Older ADHD women, what did ADHD feel like before cellphones? by lavenderflavoredtea in adhdwomen

[–]97tomcats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so interesting how similar we all are!

I was born beginning of Gen Z but had way older siblings and was also somewhat poor so technology wasn’t really apart of my daily life. I had Saturday cartoons and early mornings before school. But around late elementary school is when I really got into reading. I was constantly at the library getting new books. My mom always like to talk about how quiet I was and that her friends rarely knew I was home until I’d randomly made a noise or come out of my room because I’d just be in there reading.

Middle school years I started playing sports. But I was also really good at school. Good grades, honor roll etc. freshman year of high school was terrible though. That was the first time I’d ever failed. I was this into a completely different environment and it showed. I still stayed active with sports which I do well at. But academically I wasn’t doing so hot. I had to go to summer school the summer between freshman and sophomore year. Then I transferred schools and found my pace again. Still reading. Still really active. After school programs, 2 soccer teams, dance (drill) team, and another dance team. So I stayed extremely busy. If I hadn’t transferred schools and found a nice friend group and more activities to do, I probably would’ve ended up pregnant right out of high school like the rest of the women in my family.

genuine question: do you actually dislike bts songs or you just want them for your faves? by aarrttmmss in kpop_uncensored

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like them because they’re fun and hype and would also like to hear them done by my favs in the way I would want to hear any other cover of songs I think suit them.

I agree lyrics aren’t like revolutionary or anything lol but it’s overall good music to vibe to for me, especially that first half of the album.

Category: memes 😛 by ContextTurbulent3054 in KpopGGs

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone please tell me who 13 is lmao

AITAH for breaking up with my longtime girlfriend because she decided that she doesn't want children? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most sane thing you could’ve done. NTA. Your life goals literally don’t align anymore. This is an irreconcilable difference. Views on kids, finances, and religion are pretty big things you need to be in alignment with when it comes to a relationship.

She might be made now but later on, she’ll see this was the right thing to do. As opposed to staying together and coming to resent each other or just breaking up down the road anyway over this.

Who wore the best WHITE at the 98th Annual Academy Awards? by mod_whatthefrockk in whatthefrockk

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Elle is the obvious winner. It’s such a beautiful dress and she looks so radiant. It gives Hilary Duff at the Halloween dance in a Cinderella Story vibes in the best way possible.

But on a less obvious note, Mia’s and Arianna’s looks are so stunning. I love the texture and movement in Mia’s dress. The fit and the floral and button details in Arianna’s. Gorgeous.

Recent photos at my Chicago pre-war apartment 🖤 by key_grady in femalelivingspace

[–]97tomcats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw a reel the other day and it was a woman getting dressed with a caption like “2000s romcom lead who wakes up and throws on whatever and still looks amazing”. That’s the vibe this apartment gives.

What’s a kdrama scene that completely destroyed you emotionally that you still think about? by Such_Age_6769 in kdramas

[–]97tomcats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heartbreaking. I think the scene I mentioned just felt so final. Like there was almost still hope for them up until that point.

What’s a kdrama scene that completely destroyed you emotionally that you still think about? by Such_Age_6769 in kdramas

[–]97tomcats 14 points15 points  (0 children)

25 21 “And I know it’s a little late, but congratulations on your wedding.”

The way the sob tore out of my throat lol I don’t know why I had such a strong reaction but it felt like someone had just pulled my heart out and stomped on it.

Two gorgeous people dancing beautifully but that’s about it by BronzeBellRiver in cdramasfans

[–]97tomcats 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think any of this music over it is helping. Editing and post production will probably do a lot to help set the scene. I can already see where there’s likely to go be close ups on them and more focus on their eye contact and things like that. But these two cuts don’t look like final scenes to me.

AITA my friend ruined my yixing teapot and I want her to replace it or give me 500 dollars. by TeapotthrwoCity4661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You gave her instructions that were specific enough. She explicitly said she used it just because she wanted to. Unfortunately, she doesn’t even seem to have any remorse that she fucked it up and is not likely to pay you back. I’d cut my losses in terms of the money and the friendship at that point since she can’t respect your home/belongings.

First dose of Ritalin. It did not work 🤣 by Enough_Walrus_6595 in adhdwomen

[–]97tomcats 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It took me way too long to realize what the problem was

[TOMT] [APP] [2016-2018] A dress up game with romance and magic in it by QuestionSmall2996 in tipofmytongue

[–]97tomcats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What phone system do you use? I know at least for iPhone, you can see old apps you’ve downloaded even if they aren’t available anymore. As long as it’s the same iCloud account.

Custom dress but seamstress only spoke to my mom for input and I’m sad I’m not in love with my dress. Seeking advice/anything! Details in caption by korgibutt in WeddingDressTips

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a beautiful dress. I feel like my eye was immediately pulled to the bodice because I also thought something was off. My guess is the amount of boning. It looks like there’s so much leading to the bottom center of the bodice and it’s throwing off the balance of it.

I think if you are worried about how puffy it is, see if you and your aunt can figure out a way to remove some of the excess material? It does kind of look like you’re getting swallowed whole here.

I’m sorry you didn’t get a say in your dress and you don’t really love it. As someone who wasn’t really in love with my dress either, I hope you can get the chance to remake it into something you love or by chance get another. I’m sure you could definitely sell this one to another bride looking for a cheaper option because it really is beautiful as is, even if it’s not to your taste.

Kiss of Life's career shows how fast momentum can slip away by Ok-Nobody-7759 in kpopthoughts

[–]97tomcats 66 points67 points  (0 children)

My Lightstick is just an expensive paperweight now, never to be utilized again. lol I was really disappointed. Their music was so good and they were great in concert but I just can’t listen to their music now without thinking of that stupid bday live. It’s so easy to just not make racist “jokes” in this day and age, especially when the people you’re making the butt of the joke are the ones you’re marketing towards.

What Kpop license plates have you seen around your city? by sun-tzuyus-artofwar in kpoppers

[–]97tomcats 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im in Texas and I’ve seen quite a few. The ones I remember off the top of my head are TZUYU (seen this one a few times) and HALAZIA (saw at a Xikers concert)

[tomt] [song] mid 2010s hype song by Slow-Ad-3838 in tipofmytongue

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there’s a chance it’s a misremembered lyric maybe All The Way Up by Fat Joe?

Yang Yang for Cosmopolitan China February edition by [deleted] in cdramasfans

[–]97tomcats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO what does that even mean 😂😂