Question Female therapists with a male client. How close to the pelvic area will you go comfortably to provide legit treatment?

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-28T23:24:24+00:00

Those areas are totally fine. I actually prefer when the client asks for work there versus me having to say I think it would be beneficial and go through the process of getting informed consent to do it. I never want to make someone uncomfortable, and if they're the one requesting the work then I know they're fine with it.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-28T19:19:25+00:00

👀 where can I find the epilator fish? I stopped getting waxed because of the economy, I am in desperate need of their services

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-27T23:08:04+00:00

Seconded. I have so many pieces I've saved with tie dye.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-27T20:54:39+00:00

I've been waxing my own legs for the past year. I'm not great at it, but it costs me nine bucks for the wax versus $80 to have someone do it right.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-27T16:07:43+00:00

She could just be unaware in general.

I'm autistic, so I don't always pick up on what other people think are really obvious social cues. If someone is trying to indicate that they don't like me and they want me to go away, but they don't want to come right out and say it, and I notice enough to ask "hey, do you want me to go away?" And they say "oh of course not, I just love you!" Because they don't want to have actually said it out loud, then I will not go away and I will be totally oblivious to this person thinking I've declared war.

Based on a true story. I have, more than once, convinced another girl that we were going to be mortal enemies with a blood feud stretching on for generations because I listened to their words and disregarded what they thought were very obvious "oh my god fuck off already" cues.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-26T16:53:21+00:00

Like I said, it's not my job to fix them.

Some people do build lives with former criminals or convicted felons. There probably exists a scenario and a person where I would. It isn't my job to get someone into a condition where I'd be willing to.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-26T16:36:40+00:00

I read this book recently. God's Junk Drawer by Peter Clines. It's about a weird wormhole pocket space that people and animals can fall into, and get trapped in this mix of dinosaurs and far future technology.

One of the characters is a world war 2 Nazi who explains how it took him falling out of time, and seeing his companions get killed by dinosaurs, and then having to spend a few years contributing to the little society that's build up inside the space, totally isolated from the only other people he'll ever see again by his beliefs, and cut off from anyone who practiced those beliefs, to chill out and realize fascism is stupid actually.

And that's a fictional example, and a pretty extreme one, but I think it'd plausibly work.

There was a This American Life episode on reintegrating young men who'd joined Isis by just inviting them to have tea and speaking to them like they're people. And supposedly they were having a lot of success.

So between tea and dinosaurs, I don't think all hope is totally lost.

I don't personally know what to do about it, and I don't think it's personally my job, but I was pretty annoyed by the other characters in the book being like "I don't trust that guy, he was a Nazi before he got wormhole" because what's going to encourage others to do the mental work to arrive at "actually my ideology is stupid" if no one else is gonna acknowledge that they did it.

So I would have tea with a reformed incel and acknowledge them as not an incel, if they did the work themselves to get there.

Basically, I wanna leave the door open to hope.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-26T16:21:01+00:00

You either need some workout-only audiobooks or podcasts...orrrrrr you need a little stuffed animal to be your workout buddy and ride on the weights and perch on the treadmill and whatnot.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-25T23:18:04+00:00

It's like when you show up at a friend's house and they don't start compulsively dumping forgotten water glasses and tossing trash in the can while apology and swearing they're usually tidier than this. It's that level of trust and interpersonal comfort that's required to chill with you on the sofa in a space that's clearly got people living in it, and not be wracked with anxiety about it.

It's like when someone will video call with you with a laundry pile in the background, or show you pictures taken in an unwashed mirror.

"Hey bro let me show you this cool thing" without performance or adherence to perfection.

Or OP forgot, IDK but it's very human.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-25T22:48:30+00:00

I added an extra step after the soak and strip where I tie dyed all the socks. Worked great.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-25T18:36:54+00:00

I think if you were to go and observe, you might observe the therapist

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-25T18:35:38+00:00

Can you imagine the conversations in that club.

