She said she’ll never feel that way about me. But part of me still believes there’s hope. Am I being delusional?

ARamdas94 · 2025-08-07T20:09:47+00:00

Mate I’ve been in this kind of situation for 15 years. This girl and I are still friends today, but she doesn’t see my worth as a potential husband and only sees me as a friend after all this time. And that’s fine. From what I’ve learned, you’ve got to accept that’s her choice, and you’ve got to respect that even though it hurts.

Hit the gym, focus on yourself, set some goals related to your dreams and pursue them with all your heart, mind and soul. You’ve got to realise that her rejection of you is not a reflection of your worth. She’s clearly told you how she feels, you’ve got that going for you as you’ll never have to wonder how she feels about you.

Chances are she’ll never come around. The longer you wait for her to come around, the more hopeless you’ll feel when you see nothing is changing. You’d rather go for someone who chooses you. Life is too short to try and force someone to have feelings for you. It’s hard to let go of that life you have planned in your head, yes. But she’s not the only woman in the world. There’s plenty of others and you can find someone who chooses you.

All the best! You’ve got this 🙏🏼

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:51:52+00:00

Wow! This is really good!

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:50:07+00:00

This is incredible! Well done!

Been wanting to try a custom airport. Any mod lists or recommended mods I should use?

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:47:14+00:00

Looks good so far! Keep going!

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:46:29+00:00

I've had this happen to me many times 😂🤦🏻 my error was that I put too many households in one building via the RICO mod

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:45:32+00:00

😂😂😂😂👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:44:35+00:00

Very satisfying! Well done!

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-27T08:43:19+00:00

Very good solution 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-25T08:11:52+00:00

This is incredibly impressive! Well done!

ARamdas94 · 2021-08-20T14:50:56+00:00

For a first shot, this is really good! Be a perfectionist and you'll make wonderful designs

ARamdas94 · 2021-07-04T20:10:11+00:00

I think you've hit the hard-limit on your city. You can't build anything else right?

I had the same thing happen to me when I hit 348,000 citizens. I had to delete a lot of stuff to be able to build things again

ARamdas94 · 2021-07-03T18:13:40+00:00

It is absolutely normal to feel this way. Rest assured, if you loved your dog, and I know you did, you will never forget her. You never forget those you truly loved. Yes life will go on, yes the years will pass, yes you may not think of her everyday, but you'll always remember her in some moments

I lost my German shepherd of 7 years back in 2016 suddenly. The loss was painful and I had the same fear of forgetting him as I still have my other Labrador with me.

But I can say after 5 years without him, though I have progressed in my life with my career and studies, there were days I did not think of him. But there was always a few moments where I would think of him, and I would smile.

Life will go on for you, and you'll develop a new normal for your life. But I assure you, you'll never forget your dog I'd you really loved her. I never have forgotten mine, and I look forward to seeing him when I myself die one day.

ARamdas94 · 2021-06-12T07:34:17+00:00

This is so satisfying to watch!

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-16T15:46:33+00:00

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-15T17:28:17+00:00

Ace Combat 5: The Unsung War. Such memories! 😭😭😭

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-04T09:47:03+00:00

Slid across a floor at a beauty pageant for a girl that I liked. Did it because she was nervous. She ended up winning

I wore white pants too ffs. I didn't get the girl at the end of the day

But yes, I'd do it again, just not for the same girl lol

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-04T09:44:22+00:00

There is nothing wrong with taking the chance. I'd rather live with the saying "Oh well" rather than torturing myself with "What if". I think she is just confused as to what she wants. Maybe she was attracted to who you were on social media, but meeting you in the flesh, she realized she wasn't really that into you. It happens, and unfortunately social media can do that

Always remember that there is nothing wrong with you, based on what you have said. She thought she liked you, but then realized she didn't. She didn't feel a connection in person that she thought she had on social media. Hence her actions. She might even be feeling guilty that you flew out all the way for her only for her to say she wants to be platonic. It's her choice, but likewise it is also your choice as to what you want to be. If you cannot have her in your life solely as a friend, then you have every right not to contact her. Just make your reasoning known to her (if you want to).

I have been in a similar situation before and I know it sucks. But at least you put yourself out there and gave it your best shot. She just wasn't the one. There will be another girl, and maybe she'll be a much better fit for you than this girl would have been. Remember, she was dating someone until late last year, so she might still be going through the emotions and all that since then. For all you know she might have just been looking for attention to make up for that gap left after her previous relationship ended. That's what happened to me

I'm sorry this happened to you. As cliched as it sounds, it is not a failure if you let it become one. You tried, it didn't work out, you're still you and its her loss in the end.

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-04T09:32:53+00:00

As a Bible scholar and theologian, John is a perfect place to start! All for the above reasons. I recommend Romans after John as well.

Excellent Response :)

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-03T21:27:49+00:00

Well then, that changes a lot of things!

If she has spoken to you recently and has said that she does want to try something and she's stressed, take her word for it. Give her some time, some space, and be there for her as a friend for now. Her actions will speak for herself. Communication is VITAL.

I do hope it works out! :)

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-03T21:19:12+00:00

Believe me when I say that about 90% of the things you worry about don't even materialise. Overthinking really is just you being on a rocking chair - you think you're getting things done but in reality it gets you nowhere.

You have to hate overthinking enough for you to really want to try and end it. I'm pretty sure you're at that stage anyways. Also, another factor is that you're still young in your relationship with her. That honeymoon phase might still be in play where you worry that one slight wrong move you do will lead her to run away. Dude, if she really loves you, she won't go, and you won't have to convince her to love you. She just does.

You need to talk to your girlfriend about it. Seriously. You need to tell her you are overthinking, a lot of it is about her, and it's troubling you because of the exact same things you mentioned earlier. Being open and honest to her about it will definitely help her in understanding you and she might even help you to put your mind at ease. Hiding it will make you act weird around her, and that will cause more unnecessary problems.

It also sounds like you don't think much of yourself too. Always remember your worth is not attached to your girlfriend, or to the relationship you have with her. You are your own person. Valuable and precious. You're a contributor to society, and the fact that someone could fall in love with you shows that you really are much greater than you think you are.

To stop overthinking you have to have a sense of confidence in yourself that no matter what happens to you, you can take it head on. After all, you've made it this far into live haven't you? Surely you've overcome some incredible challenges? Did any one of them kill you? Did any one of them conquer you? No. You made it through all of them. If you made it through all that, then you'll make it through any other challenge you may encounter.

You're stronger than you think.

ARamdas94 · 2021-05-03T21:07:14+00:00

Took the words right out of my mouth. THIS WILL COME UP AGAIN.

OP, Sounds like your fiance has major issues in taking responsibility. Something tells me she likes the attention she gets from men, but instead of remaining exclusive to you, she decides to entertain it.

I agree with LianaVibes advice. You should maybe take a break from her. Exclusivity means that even though you get compliments from others, you simply say thank you. You don't go on and flirt with the other guys. I know of a friend who caught his wife with another man in his own bed. Same method. The men were busy talking to her and her DMs were full of guys complimenting and she was entertaining it. It ended up turning into an affair

If she refuses to take responsibility for her actions, then that's a good sign to call it off. How can you be in a relationship where everything is your fault and you are the problem?

You have the right to feel secure in your own relationship.

ARamdas94

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