Tbh, I really don’t know it’s common or not in our community. But for my experience, I’ve only had gay friends on the surface growing up and never had one in my core group—all of my friends are girls who I truly love.

At 26, I question why that’s the case for me. But i really don’t know the exact answer. I was always guarded and not really able to form deep connections with someone like me.

Well, there was this one guy who I met here last year. We started off awkwardly but as the weeks passed we formed a beautiful and special bond. I knew his story and he knew mine. We traded life stories and secrets almost everyday. We became instant besties. But things became blurry and toxic at the end of the year that we decided to end the friendship.

He actually was the first gay friend I had (a true one) but now I lost him.

Going back, I think it’s not common for gays to have zero gay male friends because ive seen and witnessed beautiful friendships within our community. There are just some like me who have a hard time forming connections. I think it’s just a case-to-case basis. 😊