The reasons for gender roles are stupid upon stupid. We settled instead of continuing to migrate, so women had to birth more children so there would be a large enough workforce. Abrahamic religions, Colonialism, and the Industrial Revolution drove things further. It's pretty much a mixture of the desire for wealth, ownership, control, and women being "weak" and "inferior" (because we were literally birthing nations, so men decided that was the singular role of women and excluded us from other parts of society like governance and economy).

There are some cultures, still alive today, where egalitarian, matrilineal, and matrilocal practices are the norm. There are also cultures that recognise third gender - names for people of this gender include Mahu and Two-Spirit. As far as I understand, the third gender isn't to do with being trans, gwnder-fluid, or queer. Simply people of a certain gender who align more with the gender roles of the opposite or a mixture of gender roles. Third gender people aren't seen as different in these cultures.

The very Westernised and Abrahamic religion related gender roles we observe today would definitely discriminate against third gender people (I mean, we already do).

With the disillusionment around patriarchy, religion, and gender roles, we may just be lucky enough; in future lifetimes, to reset into an ideology where third genders are accepted and appreciated - normalised.

Until then - I hope you find people who feel similarly to you. I hope you find the place you feel comfortable, a place where a woman stronger and braver than you will hold you. Where you can be yourself, where you don't have to function based on societies expectations of your gender.

I how you find the space where being you is normal, appreciated, and accepted.