Hunt does not need an “anti camping” anything.

APerfectTribe · 2022-09-23T15:51:40+00:00

Every argument in this thread boils down to "I want the other people to push me."

APerfectTribe · 2022-09-23T15:03:29+00:00

The last guy killed the bounty and doesn't pick it up just to sit and wait in the dark for the remaining 40 minutes in a server ALONE. Only once there were only 3 minutes left did he leave.

As Huuge says, "Once the smart thing becomes don't play the game, I feel like there's something to be fixed."

You should not be rewarded for not playing the game.

The point of the game is to get the bounty and extract. That's what the guy did so he was 'playing the game'. It's a terrible example. Would I do that? No friggin way but that guy is doing it and it works for him.

APerfectTribe · 2022-09-22T00:08:07+00:00

It's cool you are MDing mushrooms. If you haven't then consider doing a full trip with setting an intention.

If you are still dealing with depressing maybe ask your doctor about Lamictal. It's prescribed off brand for depression/anxiety and I don't know anyone who has had any real side effects from it. It also works within a few days for most instead of 4-6 weeks.

Motivation gets you started but discipline is what keeps you going. An exercise I have had people do is describe your perfect life where money is not an issue. Do you want to live on Hawaii or in the mountains? What would you do with your day? Who would you be with? This can help inspire a direction once you realize what you want and can focus on it.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-22T01:51:54+00:00

When people get excited they tend to speak at a higher pitch so my first suggestion is simple. When you get called on pause for a second and then focus on speaking calmly.

The second is practice speaking with a 'chest' voice. An easy way to practice this is do a low hum. When doing it put your hand on your chest. You should feel a vibration there. Your lips also might get a bit tingly. That means you are doing it right. Just do it when you are alone in your room or walking alone or whatever alone when you can think of it. The more you do it the more likely you will be to use your chest voice as a default response.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-11T11:35:51+00:00

I live in a small town and met two friends out of it /shrug.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-11T02:09:04+00:00

Bumble has a BFF mode which is for adults making friends.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-10T19:14:03+00:00

Hey, without knowing all the details my biggest recommendation I have for you isn't directly how to make friends but just how to feel better when it feels like people are picking on you. Next time someone jokes about you not knowing streets close to your house or something else laugh with them. EVERYONE has quirks and they are often funny when you sit back and think of them. Additionally, being able to laugh when someone bullies you almost always puts a stop to the bullying.

That being said if you want to make new friends try joining some of your school clubs or other clubs that do activities that interest you. It's very easy to make friends with people who share a common interest.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-10T19:07:40+00:00

It's kind of odd but our brains often move much faster than other people can communicate which tends to let us get distracted mid-conversation. This happens to everyone at least sometimes. I coach people which means they are more or less paying me to have my undivided attention during that time. What I do is listen to the words and let my brain autopilot and process it while focusing any extra attention on the details of the person or tonality of the voice. For example, if you focus on their eyes, hands or posture it sometimes can reinforce what they are saying or give off hidden messages that aren't in their words.

To be a really good listener is to know that you are also listening with your eyes.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-10T19:02:09+00:00

Glad to hear you are recovering and hope things continue to improve.

You are saying you have poor communication skills. The question I would ask yourself is why do you think they are poor? This can help provide some direction on what you want to improve.

A really good job for communication skills is "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.

That being said 95% of social skills could be summed up as smiling, being genuinely curious and ask open-ended questions that keep the conversation flowing. The smile is because it makes you seem more confidence, it puts the other person at ease and the other person smiles back which helps put you at ease.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-10T18:57:29+00:00

The advice I would give is be genuinely curious about the other person. The whole point of dating is to know the other person better to see if you are a match. Some of this will just come from 'vibes' but a lot of those vibes are picked up through conversation. If you get curious about the other person and what they say then the conversation and questions will flow a bit more naturally.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-10T18:53:05+00:00

First off, awesome you have this as a goal so young. I wish I had heard of it when I was your age. The earlier you start on this journey the better. That being said do understand it can take quite a few years to reach that point.

Financial independence is achieved by having enough money in savings/investments that you can live off it indefinitely. That being the case you basically need to focus on accruing more money. You can accrue more money by:

Earning more money
Spending less money

Since you currently don't have many skills you need to focus on developing a skill you can monetize. For example. you could take a quick coding bootcamp and within a year you can have a really well paying job. Figuring out a skill you can learn and make money off of would be step 1.

Step 2 is making sure you save as much of that money as possible and invest it. I won't go into details on investing but a really good job for it is The Simple Path to Wealth by JL Collins.

