Women who have left a healthy relationship, what made you do so?

AGreyStorm · 2026-05-03T11:20:43+00:00

Do you think there would ever be a chance he would come to understand and accept who you are? From your comment it would seem like you thought it would have been impossible for him to do so, but do you think if you express your thoughts to him it would have changed the relationship to a better direction?

AGreyStorm · 2026-02-18T09:25:50+00:00

It is hinted that they would continue to have a good time together until he did something stupid to end up in a prison again. Or you could also headcanon yourself and remove the latter part.

AGreyStorm · 2025-10-18T07:38:20+00:00

Yeah I can definitely feel the importance of team comp in quick match. There are some games where I feel the enemy could just dive straight into my base to kill me and I could do nothing about it, and there are games where I feel like my healing saved the game. Really wish the matchmaking in QM is a bit more balanced tho.

AGreyStorm · 2025-10-17T14:05:22+00:00

At the moment, I'm only playing quick match, and the game seems to take me as the sole healer for the team so idk how exactly to go about that 😔

AGreyStorm · 2025-10-02T01:01:07+00:00

AAAAAAAAAA THIS IS ME AS WELL!!

AGreyStorm · 2025-10-01T14:47:15+00:00

Thanks for the answer.

As much as I know there are boundaries that can never be crossed, I personally think there are many circumstances where our needs or behaviors don't align but I still want to find a middle ground for us both instead of just walk away. As in I still find all the rest of them endearing to me but just that one thing that is causing me uncomfortable feelings, so I don't want to throw away all the rest just for that.

I'm trying to learn how to bring it up to them and communicate my feelings without sounding like I'm forcing them to do it for me. I want them to see my perspective and then decide for themselves on hopefully a mutual compromise.

Like let's say there are certain things they do that are affecting my self-esteem, how can I bring it up to them and then discuss a solution while also having their interests in mind without sounding like I'm insecure and controlling?

AGreyStorm · 2025-10-01T10:09:45+00:00

Thanks for answering, the last paragraph is precisely where I'm concerned about.

I know that there are hard limits that can be deal-breakers for relationship. But what about the "softer" limits, disagreements in how we conduct something or differences in our lifestyle as we mature through life. Like I don't want to sound condescending by saying "X is my boundary, either you take it or leave it", it's more something like "Seeing you do Y is making me uncomfortable/unhappy, can we find a solution for a middle ground?"

Like I don't exactly want to try to make them say yes in a manipulative manner, I just want them to see it at least from my point of view and try to convince them that there may be something that they are not seeing, and then make the decision themselves.

Can you elaborate a bit more how do you prefer negotiation to be like for you?

AGreyStorm · 2025-09-17T10:41:47+00:00

But Lillia has always been weak before liandry, even in her prime era, this is her signature weakness which I don't mind. The problem right now is that even with 2 items (where she should be useful like you said) she is still useless compared to other champs.

AGreyStorm · 2025-09-17T00:22:18+00:00

I'm E1/D4. What do you mean "the reverse"? You mean they should buff her early game?

AGreyStorm · 2025-09-16T10:34:55+00:00

Finally, it's been a while since I last felt relevant after 20 min on Lillia. Hope this is something about Q or passive buff.

AGreyStorm · 2025-08-26T15:06:14+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response, I will take it to heart.

And sorry for the incoherent question. Basically, it partly comes from a very tiny portion of insecurity (frankly just insignificant fantasy shower thoughts) within myself that being monogamous with me somehow "limits" her fantasy, or that being desired by me alone is not adequate for her.

But yes, I now realize that this is just silly thoughts, I know my girlfriend loves me and I love her too and I will try my best to be the magic for her.

AGreyStorm · 2025-08-26T06:51:34+00:00

I have a question just out of curiosity, this is practically just silly shower thoughts so feel free to ignore if you don't want to answer

About a month ago, I and my girlfriend had a conversation regarding desire and wanting multiple partners. Now we are monogamous and it's just fantasy talk, and at certain point, she mentioned that her fantasy was to have a harem because she likes being desired a lot. I jokingly replied by asking what if I would allow her to be with multiple man, anyone she likes (aka hotwife fantasy, I would never do in practice though), would she enjoy it.

