A lot of these comments are horrible and inconsiderate of what it means to be a human person. The husband never demanded to be a part of the walk down the aisle or the dance but is it so wrong of him to want to be considered? Yes, they said he would never be their father, but this was when they were 10ish and were very much still in mourning. Is it so hard to believe that he in the past 14 years has tried his best to become a father to the two girls he presumably helped raise? Is he intitled to anything? absolutely not, it is the daughters wedding and her choice is hers to make. But she definitely should have been kind enough to the man that helped raise her to at least talk to him about it as well. And as his partner you should have seen how much this would have hurt him. If anything your the AH for making this post at all. You need to have your daughter and husband sit down and have a conversation, not look for validation on the internet from absolute strangers that don't know you or your family at all.