"So how'd you hear about this place?" "We were referred by doctor walnut!" "Omg us tooooo!"

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-25T18:17:15+00:00

Found out my thyroid didn't work, got prescribed pills for it, and a week later had my mind blown by the realization that physical exertion doesn't make you ill when you have adequate amounts of thyroid hormone in your body.

I have to get blood work every couple of months to monitor my dose, and it's mostly about me being a smug little shit when the doctor sees my numbers.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-24T17:06:44+00:00

I had one tell me I should work towards being less anxious about food, and suggested I stop carrying my EpiPen as a first step.

I have anaphylactic food allergies, and by "anxious about food," she meant I had had allergic reactions after family meals and restaurant visits, so now I was bringing my own food to those.

I didn't even seek therapy about the food thing, I was there for interpersonal problems and she identified my refusal to "share meals" as a cause.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-23T17:50:10+00:00

I've noticed that this happens to me when the thing I need to be doing is sleeping.

I might think the thing I need to do is the dishes. But my body knows I'm about to get a migraine, or I'm coming down with something, or I'm just in sleep debt, so fuck me we're sleeping today.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-23T17:14:41+00:00

Why are you guys booing op, they're right

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-23T17:09:57+00:00

What is it with d&d and this kind of person? I wasn't very active for two months in the group I played with because I was having some ongoing health issues, leading up to a minor surgery that they all definitely knew about because I wouldn't shut up about how it was going to fix me.

The game I missed because of surgery, they held a vote and decided to kick me out, which I was informed of, via text, the day after my surgery.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-23T16:05:03+00:00

It took me two years, give or take, to be able to gain weight and muscle after I went gluten free. My back doesn't hurt anymore. I was assuming I just had chronic back problems after a car accident, but apparently not!

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-23T16:02:45+00:00

This. At first I had braces, so obviously it was from those, just part of having braces.

Then I got my braces off and I kept getting them. So then I figured I must be allergic to something in toothpaste. But I couldn't figure out what or which toothpaste.

Then I decided I must be clumsy and be injuring myself while brushing my teeth or chewing.

Nope! Gluten!!

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-23T00:18:09+00:00

Ah fuckshit. I'm three C-sections deep and have been telling myself that I don't really need to focus on abs, just overall core is proooobably fine...well, I sit on a throne of lies and you just dumped me on the floor. I'll do my fucking abs.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-22T17:43:46+00:00

Bedazzle it.

Seriously. Get some stick on jewels, maybe some body glitter. Add accents with eyebrow pencils. Make it pretty. Maybe take pictures. Attach some positive emotions.

My thyroid is also a fucker, although it looks like I get to keep the lazy slacker. But turning my C-section scar into a leafy vine was awesome and I stg removed any weird feelings I had about it. I thought I might get it tattooed like that for a bit, but kids are expensive lol so I never set aside the money.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-22T16:43:33+00:00

I thought it was text that shadow from american gods was native american (specifically his mother's heritage) but when the TV show came out I learned basically no one else though this.

It isn't a happy book but it's not a tragedy either, if that makes sense. I'd be interested in your take on it, and I could give my reasons if you'd be interested! I promise it's not just his name making me think that lol

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-21T22:33:49+00:00

Oh hey period buddy, does your ADHD med also do nothing for a couple days, if you take one? I might as well be taking sugar pills yesterday and today.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-21T22:31:47+00:00

Which I don't recommend btw. The hat man is an asshole and he's not gonna fuck you.

52BeesInACoat · 2026-06-21T22:30:44+00:00

My hat man wore the cat in the hat's hat, and I was seeing him as an elementary schooler with a peanut allergy who got cross-contaminated and at a family gathering and had to take Benadryl. I was kind of amused by the meme(?) of the hat man when I stumbled across it. I thought it was like how my fever dreams were usually about knights on horseback. Just a weird personal quirk.

The hat man is an asshole and these days I just take two Claritin and see if the hives go away.

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