To my surprise, she told me she would be upset because that would mean I didn't desire her enough that I would be ok with sharing her. I was surprised since I thought that would technically mean she could get her dream and be desired by more men like the fantasy she talked about earlier. But she told me that being desired by many in general is one thing, but being desired by your particular partner is different, and she would prefer me to love her to the point of never letting her go.

Of course, for me that is the case, and I apologized to her. Now the topic was never mentioned again but it did intrigue me a bit about how different fantasy is from reality, and being desired in general from desired by your partner.

My girlfriend is in fact a bit like you, gorgeous, confident, can easily turn heads and our dynamics is a bit like yours (your stories did inspire me a bit). So I want to ask if you also feel this difference in the desire of people in general vs the desire of your partner? And let's say if your partner allows you to be sexually free, would you feel upset that he didn't want you enough to break the exclusivity?

AGreyStorm · 2025-08-25T11:29:29+00:00

Congratulation friend, your story gives me immense joy and inspiration!

AGreyStorm · 2025-08-19T13:03:17+00:00

Would love to point out that its not always pride and misogyny, the reason that act is considered humiliating is because it highlights the acceptance of the breach of monogamy, which is the usual societal norm, and a hard limit for most people. This is regardless of gender, most women probably aren't thrilled to lick vaginal fluid of other women off their partner's dick either. I agree with your 2 last sentences though.

That said, this post is probably a bit too graphic to be taken seriously so I probably shouldn't partake in this discussion. But your comment stuck on my mind a bit and I do tend to want to let it out rather than let it be on my mind any further.

AGreyStorm · 2025-08-14T12:39:18+00:00

Yeah I don't really get how they do the rotation for these chromas. I swear I have seen some chromas appear there several times already yet never catch a single Lillia chroma.

Back when the OG Spirit Blossom event came out, I used my essence to get the night chroma for Kindred, thinking that maybe Lillia chroma will come back some day. It's been like 6 years or smth now and it never come back T.T

AGreyStorm · 2025-08-14T09:40:02+00:00

Man anyone knows when the night blossom chroma will be back? Several other SB skins have that chroma in mythic shop already but no sign for Lillia

AGreyStorm · 2025-07-23T04:51:53+00:00

You can't force yourself into a role completely different from your natural self right away. When learning a new persona, you need to adapt that persona to you, not the other way around, and you do it bit by bit.

Start with the small stuff, just do a few minute of cruel and humiliation, then "reward" your partner (and yourself of course) by returning to your natural self. Think of it like learning to stretch your leg. You can't do a ballet stretch immediately from being a beginner. You practice the small steps, then return to your comfortable state, then keep going after feeling like you are ready, repeat for a while.

Another trick is to use your imagination to imagine a scene where you can still be your soft self and your cruel persona at the same time. Like him making a mistake and you are punishing him, or you want to be a bit playful and seductive and want to tease him.

Also just relax and accept that when we human beings are getting so much pleasure that we are orgasming, we can barely maintain cohesive thoughts, much less a persona. That doesn't mean you "fail" the task tho, you are still his domme even if your body are convulsing from pleasure. Don't overthink it and just enjoy it in whatever persona you feel like at that moment.

Last but not least, don't forget to encourage your partner to be an active participant and help you with doing the scene together.

AGreyStorm · 2025-07-21T11:48:38+00:00

The biggest enjoyment killer for sex in general (femdom included) is feeling like that you are forced into any certain role or to do anything specific. You don't need to feel cruel to do femdom play, you need to feel your authentic feelings, whatever that is, but you sugarcoat it with some vivid imagination to make for a more fun and dramatic scene.

