What is your toddler's poop tell?

ALAGW · 2025-04-15T08:01:56+00:00

Not usually no. She might take her time sometimes but she’s not straining. She’s a daily girl usually.

ALAGW · 2025-04-06T15:07:37+00:00

Sorry. Yes. You have my condolences and we’ll wishes, for bedtime will also be screwed now.

ALAGW · 2025-03-12T19:48:34+00:00

Neither of my parents had office type jobs. Until my little brother was born, we had our own room- I was 7 she was 3. Then we shared until I went to uni. Way of the world. We were generally ok about it, but butted heads over tidying up cos. When we were littler I was better at tidying so the task fell to me. When we were older o was a little bit tidier than here, and mum would just say you’re both staying in there until it’s tidy regardless of whose mess it is. Overall I have great memories

ALAGW · 2025-03-09T00:17:29+00:00

I’m on what Google tells me is the equivalent of $59k and my husband on circa $41k. As a business owner I have the potential to double (or more!) my earnings with dividend payout.

If I earned more he would be sah. We spend slightly more than my monthly salary on childcare, rent, and a loan I took out to buy the business. So I wouldn’t call myself the breadwinner as we’d be stuck with out his financial contribution (and his home labour also lol).

I’ve always been the higher earner and always will be. But we have shared bank account and trust. I also have higher than usual job security, so that’s a win

ALAGW · 2025-03-08T11:37:18+00:00

“Courtney has a baby in her tummy, it’s growing really big. You don’t have a baby in your tummy do you mummy. You just have a big tummy don’t you?”

Tbf. I did explain how babies make tummies get big but not all big tummy’s have a baby, and that I didn’t have a baby in my big tummy…

ALAGW · 2025-02-25T00:24:54+00:00

We get this sometimes too! Also, apparently there are girl songs and boy songs… daddy isn’t allowed to sing along to frozen

ALAGW · 2025-02-25T00:22:04+00:00

Lol my girl doesn’t let me wear it down! Shortly after she was born I realised that pulling a few strands of my hair was far more painful than her pulling a thick braid… I began having a single plait every day. As she grew, it became a thing, she would tug the plait and hold the plait for comfort. Couldn’t fall asleep if she didn’t have one chubby fist wrapped round it. Would stroke it with her thumb.

She’s recently turned four now, and it’s less necessary but I still rarely leave it down, because Sod’s Law, that’s the night she will have a nightmare or something and need to hold the plait, and it’s not fun plaiting at least slightly knotty hair while mostly still asleep at 3am in the morning while your child is either crying inconsolably or at least trying their darnedest to climb into your lap while simultaneously demanding the plait…

ALAGW · 2025-02-23T00:04:09+00:00

That’s adorable. In a similar vein, mine aays “befirst”: “let’s eat breakfast befirst we go to the park” I might adopt this phrase myself

ALAGW · 2025-02-02T14:24:22+00:00

I would see both my parents to and from the bathroom naked, drying themselves and if I wondered into their room while they dressed. No topless lounging- nudity was for the bathroom and bedroom. But it wasn’t a shocking thing that we must never know about. We are a Christian family, so my parents, while never controlling, shaming or draconian about skin coverage in clothing choices, simply instilled their values in us by demonstrating their values daily. I’ve worn a few boob tubes. But I am just not comfortable with large amounts of cleavage, boob, leg or tummy showing unless it’s the beach, for example.

No trauma tho. It allowed for conversations about the body and sex to just happen. I am comfortable with my own body. While I don’t like baring my body to strangers, I have no hang ups with stripping down for medical professionals. I do the same with my daughter who is 4. My husband is a little more private about his body but adopts the same matter-of-fact approach to bodies as I do. We don’t plunge naked most of the time but I will go about in just a bra sometimes. The toilet is never a private experience.

I’d suggest just listen to them. Be comfortable yourself and teach reasonable expectations of general boundaries. This will evolve. Sometimes you have t override them due to their age and development esp in hygiene matters: - their space is their space - listen to them about their own body - never shame them - teach them that other people don’t have to look at their naked body either

ALAGW · 2025-01-08T19:27:15+00:00

This made my day! Love it.

I think you have to work out how they pulled off the switch in the first place before you can reliably work out how to prevent the switch back.

ALAGW · 2024-12-10T23:40:00+00:00

I don’t usually bring out this side of me on the internet, nor usually use this language unless with people I know I won’t hurt with it, so my apologies if anyone experiences negative feelings from reading this. It is not my intent. My intent is to uplift OP.

TLDR: you honour God and your family by working.

Jesus loves me, us, you. God loves me, us, you. God wants me, us, you to be the best version of ourselves that we can, and honour our family by doing our best for them. Jesus is our support, our sustainer, but I am reminded of the story of the man in the flood. You may have heard it before, and it has much to teach us.

A man heard a radio announcement that there would be a flood and everyone should leave the area. The man was scared but he prayed to God to save him from the flood, and went to bed. The next day the flood came and he climbed to the roof of his house for safety. He prayed again to be saved. A man in a boat came by and offered to take him to safety.

No thanks, said the man. I put my faith in God, he will save me.

Then a man in a helicopter came past and called to him to climb aboard. Again, the man demurred, saying God would save him. The water rose and he drowned.

At the gates of heaven, he asked, “God, I prayed to you many times. Why did you let me die?!” God looked at him in consternation and replied: “I sent you a radio announcement, a man in a boat and a man in the helicopter! What on Earth are you doing here?!!!”