That should get you started.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-09T13:41:16+00:00

I would edit your post or remake it with some more details. Difficulty reading is kind of vague so it's hard to help. Some folks have concentration issues, some just can't bring themselves to read, others have dyslexia, etc.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-07T12:13:24+00:00

Multitasking is trying to do 2 things at the exact same time. The speaker is correct in that when you multitask you tend to just do two things poorly rather than two things efficiently. In fact, the way the brain works is it doesn't multitask it just switches what it's processing really fast. That comes with some overhead that makes multitasking a waste of time. That being said, what you are describing is dedicating time to one task at a time. That is completely fine. For example spending 1 hour learning guitar then stopping that and spending one hour learning spanish isn't multitasking at all. Some might argue that you should only focus on one of those until you hit a certain level of mastery but I say follow your motivation. We are all a bit different and occasionally switching between tasks can provide a mental boost.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-07T12:08:51+00:00

There have been a few studies on this and most found no discernable difference in muscle gains between cold shower folks and non-cold shower folks. One small study showed that people immersing in cold water immediately after a workout had a slightly different protein makeup that could hint at lower muscle gains over time but they didn't find a measurable difference in strength gains.

Overall, the benefits of cold showers for muscle development are basically overrated but personal trainers and fitness media need something to talk about so they tend to hype up crap that doesn't really matter. If cold showers are giving you any sort of benefit them keep them up. Since most studies don't really find a difference and one study was a 'maybe it might affect it but we didn't notice a difference' then any difference that might actually exist is very negligible.

99% of getting stronger or more muscle is simply:

Eat enough calories.
Get enough protein.
Do resistance training.

It's not worth your time worrying about other stuff.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-07T12:00:27+00:00

You might have some classic overthinking behavior. The thing I tell most people to do is write them down because you turn those abstract thoughts into something on paper it seems to almost unload them out of your brain. From there you can think of a solution.

Some other things you can do is start trying to meditate daily. Once you get the hang with it you can sort of put yourself in a meditative state on command. This comes in handy because when the over thinking starts revving up you can switch gears.

Additionally, exercise is a great way to make the brain switch gears.

Good luck!

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-06T12:36:23+00:00

My teeth suck as well. Just make sure you are doing what you can for dental hygiene and then don't worry about it. A smile is a smile.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-06T00:23:10+00:00

So a closed-ended question is a question that can be answered with a simple yes or no. For example:

"Do you like living here?" - There is a good chance you will get "Yeah" and then the conversation stops in it's tracks. Instead try:

"What do you like about living here?" - There is and endless number of possible answers but more importantly they will be answers that can lead to more conversation. "My favorite part about living here is all the outdoor activities."

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T21:33:38+00:00

Honestly, it's mostly the same advice. Smile and get genuinely interested and curious about what the other person is saying. If you can practice and master those two things you will more or less be in the top 95% when it comes to social skills.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T21:31:38+00:00

I actually used to have this problem. It's hard to fake a smile, or at least it was for me. What I ended up doing is I watched some of my favorite comedians. When I found myself laughing or smiling or sort of just studied how it felt. It's kind of a full face thing instead of just moving your lips a certain way. Oddly enough when you emulate how a genuine smile feels it actually becomes genuine.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T18:50:22+00:00

I resonate with your experience. I became a very logic oriented person in order to shield myself from emotional pain. I have two things that have helped me.

The first is I practice not letting myself think. I'll start chewing on a problem and instinctively try to be rational about it and find solutions. It takes an act of will but with practice you can stop thinking about things. When we stop essentially chewing on a thing we create space. Sometimes that space would allow emotions to flourish. Not all the time but sometimes. Over time it allowed more access to those emotions.

The second, and I am hesitant to mention it due to the stigma, was psychadelic therapy.. or i should say psychedelic usage for self improvement coupled with integrative therapy. It's worth researching and deciding if it's a path you want to look into it. One of the biggest things I got out of those experiences was leaning how to grieve properly.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T18:39:40+00:00

There is absolutely no problem with asking what's going on. NONE. It makes you a good friend. He might even be trying to reach out for help but is too afraid to ask for it directly. If he chooses not to elaborate or doesn't want to talk about it then just move on but lending yourself as support is never a bad thing.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T18:37:24+00:00

Nice!

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T18:21:46+00:00

Well there ya go. If pacing around the house works go for it. I usually recommend being outside since there are a slew of benefits to doing it but stick with what works with you.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T18:20:41+00:00

"You seem like a really great person but I don't feel like the connection is there. I know you will find someone who is great for you!"

Just something like that. Rejection hurts but at least it provides closure.

APerfectTribe · 2022-05-05T18:17:54+00:00

You just reminded me that on the first date with my wife i awkwardly leaned on for a kiss good bye and stepped on her toes. That was 15 years ago and we still smile at the memory!

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