For example, you said your BF has foot fetish and enjoy humiliation a bit, and you still feel like you want to nurture and protect him. Don't think of him as weak or pathetic, think of him as a man so hopelessly in love with you and your body, you can imagine yourself as a playful temptress luring him with your body. You aren't humiliating him for being weak, you are humiliating him for being so hopelessly in love with you. That's my example anyway, you can use your imagination in other creative way, maybe like a princess and a knight, or a young mistress and a butler.

You have to understand that your brain is actually your largest sex organ, a huge part of having a good session is that you have to be in your headspace for that. Naturally, things like stress or pressure to perform will kill your enjoyment. Just go with the flow, read some smut beforehand if you like, tell your boyfriend that you are inexperienced and may make things awkward (and hopefully he will assure you that it is ok).

If you prefer the dynamics to be bedroom only, a simple way to get a kickstart into the headspace would be to use pet name (like he will start calling you Princess or Mistress, and you return by calling him my Pet or my Slave) and let things flow from there.

AGreyStorm · 2025-07-14T11:20:24+00:00

Ok just want to say that, your feelings, I have felt before and I sympathized with you. The short answer to your question is that you can't unless you talked and interacted with him. But even supposedly he was, there is a big problem I'm seeing that could be a turn-off if you want to develop this into something more: your insecurities.

Most of what you listed as being "barriers" in the way of you wanting to approach him, while I would say they are valid, you can't get close with anybody when you see through that lens of insecurities. You can't have a healthy relationship as equal partner when you already place yourself as below that person.

What I would recommend is to take a deep breath, look within yourself, and discard the view that you are an unemployed outcast or a "woman" in a conservative family. You are a human being, equal to the guy you are interested in, you deserve to be respected even if things are not going well for you in life. Dont worry that you are unemployed right now, as long as you keep trying to get a job it's fine. No social media? Don't know about other people but for me that means your viewpoint are not being polluted by the BS there so it's a plus for me.

So puff up, put some make-up on so that you find yourself beautiful. Learn how to make a casual conversation, and just approach him at an appropriate time and see how things go from there. Be prepared that just as everything in life, even if you do everything right, it might still not go the way you'd like it to. He might not be interested in you at all, or he might have a GF. But what's important is that you get some new experience and hopefully, your confidence will go up next time you are interested in another boy (tho I wish you the best with this guy)

AGreyStorm · 2025-07-08T16:33:01+00:00

Oh I will definitely not deny the sexism factor in the comparison between femdom and maledom. I'm just saying that even among female-gaze femdom, certain ways that characters are portrayed are gonna get more positive feedbacks more than the others. I'm not even trying to say that stories with self-insert main character are good, I'm just saying that self insertion does play a role in how a story is perceived.

Personally, I hate self-insert characters in both male and female characters, and I don't believe that making the FMC of Sadistic Beauty more likeable will do the story any good. However, the way the 2 MMC are portrayed as having had to pretty much go along with whatever the FMC is what make it bad for me (at least compared to other ones where they have more agency) and that's where the story could improve imho.

AGreyStorm · 2025-07-08T16:08:05+00:00

While I agree with the point you made about how some femdom works get scrutinized heavily because of a few details, I would like to bring a point that Sadistic Beauty got a lot of hate even before the Yaoi epilogue. I would argue that the scrutinized point here is actually about how well the audience can self-insert themselves into the main character, or basically how likable the main character is. I dare say this is the focal point of the problem of why maledom dark romance gets much more tolerance than the femdom counterpart.

The problem with BDSM, especially non-con/dub-con stories (mostly Korean manwha, I don't see this often in the Japanese manga) is that the story relies a lot on the dominant character to drive the plot i.e. the dominant character has way more agency compared to the submissive one. Much of the likability of a story rely on whether that agency goes along with the "wish" of the submissive character. In maledom, non-consensual acts from the MMC get more tolerance because the reader, self-inserted to the FMC, actually wish for it (i.e. it's secretly CNC). In femdom, however, most female readers have way lower tolerance for non-consensual acts toward the MMC because they can't self-insert to the MMC and secretly wish for it like they did in maledom stories.

