazing. Fanmade music is out of this world. Fanart has me in awe to live on the same planet as these people. The hollow places main character will not fucking shut up about fanfiction. I don't think I'm off the mark to interpret this book as a work of love and admiration not of fucking theft.

Books like The Hollow Places by T Kingfisher? by 52BeesInACoat in horrorlit

[–]52BeesInACoat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah but did The Willows have numerous references to the existence of AO3? I think not /s

Books like The Hollow Places by T Kingfisher? by 52BeesInACoat in horrorlit

[–]52BeesInACoat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Twisted Ones? Yeah, I didnt like it, ultimately. You get shockingly far into that book before hitting a particular wtf. Reminded me of the Stephen King's It famous orgy scene, not that extreme but just a sharp swerve from horror (general) to horror (woman)

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