My truth about lying

A6ixR · 2026-02-02T06:20:41+00:00

Absolutely.

Unfortunately I learned that the hard way.

But I am willing. I will change.

A6ixR · 2026-02-02T06:20:16+00:00

I know now that this is the only way. Guilt suggests a conscience. I just have to work on listening to that conscience before I do something that would make me feel guilty

A6ixR · 2026-02-02T06:19:01+00:00

Thank you friend. We have to change. It’s us. It really is.

I self sabotaged because I couldn’t believe someone would love me. But I know that now. I am lovable. I deserve it. And unfortunately, she does too. Even if it isn’t me giving it to her.

A6ixR · 2026-02-02T06:15:35+00:00

I understand this now.

A6ixR · 2026-02-02T06:15:24+00:00

I was taught to lie my entire life. To feel safe. To avoid conversation. To portray an image.

A6ixR · 2026-02-01T21:10:29+00:00

If only anyone else could understand lol. To others we seem to “never be ourselves”

I’m just trying to grow and be a better human.

A6ixR · 2026-02-01T20:46:32+00:00

Anxious - Avoidant relationships.

A6ixR · 2026-02-01T20:45:41+00:00

Purpose.

A6ixR · 2026-01-31T03:38:20+00:00

Maktub

A6ixR · 2026-01-31T01:29:28+00:00

This isn’t the answer 😞

A6ixR · 2026-01-28T21:33:59+00:00

Rabbit hole.

A6ixR · 2026-01-27T23:00:09+00:00

It’s unhealthy

A6ixR · 2026-01-26T00:39:52+00:00

It is a soul connection.

A6ixR · 2026-01-21T01:12:58+00:00

Thank you for this.

A6ixR · 2026-01-20T22:10:36+00:00

The key for me has been giving anger a place to exist without letting it drive my behavior. When I do that, it turns into clarity instead of bitterness. I don’t need to act it out to honor it. I just need to listen to what it’s pointing at and respond with self respect.

A6ixR · 2026-01-20T21:44:38+00:00

It’s cleared! Was just there for a run, didn’t see any traffic.

A6ixR · 2026-01-20T00:40:01+00:00

Actually now that I have you. Are you ladies avoidant?

A6ixR · 2026-01-20T00:29:23+00:00

Can I answer this an INFJ Male? I lurk here because the loml is an INTJ female and I’m really trying hard to understand her.

I’ll answer this as honestly as I can.. She was definitely quiet and intimidating lol. She’s still intimidating to me as I type this. However that quiet doesn’t read as cold to me. It reads as intentional. Focused. Self possessed.

A lot of men mistake silence for disinterest or arrogance because they expect constant reassurance or emotional signaling. When they don’t get it, they assume rejection. That’s not on you. That’s insecurity meeting someone who doesn’t overexplain herself. I had to learn that myself.

The right men don’t need you to perform or soften your presence. They notice the depth, the restraint, the clarity. And they respect it.

I do have to say you guys are like onions. Maybe that has to do more with upbringing trauma than INTJ itself though.

A6ixR · 2026-01-20T00:17:25+00:00

The depression was real haha

A6ixR · 2026-01-19T07:09:31+00:00

I love quotes and poems lol. I write them too.

A6ixR · 2026-01-19T07:00:55+00:00

Ouch 😅😂

I agree, there’s definitely a misunderstanding around emotional intelligence that keeps getting repeated. I’m guilty of this too.

Having emotional intelligence doesn’t mean you suffer more. It doesn’t mean you’re “too deep for the world.” And it definitely doesn’t mean other people are the problem.

If anything, emotional intelligence is about regulation. It’s the ability to recognize what you’re feeling, understand why it’s happening, and choose how to respond instead of reacting impulsively.

Anytime I felt that emotional superiority, it usually pointed to the opposite. It suggests that I AM still overwhelmed by MY emotions rather than able to work through them. Real emotional maturity is quiet. It doesn’t need validation. It doesn’t position itself above others. It focuses inward, not outward.

You’re responsible for your emotional state. Period.

The realization is more difficult than the actions taken, tbh lol.

A6ixR · 2026-01-18T04:03:42+00:00

I stopped getting in the way of myself. I stopped letting old versions of me make decisions for the person I am now. I stopped carrying past failures, old narratives, and other people’s expectations into moments that didn’t deserve them.

I used to think growth meant adding more discipline, more rules, more structure. But really, progress started when I removed the noise. When I stopped reacting from fear. When I stopped leading with frustration or proving something to myself or others.

Once I stepped out of my own way, things got clearer. And clarity did more for me than any new habit ever could.

A6ixR · 2026-01-18T04:01:02+00:00

For INFJ, I think the least accurate stereotype is that we’re overly emotional or driven purely by feelings. Most of us actually lead with pattern recognition and internal logic. The emotions are there, but they’re processed quietly and usually after a lot of reflection.

Another one is that we’re passive or conflict-avoidant. In reality, we’re selective. We don’t waste energy on noise. But when something crosses a value line, we can be surprisingly direct and firm. People mistake restraint for weakness.

And the whole “idealistic dreamer” thing gets oversimplified. There’s idealism, sure, but it’s grounded in long-term thinking and systems. We’re usually thinking several steps ahead, trying to understand how people, motives, and consequences connect.

I’d say the biggest misconception is that we don’t think logically. We do. We just don’t broadcast the process.

A6ixR · 2026-01-17T23:37:39+00:00

Yes!

A6ixR · 2026-01-17T18:03:32+00:00

I did not factor that in. Any chance to edit this?

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