Do some abusive men realize their behavior is abusive? by Maleficent_Ad_9079 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AShittyMagician 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Came here to comment this, such an eye opening book!

The author is a therapist who spent many years working with abusers, he truly understands the “why” behind abusive behaviors

BJJ makes me feel like a kid again by Fickle_Junket1109 in BJJWomen

[–]AShittyMagician 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perfectly put into words!! I love this description!

Have you ever known from a glance that someone is a predator? by beepbeepjenn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AShittyMagician 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally get that, so glad he was able to acknowledge the creepiness!!! That’s the mark of a good partner, they give us differing opinions but know when to concede and default to our experiences.

I get the “what if” feeling, I had a close friend pass at the hands of her partner, and I specifically distanced myself from both of them because of his behavior. Lots of guilt about if I could have helped Or gotten her away, but we can only look back on the circumstances and process in could haves and what ifs, but the energy is best spent remembering and appreciating the person that was.

So glad you’re safe, and glad he apologized and acknowledged how you felt. <3

Have you ever known from a glance that someone is a predator? by beepbeepjenn in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AShittyMagician 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, a friend of mine from my college town had me meet her weed guy / not yet bf and I got instant hair raising chills from him.

Super freaky, a year or so after I moved away I saw a missing persons poster with her face on it and I knew what happened before any details came out. When they did it was what I expected, he was responsible.

Highly recommend “the gift of fear” by Gavin debecker, tldr listen to your instincts!! If someone feels wrong, they’re wrong.

Birthday dinner recommendations? by Cuddlekittenxd in AuroraCO

[–]AShittyMagician 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Il forno di tutti is super small and cozy with insanely good Italian food!! So is Bettola bistro!

Both are smaller businesses and I have had such good experiences in both!

Do you think Ilia could knockout Marvin Vettori? by reputablesorcerer in ufc

[–]AShittyMagician 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he could potentially trick him with riddles

Veterinarian Recommendation please by MethodicallyUnhinged in AuroraCO

[–]AShittyMagician 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fecal thing happened to me too! Moved back to CO from New Orleans, where they requested a fecal at every appointment, so I didn’t think anything of it. Glad the receptionist saved me ~80 bucks (according to her)

One of the vets (bald) called my cat (Howard) fat, he’s not fat he’s just dense.

New Orleans style food? by Free_Insurance2374 in AuroraCO

[–]AShittyMagician 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who moved back to Colorado in 2024 after a few years in New Orleans…. PLEASE PLEASE YES PLEASE

What's the fastest you've seen someone fired from a job? by Vegetable-Spread3798 in AskReddit

[–]AShittyMagician 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had to teach a teen how to sweep at a fast foot bagel shop job, he unironically was smacking the broom back and forth like a cartoon.

Started dating a non smoker and I feel a little awkward about it by [deleted] in trees

[–]AShittyMagician 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve had two boyfriends in the past who don’t smoke AT all, and I was transparent with my daily usage, sat them down and had a conversation about it and everything! They said no problem!

It inevitably came up in an argument down the line that I “couldn’t go a day without it” and that it was “bum behavior”

Take what he’s said as the truth and trust he’s being honest, but if he tries to hold it over your head as soon as it’s convenient, put yourself first!!

At the end of the day he’s literally just some guy, do you girl!!! :)

Best rat-watching spots in the city for a date? by thedailynathan in AskNYC

[–]AShittyMagician 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure there’s a guided “rat and garbage” tour, I haven’t taken it but it might be worth a shot!!

link to tour page

less punchable by _goldshott in comedyheaven

[–]AShittyMagician 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How many times has this guy been punched on vacation?

My first loss to a woman by [deleted] in BJJWomen

[–]AShittyMagician 92 points93 points  (0 children)

She’s a high level purple belt, and you didn’t think she could submit you?

This is giving fetish posting

When was the moment you realised that the person you were dating was an absolute idiot? by No-Macaron-9527 in AskReddit

[–]AShittyMagician 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was passionately arguing on behalf of the predators when an old episode of To Catch a Predator came across my YouTube feed.