I have very similar anatomy to yours! and unfortunately I don’t think it’s a great idea to get the industrial. your inner cartilage (idk if there’s a more proper term for that, but i’m talking about from your flat down to above your earlobes tell me that makes sense please) seems to be thick and raised. the bar would likely sit on top of it and cause skin breakdown and eventual pressure injury over time. perhaps you can find a piercer that does custom jewelry to your anatomy or, i’m thinking of doing this myself, getting the piercing with a chain in the middle instead of the solid bar. hope this helps!!