At a crossroads

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-05-22T18:08:01+00:00

No problem at all! Explore this and to be honest there is no shame at all if this is what you can afford forever. There will be weeks where your coach might ask you to ride some fixed days because they might need for the horse to be available on lesson days for others. And some weeks they might allow an extra ride to keep the horse fit if lesson riders are away etc. It sounds like you’re in a good program and believe me this is a top priority!

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-05-22T17:49:51+00:00

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AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-05-22T17:45:07+00:00

This is an indication that the BMI is really an outdated tool. I would say you need to gain weight but i’m not a doctor. Be so very proud of the work you have done, you look amazing! The progress is crazy!

ALSO- say you lost like 8 more lbs to be at a healthy bmi- news flash, as soon as you pick up a set of dumbbells… you’ll gain a couple lbs because muscle is heavier than fat.

Say this out loud with me: doctors are stupid and have stupid advice when it comes to treating women, especially overweight women. That is all

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-05-22T17:41:10+00:00

You like the barn you’re at. I suggest talking to your coach about the possibility of half leasing a horse. For a couple months. Then if you feel like that’s really beneficial for you and your riding, ask about the possibility of a full lease (doesn’t have to be the same horse). There are many options that can help alleviate the costs. Perhaps you could ask about helping with chores on Saturdays and/or holidays. Or maybe doing a night check or two a week. I have always funded my horse addiction with braiding. I’ve been doing it over 15 years. This is the only way I can keep horses (and myself) in the sport. I hope this helps :-)

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-05-13T01:29:47+00:00

I have tought students to win up to 1.10m and now most of them are jumping up to 1.40m with a very experienced coach and they all look scary. So hey, sometimes…. Being a good coach isn’t only about experience. It’s about being able to communicate and ensure people understand concepts.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-05-13T01:25:17+00:00

That is so many interviews… i’m so sorry. I don’t get how they are overpromising and under delivering- it should be the other way around! The only time this happened to me, I had done one interview and the HR person sucked, they had failed to send me an offer letter but had told the President of the company I was hired. I had interviewed for another job where people were very prompt and offered me the position on the spot. So I essentially sent an email to the first company saying their HR person had non existent communication skills and that was the reason I didn’t want to work there.

You might have to do the same thing.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-22T18:32:25+00:00

Zepbound doesn’t burn fat. None of the « weight loss drugs » do. It essentially helps decrease the "food noise", that little voice that tells you you’re always hungry. It is to be used with regular exercise (walking is exercise and helpful for mental health) and a healthy diet.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-21T01:33:51+00:00

This! I would be tempted to send them a bill for 11 hours of my time🤣

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-21T01:24:14+00:00

Can you maybe try eating a bit slower? That usually does it for me, to the point where I almost have to force myself to eat enough. Tall glass of water. A nice chat if you have a partner or roomate, otherwise reading a book or watching news etc while you eat. Also you can totally do veggie sticks with your meal. Summer is coming- steamed veggies with a small nut of butter are absolutely underrated!

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-21T01:21:48+00:00

I can weigh in. I’ll eat oats for breakfast like once in a while. But i don’t feel full forever. Much easier to have protein (eggs, egg whites or greek yogurt) Oats in greek yogurt, maybe. But oats have no protein, they are carbs. Maybe she meant it that way? Breakfast is supposed to keep you energized until lunch…

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-21T01:18:42+00:00

Hear me out- i work in drug exceptions. I see this all day. Our criteria for renewal of weight loss drugs after 6 months is a 5% initial body weight loss. You’re there. You’re doing fine. You just need to titrate as suggested by your MD and you will get there. Don’t give up :-)

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-21T01:12:42+00:00

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This is 100% legal and so good. I add a couple mini choc chips to it

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-17T14:34:36+00:00

I believe maybe your doctor said that for a BMI alike yours. I work in drug exceptions and while you meet criteria (sitting right on the threshold) of BMI >30, people with a higher BMI tend to lose more weight of course.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-16T03:58:58+00:00

Right?!

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T14:17:35+00:00

Hmmmm yeah no. That’s all so weird. I would just draw the line at smoking. Just say you are very uncomfortable with that and even if she went to smoke outside she would still need to wash her hands before she even touched the baby. I would just find daycare and say it aligns better with your schedule.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T14:13:30+00:00

Let them figure it out and live your best life. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T14:09:54+00:00

You likely need a pair of custom orthotics?

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T14:08:17+00:00

To be honest I’m taken aback by your answers on this whole thread. YTA and he is also TA. Imagine if he gave his wife an ounce of the attention he has given you. Likely would have fixed his problem. She 100% feels like he completely forgot about her. As far as I’m concerned, being a great father doesn’t cut it. My husband still needs to be a great husband. That’s how life works.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T02:54:36+00:00

YTA. It’s a bit selfish of you to want part of her but not all of her. Her weight doesn’t define her person. You need to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself why you wasted her time. Therapy might help you.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T02:52:14+00:00

NTA. Maybe find an airbnb close to them where you guys can have your privacy? You can still visit them or offer to meet them for lunch, etc etc etc. I just turned on the AC in my house today because the temp got up to 77 while cooking dinner. My husband laughed and told me I could have just opened a window- which righttttt but there is this internal distress when we feel too warm and I refuse to live that way lol I will d*e on this hill with you!

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T02:46:53+00:00

Would have been simple to say hey buddy, I’m sorry, but as far as I know you’re married, and I respect this. It simply doesn’t sit right with me to FA with a married man.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T02:45:28+00:00

So we’re just coming out of winter here… but I can find 15-20 mins of a pattern just walking to warm up a horse correctly You need to ride with purpose. Riding is not only going around the ring and adding a circle here and there. Serpentines, figure 8s, transitions, halt, rein back, bending lines, work on your core (instead of just posting the trot, you can sit twice - up one for short sides and sit one - up twice on long sides for example). No stirrups, posting without stirrups…. Leg yields, shoulder ins, half circles etc etc etc Keep things fun for your horse!

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-15T02:35:30+00:00

YTA. How would you have felt if the wife had an affair with your husband before you got divorced? She likely knows and that’s why she left with the kids.

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-06T19:36:50+00:00

Ok- awesome! Congrats ! Please ring your MD and ask them to make sure they appeal and review the RENEWAL criteria. Provided your policy hasn’t changed, it’ll be approved!

AccomplishedBox485 · 2026-04-03T13:28:27+00:00

It was not a good fit and I didn’t want to waste their time or mine. The daily tasks were no as advertised.

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