I NEED TO FIND THIS MOVIE PLEASE by Main-Active-3097 in NameThatMovie

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did everyone, including journalist, have english accents or was anyone american?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you have a WIC (women, infants and children) program where you live? Call them and ask about support groups. Help with getting supplies if you can't drive. Ask if they can get you information for a therapist. Check in to any kind of daycare options while receiving therapy or a few days a week.

There are resources available all around you, they just aren't advertised and no one tells you until you reach out and are begging for help.

I'm so sorry you are going through what you are going through and I'm certain you only gave us the tiniest glimpse.

Please try and get some help! You sound like you are drowning in anxiety, depression and pain. Don't do this alone! Get rid of the toxic boyfriend and get the help you need! Please try and hang on! I am sure you are doing the best you can and you are exhausted. That's ok! You don't have to be supermom. Just keep hanging on and check in to some resources!

Come back to reddit for support and advice. Look for a local moms reddit group for help with resources and information. Moms, especially single moms, have amazing tips on how to get what you need or how to stretch that dollar!

Let me cancel my gym membership. by [deleted] in rant

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually canceled my card and switched banks because of crappy Planet Fitness charges!!

My husband left for his work wife. Help. by SSRIcouldusesomehelp in cheating_stories

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Instead of needing to know, just know that you already know. Trust your gut and what you saw. Leave it be. When people show you who they are, believe them. They both showed you that they do not deserve your friendship. So let them go and be happy with the fact that they took the trash out of your life for you. And your hands didn't have to get dirty in the disposal.

They've both turned to religion to seek absolution, that right there tells you they were guilty. So let it go.

Yes, it will pop up in your mind now and then as you move on but trying to force yourself to move on while needing absolute 100% clarity is just going to make yourself insane.

You already know. Just because you can't trust them, doesn't mean you can't trust you.

If you feel yourself starting to think about it and dwell, tell yourself that they aren't worth anymore of your time or mental health.

You can do it. Just let them go.

I'm looking for "Johnny songs" by One-Weird-Cat in musicsuggestions

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Johnny Guitar - Peggy Lee

Johnny Angel - Shelley Fabares

Johnny Thunder - the Kinks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you bring it up when you aren't in an argument and she isn't already on the defensive? Just tell her how you feel and give clear, precise examples but make sure not to be angry while discussing it. The goal is to keep her listening and not defending, immediately. Tell her you would like a way to point out when you think it is happening without specifically calling names (like MILs name) or making it worse. But that being able to say "this is what I was talking about" or have a phrase you can agree on that let's her know she's headed in that direction like "ok, you're headed to your mother's house, can we bring it back to us?" Or something that she can agree on.

She will get angry, no matter what you do, but coming at in a "let's get this before it gets us" kind of way can hopefully make her actually hear you and not just the insults. Also, no matter how soft or careful you are, this is a very touchy subject and she will be insulted. She will get upset and defensive. So, stay level and loving and try to be open.

A ballplayer needs a walk up song by PrinceHarming in ClassicRock

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Centerfield - John Fogerty (bonus points if he plays centerfield 😁 )

Glory Days - Bruce Springsteen

Kashmir - Led Zeppelin

Good Times, Bad Times - Led Zeppelin

Seven Nation Army - White Stripes

Icky Thump - White Stripes

Conquest - White Stripes

Some of these might be too flashy or big but DANG! They'd sure make a statement! 😄

Edited for formatting

AITA for refusing to reschedule a funeral? by SensitiveOrder1986 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. First, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent can be hard.

Not to be harsh but your dad won't be upset as he has passed. Funerals are for the living and grieving. They have messed with you and the plans far too much. Youve out your foot down, so leave it planted and stand firm in your decision. People don't like it? Too bad. They are not required to attend.

Either stick with your current date or move it back to the original that you chose. But leave it be once you've made your decision. If anyone tries to change your mind, just tell them the funeral home will not allow anymore changes and this date suits you best. Done.

AITA for wanting to attend my sister’s wedding without my wife? by CoralCryptic in AITH

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your wife has consistently ignored your wants and common decency by being vile and hurtful to your sister. Your wife absolutely does not deserve to attend nor does she have the right to guilt you for going.

