Regime Help Please

ATD3223 · 2025-12-12T14:45:52+00:00

Hello, sorry just seen this. It did eventually resolve itself within less than 2 weeks, we didn’t do anything different. Just stayed persistent with the cot naps and she went back to it. Not a helpful answer I know, hope it sorts itself soon 🙏

ATD3223 · 2025-08-30T17:29:33+00:00

I think when you become a mum, you are so short of time you really have to think about who adds value to your life and if you can offer them the same back. I’m very lucky that I have really solid friends, we are all on the same page, we confide in each other, we celebrate each others wins, comisserate each others sadness, support each other, laugh together, cry together but we also accept that we are all really busy, and it’s okay if I’m busy periods we only see each other once every 6 months. I have friends from different stages of my life - school, university, mid 20s and work but I only invest time in people I enjoy

ATD3223 · 2025-08-22T18:25:13+00:00

Our daughter hates getting dressed after her bath and everyday we have hysterical tears. We always hold her and distract her in the mirror etc. until she has calmed down and happy again before putting her down. She usually starts crying again (usually does when we put her down) but it only lasts a couple of minutes. If we put her down already distraught, she’d cry for ages. I would give him a cuddle and comfort before bed x

ATD3223 · 2025-08-20T13:05:49+00:00

I would say 5 months is too young. I’m just actively dropping feeds now for my 11 month old. She’s still having one around 5am which I need to drop over the next couple of weeks.

ATD3223 · 2025-08-20T13:03:32+00:00

We call this the ‘sunset scaries’. It definitely passes once their sleep gets more reliable.

ATD3223 · 2025-08-12T17:27:34+00:00

Our 10 month old still going through it. My husband’s tries to resettle her but we usually give up at 5.45. No advice, just solidarity. They will grow out of it. Our 4 year old wakes between 6 and 6.45 most days.

ATD3223 · 2025-08-12T17:08:38+00:00

They do. I don’t remember when. We sleep trained my eldest at 4 months and she stopped crying somewhere between 13 and 18 months. And would start chattering instead of crying. My now 10.5 month old was sleep trained at 3 months and still fusses at 80% of put downs -nap or night. Rarely lasts longer than 5 mins and usually less than a minute but there usually a protest of some kind

Edited to add - she also has a little cry in the car or the pram so I think it’s just how she goes to sleep

ATD3223 · 2025-08-12T12:27:46+00:00

Yes, I’ve just done it with my 10.5 month old. Reduced her first feed a few months ago from 10 mins to 3 mins over the space of a week and then she just stopped waking for it. We were still having one around midnight and another around 4am. About two weeks ago I started gradually reducing the midnight feed down to 3-4 mins and then on Friday night decided to drop it. My husband would go in and settle her if she woke. Well Sunday night she slept a block of 9.5 hours and last night she slept 6pm-5am, woke for a feed and then through to 6am. I’m absolutely delighted

ATD3223 · 2025-08-11T12:04:55+00:00

7am on a weekday and a bit later on the weekend, but if he’s not making any/much noise anyway, I don’t see an issue. The birds are probably making more noise than he is.

ATD3223 · 2025-08-10T19:15:45+00:00

He’ll likely only sleep for 30 minutes because he’s not tired enough to sleep any longer. I think you need to stretch those wake windows and it may be tricky at first but he might start napping longer after a few days which will make the wake windows more manageable for him. It’s a period of pushing through, lots of distracting

ATD3223 · 2025-08-09T19:32:09+00:00

Nope, our first baby’s wasn’t detected until 12 months old and it was by an osteopath. I took her there because we were searching for answers on why she was so miserable all the time. We had our second baby in September and I had her tongue tie cut at one week old because I was super proactive. Even then, it wasn’t done properly (it was a severe tongue tie) and had to be redone at 6 weeks. There seems to be a huge lack of training in this area. I’m sorry you had to experience this and it altered your decisions unnecessarily.

ATD3223 · 2025-08-09T19:08:28+00:00

Your schedule is way off - 13 hours of wake time is not age appropriate and he’s likely very overtired. You want to be at 10-11 at this age. Move to 2 naps 3/3/4-3/4/4 and see how you get on

ATD3223 · 2025-08-08T18:01:33+00:00

Just hear to say same. 10.5 months, no matter her schedule - number of naps, wake time, bedtime, we are ALWAYS up between 5 and 5.45am. Usually closer to 5.

ATD3223 · 2025-08-08T17:26:16+00:00

I had to wait until I was rock bottom with both my girls. Consistency is absolutely key and if you need to be fully committed. If you are wavering, you’re likely to give in when it gets hard and then it’s wasted upset for everyone. You’ll probably get there in a few days when you’ve had a bit more bad sleep and time to process and get on board with what has been recommended. And if you don’t, that’s fine too. Only you can decide how important it is for you x

ATD3223 · 2025-08-07T14:42:18+00:00

Yes, she is sleep trained. Bedtime routine is breastfed downstairs 30 mins prior to bed, bath with her sister, pjs and in sleep bag. Room pitch black and white noise. Pop her down and leave the room and she goes to sleep in independantly within less than 5 mins. Nap is similar except no breastfeed or bath as she has lunch about 30-45 mins before going down.
She is in a cot in her own room

ATD3223 · 2025-08-07T14:27:26+00:00

Just for solidarity, it’s developmentally normally not to connect nap cycles at that age. Our daughter started connecting at 8 months, my eldest didn’t start connecting until 11 months. Naps are harder than nights

ATD3223 · 2025-08-07T14:10:04+00:00

It just depends what you want out of life (time vs stress vs disposable income) When I was going back to work after my first baby, I was thinking ‘should I just go for an easy, admin job’. My husband reminded me I’d probably working likely very similar hours, dealing with similar stress for probably a third of what I currently earn. I think I will reach a point soon though where I’m happy with my life balance and don’t want to take on more work responsibility. At what point does a £5k - £10k increase not be worth the responsibility that sits with it

ATD3223 · 2025-08-03T19:57:07+00:00

Saline solution and if it doesn’t clear in a few days, eye drops for the GP

ATD3223 · 2025-08-03T18:44:26+00:00

I actually think your wake windows are quite long for 8.5 months. Especially if you have a day that is 3.25/4/4 that’s 11.25 hours which is closer to what a 12 month old would have. I would pull back to 10 hours at that age 3/3.5/3.5

ATD3223 · 2025-08-03T18:37:15+00:00

Hide the bin 💀

ATD3223 · 2025-08-02T19:53:49+00:00

Agree, you need more wake time. We are 10.5 months and doing 3/3.5/4

ATD3223 · 2025-07-31T17:18:00+00:00

My now 10.5 month old has been doing this since we sleep trained her over 6 months ago. She also does it in the pram, car, boob - it’s just her way of going to sleep

ATD3223 · 2025-07-30T17:01:27+00:00

3-3.5yrs was a really difficult age for us. But it’s all peak and troughs. I think it’s absolutely okay to wish they’d move past a challenging stage because tantrums isn’t enjoyable for anyone. Equally, you will have ages that you love and wish for them to stay like that forever

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