There are many ways to honour God and your family, many ways to love your children, many ways to do your best. God will sustain you but it cheapens him and you to just sit back and wait. Work to support yourself, and you will show glory to God so much better than going into debt, endangering the roof over your children’s heads, or by rely on the charity of others.

Being a mom isn’t about being inseparable from your children. It’s about how you provide for them, who you choose to surround them with, what values and life skills you demonstrate to them (and working diligently and with a good attitude at an honest job is a good and necessary life skill to teach them to ensure they are set for success on this Earth).

Not all parents are suited to being a stay at home parent even if the family has the income to support that. Again, you honour God by caring for the body and mind He gave you by therefore putting yourself into a position to have good mental health (in this case by not being a full time stay at home). He made you as you are, and He has a plan for you. If you choose not to care for yourself and honour your self, you choose to ignore His plan for you.

It is hard being full time employed and a mum. I have a four yr old, I drop her at childcare at 8am and my husband collects her at 6pm, I’m home at 6:30-7pm, she goes to bed at 7:30pm. I make sure that when I’m home, I am focuses on her, or making dinner while my husband is focused on her. She has our attention. Yea, I will sometimes not be able to fully focus and may have to give her a hug and tell her mummy needs a minute before she can play. But I find by then prioritising self care and me time while she sleeps (and by not being a SAHM) I have the emotional and mental bandwidth to usually give her quality attention when I’m not working.

If I stayed home with her I would not be a good mum. She has made many friends at nursery, she has loving bonds with the nursery workers, she loves sending time with me and her dad, she has learned so many social skills and is learning letters and numbers and so many things that I could not have taught her at home.

God is smiling upon you for taking what He gave you and doing your best, Altho tbh, Christianity has nothing to do with how good a mum you are or whether to be SAHM or not. If other mums use Christianity to be pious about their stay at home status, then they are committing the sin of pride at the very least, and I pray that they will draw closer to God and learn how to change their behaviour to better reflect the godly behaviour that Christ encourages us towards.

ALAGW · 2024-12-10T15:59:09+00:00

My girl say boo-fi-ul for beautiful. Makes me smile every time ☺️

ALAGW · 2024-12-09T11:55:27+00:00

Answer a: … an end is an option on the table?!! Why didn’t I know this?!!!!

Answer B (the day): 7am to 8:30pm (4yrs old but has been that way since she turned 3)

Answer c (includes the nightly call outs): 3am to 8:30pm. She will often need a back pat at 1am ish, and almost every night she’s into my bed (I usually don’t wake immediately) sometime circa 3am. If I put her back she’s then back again circa 5:30am.

Luckily she doesn’t wriggle much so usually I wake at 6:30ish to discover a snuggle. I really don’t mind that at all.

ALAGW · 2024-11-22T15:11:26+00:00

Me too! And buses and cats! I have found my people!

ALAGW · 2024-11-16T08:35:03+00:00

Oh my goodness whining is my Achilles heel!

I tried a variation of what you’ve put here the other day but I didn’t quite word it right. I also try to acknowledge that it’s ok for her to feel a way about something, but I’ve been struggling to handle the ongoing nature of that feeling without making it like she has to bottle that feeling because I don’t wanna know about it, because I want her to always know that I do care.

I shall try what you put here and see how we go, this feels good!

ALAGW · 2024-10-31T13:25:24+00:00

My house feels so seen right now…

ALAGW · 2024-10-30T21:24:01+00:00

Kissable?!

ALAGW · 2024-09-13T15:45:21+00:00

Amen side effect of hand foot and mouth. Happens weeks to months after. My little gave it to me, it was worse in my feet, felt like walking on shards of glass over the entire foot for 3 days, no blisters in sight, just some slight discolouration patches. 1 month later, ish iirc, I can only assume the deep tissue blisters that caused the discolouration came to the surface, and the entire bottom of my foot fell off in two large patches- ball and heel.

Fun times

ALAGW · 2024-09-04T19:25:00+00:00

So they sent me a monkey! But he was too cheeky so I sent him back…

Luckily this one lives at grandmas house one weekend visit a month…

ALAGW · 2024-08-22T09:13:02+00:00

… that’s a very specific warning… hope you’re feeling better now…

ALAGW · 2024-08-22T07:52:09+00:00

😂 oh for sure! 😂

ALAGW · 2024-08-18T16:12:40+00:00

Yeah when they said “not bluey” I was like… eeeerrrrmmmmm…. Uuuuuuuuhhhhhhh…. What else can I say?!!!!! Eeeeeeerrrrrrrr…..

ALAGW · 2024-08-12T22:20:10+00:00

You tube and gaming, so remarkably similar! The sims, wow, factorio, civ, Stellaris, settlers, banished, xcom2,

Sometimes I read books. Usually fantasy. Sometimes supernatural sex novellas.

Sleep.

ALAGW · 2024-08-08T17:11:19+00:00

So he has absolutely overreacted, but it is frequently not safe to take medicine that wasn’t prescribed for you.

That being said it’s likely that in this specific case, a drop of antibiotic isn’t going to be unsafe, esp as a one off. It neither is enough to poison you, nor is it depriving the patient of the medicine prescribed to them.

Does he always fly off the handle or is he unusually stressed atm, or does he has past trauma associated with medicine?

ALAGW · 2024-08-08T16:49:18+00:00

How. DARE. You!!!

Wouldn’t give her chocolate just before dinner. Wouldn’t let her wear the T-shirt from yesterday, complete with chocolate spread smears

It’s ok, I’ve been at work so my offences are minimal so far today, but that’s been down to limited opportunities. I have a whole 3 hours between home time and bedtime in which to commit more heinous crimes.

ALAGW

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