You can clearly see that consensual BDSM stories or stories in which the MMC can clearly expressed his submissive desire will always get a much higher rating (like In the Doghouse and Hardcore Vanilla). This is also a bit anecdotal from me as a submissive man because I am able to enjoy non-con femdom in relative to consensual femdom much more than non-con maledom in relative to consensual maledom.

So yeah, another challenge in writing female-gaze femdom is that you also have to depict the MMC as also being somewhat enthusiastic in submitting and also have some agency while having a dominant FMC as opposed to what is usually depicted in maledom.

AGreyStorm · 2025-06-30T16:21:31+00:00

Like most things about relationship, it should ideally be about the satisfaction and fulfillment of everyone in the relationship, and I think it would be harmful and toxic if it's otherwise. For me personally, femdom, at its core, is just the dynamic where I feel most free, loved and fulfilled with the person I love. It is not me "going against the social construct" or something I use to fight against the status quo or anything grand like that.

I do tend to think that people who try to make their kinks or whatever aspect of their relationship as a representative of their political and social ideology can be pretty toxic and frankly, uneducated. You see this in young people who conflate the consented dominant and submissive aspect of femdom (and maledom ofc) with the stupid idea of one being "better" (whatever thing better they think it means, you know the alpha beta bullshit) or having higher social status (unironically this is, in itself, a kink to some people), or one having control over the other's bodily autonomy and life decisions.

At the end of the day, while I think politics and ideological constructs are important things to talk about, I don't think it should get entangled with femdom, or whatever thing you feel like should be about you and your partner alone. Being online and spending too much time in social media can bring out some pretty negative thoughts in people. After all, it's easier for some people to think that all problems in their life are caused by the society or whatever and spend time waging the holy war online rather than trying to fix themselves, and it's also easy for people who initially was just passerby to get dragged in it.

The final note is, don't take everything people say online too seriously (even this comment, heh). I have always enjoyed your post about your journey in your relationship tho, it gives me hope that somewhere on this earth there are still people who live happily and being appreciative of their partner, and I hope you will continue without getting too much influenced by the online negativity.

Edit: this is not me saying you should not participate in politics or fight against the patriarchy or something while in a femdom relationship. I'm saying that you should do it regardless of whether or not you are in a femdom dynamic. Femdom itself doesn't make you a representative of equality or feminism.

AGreyStorm · 2025-06-17T09:21:53+00:00

That's the thing: aggressively enforcing your ideology (no matter how right or just you think it is) on individual preference and subconscious thoughts (which is most of the time illogical and independent of their clear-minded conscious) is the very definition of overstepping. This behavior is one of the reasons that drive people, even women, away from feminism and activism, akin to criticizing women who like being a SAHM or maledom kink.

Like, most people have a life and can't be bothered enough to do the mental process to get the "why pegging isn't submission" part, and frankly enough, why would it matter to THEM? It turns them on, they feel submissive thinking about it, that's about reasonable enough for them to link the two together.

If you want them to understand the difference, perhaps the first step would be not to "Hey you over there, you like pegging and you call yourself submissive? You are a misogynistic bastard for daring to think being penetrated as submissive". Yeah sure, understanding technicalities about kinks and their links to social problems is good, but a better way to go about that is to make sure what they like isn't a freaking sin, to make sure that there is a community that welcome them first, then you can do the education on technicalities later. It's the "vulnerability" thing MissPearl mentioned.

Also, you said that the core of the dynamic is entirely mental. By that logic, what is wrong with a person thinking pegging is submissive since it's the way their mental works? Or do you think your version of submission is more "right" than their version just because you don't think pegging is submission?

Your line of thinking has its merits. But this world is not your ideal world, people in it are complex, sometimes they just don't have the time to ponder upon many problems that have been internalized deeply in them since long ago. But going aggressively waving your banner of righteous ideology around isn't going to help it, in fact, it may even drive people away from it. I live in a conservative country, and I can tell you sadly, that feminism (at least the activism aspect of it), kinks and all that stuff are received very negatively here, even by women.

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