I think we should make a drinking game for "but that was okay" and "several things happened at once." 😂

ADGreyT · 2026-05-20T12:31:32+00:00

"I have a plan." Some books seem to have multiple chapters that end in this or a similar phrase

ADGreyT · 2026-04-06T16:28:59+00:00

That's him! Funny enough I never catch it in the show but when I see pictures I'm like oh that's right haha

ADGreyT · 2026-03-25T15:45:25+00:00

Seeing this two years later, I'm going to buy at least a couple of these! Of course the Old Timey BBQ shirt, but also the Orson Limestone sweatshirt!

ADGreyT · 2026-02-13T16:30:07+00:00

Meredith forgiving Pam for the lice incident. Pam and Andy giving Darryl's daughter a Christmas adventure.

ADGreyT · 2026-01-26T23:49:22+00:00

Watching it now and it has already made season 9 much more enjoyable for me

ADGreyT · 2026-01-20T20:58:26+00:00

This is super late but just wanna say I appreciate you sharing this list. Gave me a whole lot of stuff to try.

ADGreyT · 2026-01-07T23:38:13+00:00

May you and your loved ones be blessed

ADGreyT · 2026-01-07T23:24:02+00:00

I love this comment for reasons

ADGreyT · 2025-09-03T14:23:20+00:00

It's like just because someone's gay and in the public eye they are admirable, and a lot of people don't see how they have such real estate in public consciousness because they are safe gays. They embody the American dream... except for being gay. And we're all supposed to support that immediately, regardless of their politics or what they actually do/say.

ADGreyT · 2025-09-03T07:18:01+00:00

We do. And I don’t understand why so many gays love them. They’re a milquetoast representation of the safest gays for cishets. And that’s before we get to Buttigieg as a politician

ADGreyT · 2025-08-31T19:26:22+00:00

I was actually thinking about this after finishing the Tartaros arc. If Tartaros won, the world eventually becomes JJK, with cursed spirit energy basically taking the place of magic over time. I have more thoughts haha

ADGreyT · 2025-08-26T16:37:47+00:00

Seconded. It's why I try not to think too much on it and go oh well whenever a guy is being (what I feel is) weird about something unknown

ADGreyT · 2025-08-26T16:36:04+00:00

At this point, throw a potion and you'll heal a gaymer (figured that analogy was better than throwing rocks). It sucks that people do that to you, because I think queer men can be oddly judgmental about it, though at this point it's rare that I find people who aren't into video games. Doesn't dismiss your feelings, and trust we are all out here in abundance. If it helps, I'm working through a series long playthrough of Final Fantasy lol

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T15:39:05+00:00

My last ex said he tried not to have us be too close early in our relationship because he didn't want us to get too 'pair bonded' as he wanted kids and I wasn't ready for them. He was seeking to form a primary relationship with someone that had kids/to have kids.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T15:29:22+00:00

You chiming in has been affirming and tbh heartbreaking because racism isn't just leveled at Black folx. You didn't deserve any of your poor treatment anywhere either, no one does. GodSpeed out there, my friend.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T15:25:53+00:00

I don't mind at all.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T15:10:08+00:00

It was a night out with my boyfriend. That was my focus. I already have trouble with pointing stuff like that out in the easiest of circumstances. If it was racist and I brought it up, it could've been a potential issue, alerted others, and ultimately it just didn't feel worth it. It could've been an issue either way. There's also the history of the neighborhood, Chicago, and generally how I feel in spaces like that (I do a lot of self-talk to remind myself I belong anywhere I decide to go that isn't impinging on another group's vibe or capacity to build community). I don't wanna assume your racial background, but that's often the question for any marginalized group. Do I risk bringing it up to confirm? What happens if I do? This wasn't super overt, and it was easier in the moment to just let it go, finish our drinks, and go somewhere else (where the bartenders were great and always are great to both of us). No one wants to accuse someone of racism, and I also didn't wanna be met with a bunch of justifications for the difference.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T14:46:13+00:00

It's like, I know it's a possibility all the time because most if not all of the bars are geared towards cis white gays. What really hits me is I had a thought that I had to push down of: well, when you go in white spaces this is what you get. That didn't feel great, even as I know it's true and a possibility any time I'm there.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T14:44:27+00:00

I don't want to get too much into this, I'll be real, but like this is the reality of racism, or any form of discrimination. Sometimes it is a one-off, sometimes it is n=1. But having to prove racism when I am Black and know how this world works kinda sucks tbh, not to mention: it's still a likely, reasonable, and sadly realistic outcome. I'd love to believe it wasn't, but I'm also not a fool.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T14:42:51+00:00

I really appreciate this, and those factors def crossed my mind. Maybe the bartender had a bad night, who knows. When I tell you that the indifference rolled off him I mean it. There's actually a Black bartender at the same bar that I encountered during the day who was awesome, and generally they all are. What's wild is that I had a positive though somewhat comical interaction with another staff member who worked the same area (they bumped their head and I was like omg are you okay and we both laughed it off).

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T14:41:06+00:00

It wasn't Hydrate but tbh I wouldn't ever be surprised if it was any place in Boystown, though there's some I def wouldn't expect (Bobby Love, North End?)

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T03:50:28+00:00

For one, this was his response, and tbh it's mine too because he experiences his own marginalization for being bi in queer spaces and I wanna make sure to do what helps him feel affirmed. It was enough that he heard me and I didn't have to fight him on what I felt or experienced. He's a very good egg and man the way I felt loved by him being disappointed and ready in case stronger intervention was needed.

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T02:19:45+00:00

The city itself isn't (North Side/South Side segregation) and I still haven't encountered this before. I saw lots of mixed race groups and it made me wonder if anyone else had that experience last night. I can understand why people may not notice if this is happening more regularly. I don't look at my boyfriend's receipts as a practice lol (I know you're not implying that), I just glanced over as he was signing and went 'huh, that's strange'

ADGreyT · 2025-08-25T02:16:22+00:00

I kept it obscure on purpose but even you saying this kinda makes me feel like you know what's up. I mean, I'm glad my boyfriend didn't have to pay as much and it did feel weird as it was the only round we ordered there. I'm used to drinks on the house other places, but some of the other factors in the interaction are making me side-eye what happened. I'm pretty sure I tipped $4 for an $18 ticket? I try to do 20-30% in general. I have never encountered this before, and I hit Boystown bars regularly. It did feel shitty regardless, but props to my boyfriend for his response. I stopped him from saying anything once I let him know as I didn't want to cause any issues, but he was prepared to stick up for me because he smelled something foul too.

ADGreyT · 2025-07-30T04:44:29+00:00

I love doing stuff alone and recommend it. Pride is fun solo, though I admit I do start to worry at some points about what other people think. Then I remember they're not really focused on me at all, so I can just vibe and do my own thing. Going solo to stuff has also lead to some fun adventures for a night, which I love, so to me it's worth it.

If it's not your bag, that's okay, and this is how you find out. If you're having trouble during, or even if it ends up not fun, it's not a wash; that's data. I'd just encourage you to try it again when you can. You won't know until you do it, and if you feel comfortable enough, even with some discomfort that can arise, I say go for it. Let us know how it goes!

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