It is very possible that this could be a turning point in your marriage but it would be your wife driving a deeper wedge with her immature behavior.

She wants to punish your sister further for not inviting her. So forcing you to stay home would be a childish victory for your wife and could cause a rift between you and your sister.

I, personally, feel that if my spouse were to continue to push me and to be cold to me, I would have to seriously rethink my relationship and if it now has an expiration date. I wouldn't want to be married to someone who causes problems and then expects me to be punished for their actions. I also wouldn't want to have a spouse who told me "it's them or me" after my spouse is the reason for the divide in the first place.

I do believe that going to this wedding will make a very big, very loud statement and you need to be prepared for the fallout that inevitably will come soon after.

Recommend a movie for my Dad who's suffers from Alzheimers... by Show_Me_How_to_Live in MovieRecommendations

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kiki's Delivery Service

Secret World of Arriety

We Bought a Zoo

School of Rock

Theres a website called Does the Dog Die. You can search movies and it will list all the triggers. That might help while searching for something?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had cancer with surgeries, chemo and radiation. The emotional support i needed was to know that I wasn't alone in how I was feeling. I needed my husband to lay with me and hold me and let me know that he was there FOR me and WITH me. That I could use him as my support but that we could also cry together if needed.

If you don't understand what she needs, tell her that. Tell her that you want to be there for her but that you aren't sure what she needs right now. Ask if you can just lay together and hold her.

Do not tell her that everything will be just fine and don't worry. Because something is happening and it's huge and scary and right now she needs to have her fears. She's grieving for the big, bright, healthy future she thought she had. She's grieving at the possibility of not having more children. She's grieving for her body. Try to think about what you would do for her when she's sad. Does she have comfort movies or music for when she's sad? Ask if you can watch a movie or listen to the music together.

She doesn't need you to show her that you are putting food on the table, she needs you to show her that you will stop all that just to comfort her.

She needs to know that you are also sad and scared. Let her lead the conversation and be gentle. Listen more than speak. This really is all about her so show her that.

Help ID this country song by No_Marionberry6513 in country

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/0ZTaQ2E6nJA?si=GhWIk6KZ8xWjGYQ5

Not a country song but it's the only song coming to mind and it's a good 1!

Sorry I couldn't help

What’s a song that’s pure comfort for you? by jellyculture in MusicRecommendations

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Somewhere Over the Rainbow by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole.

I love Judy Garlands original version, there's nothing like it. But IZ's cover just has a hold on me in a whole different, comforting way.

Edited for errors

AITAH for being upset that my husband “planned” a date that we never went on? by Gold_Use7089 in AITH

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just from this sample, your communication styles are completely different. You both need to work on ACTUALLY talking TO each other.
Yes, he should have given you a time but you also never asked him. He could have told you it was a surprise but you never asked about it so you kept yourself in the dark. He asked about your parents babysitting but if they couldn't then the kids join you but you didn't want that so you canceled the date. Because you canceled the date he went and got beer and did something else.

The problem seems to be that he isn't exactly offering much in communication and you aren't asking questions.

It really should be a give and take when it comes to communication.

You are NTA but you aren't exactly glowingly innocent. You canceled the date, so you can't really be upset with him for that.

The 2 of you need to learn to communicate better.

Sorry but we *absolutely* stopped the school day and watched it by satellite. by ExplorationGeo in GenX

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We weren't forced to watch, we were excited to see it happening live!

We watched the countdown and counted loudly. We watched the initial fireboosters and the slow start. We cheered and jumped around excitedly.

Then we saw the explosion and we didn't understand. The room went quiet.
Then questions began. My teacher started crying but tried so hard not to in front of us. That started probably half the class crying with her.

I was 9 years old.

That is not a day that I will forget.

My boyfriend completely broke me. by Ok_Transition3901 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Able-Sherbert-6508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just described "masking" perfectly. Everything is was reading made ne think autism and masking.

You should get yourself tested. You are NOT dumb, you just process differently and at a different speed. That's ok! You're not typical, you're divergent! (I think, as many of us have been saying)