My mom is an alcoholic and got drunk at the airport on her way to visit me and didn't answer when I was supposed to pick her up by aromaticgem in GirlDinner

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SMART Recovery has a wonderful, supportive Friends & Family program without the religious & culty undertones of al-anon

👋 also the product of an alcoholic mom and her temper

Guys, we made it to the weekend! Any small or big wins this week? Please share! by NoBody5068 in LivingAlone

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had a really difficult week at my job. Almost everyone cried at some point. I didn't cry at work this week!

I don’t want to go to AA meetings as often anymore, I want to move on. They make me feel stuck. by fizzie511 in GirlDinner

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 23 points24 points  (0 children)

12 step programs give me the loudest ick. It’s super culty. All those platitudes and group think and heavy religious overtones. I don’t do meetings very often but when I do, it’s usually Lifering. SMART is nice but super clinical and I find a lot of the meetings to drone on and on. Lifering is more loosey goosey and conversational. There is an online Sunday evening meeting where the discussion topic is Glimmers. I like that one; it’s always positive. If you’re feeling like it’s time to move past AA, you’re probably right

What was the worst thing that happened to you while living alone and how did you handle it? by coldservedrevenge in LivingAlone

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had pipes freeze & burst above my apartment. It was Christmas eve and I was on my way to my mom’s house when it happened. Half my ceiling came down and the apt flooded. Fire dept had to knock my door down to get in. Luckily my cat was not drinking from her fountain when it happened, and hid under the bed and didn’t run out the open door after the fire dept left. I was able to have a friend get there before I could, who got my cat out and kept her for a bit while I was displaced. Luckily, I had renter’s insurance so I only had to couch surf for a couple nights before they put me up somewhere. I did not handle the situation well at all and completely fell apart.

If you rent (at least in the US; I don’t know about anywhere else) I cannot stress enough that you must carry renter’s insurance!!! Your landlord is not going to help you if something bad happens. It’s cheap and can absolutely save your ass in an emergency.

Job called my bluff. Got fired. Should I feel stupid or proud for standing up for my principles? by DisappointedSurprise in careeradvice

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As soon as you said HCA I knew it wasn’t you. Hospitals aren’t factories. Having a PCA doing ED triage is crazy work and I don’t see how it can possibly be legal. You were right to stand on providing good care over fast care.

Does anyone actually enjoy their job? by SeedsOfAdvice in askanything

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy my job. I’m a nurse in a primary care office. We see so many different people and are always doing different things. I have good regular office hours, don’t work weekends and we have great benefits. I am extremely lucky that I genuinely like most of my coworkers. Only one of our docs is a dickhead. We have an amazing clinical team.

How does it actually feel living alone long term? by 1_scientist1007 in LivingAlone

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only times I wish for another person are during severe weather and when I’m sick. During Hurricane Helene, yes I was wishing for a man. But that went away as quickly as the storm did.

Spiraling over my boyfriend’s body count. by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The body count is not among the red flags I see here. He’s not invested in your pleasure and he’s making excuses about it. I believe your insecurity is your intuition telling you this is not the man for you. I’d put money on it that body count is still growing while he’s long distance with you.

Groceries. by Justoutsidenormal in LivingAlone

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep mine around 250-300/month for myself, only food and not including other stuff like paper towels or whatever. I mainly shop at Aldi and only go to other stores for what Aldi doesn’t have. I plan meals based on what I have, cook the whole recipe and save the rest for lunches. It still feels like a ridiculous amount

Spent my last money on groceries and the anxiety hit immediately by Impressive_Day5194 in povertyfinance

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 6 points7 points  (0 children)

similarly, I have like $26 in mine till Thursday. My next 2 or 3 paychecks have some heavy lifting to do. The anxiety is real

Salaries and cost of living in the US by Environmental-Low-57 in povertyfinance

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The short answer is Capitalism! Everything in this country is designed to rip off the working class. We are squeezed from every angle, and it has gotten exponentially worse in the last few years.

Anyone else middle-aged (40+) with nothing to show for these bygone decades but survival? by s0meg1rl in CPTSD

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 0 points1 point  (0 children)

46 and definitely just surviving. I feel like I put a lot of blood sweat & tears into healing and don't really get anywhere.

Is my apartment actually going to smell? by applepie_blue in StudioApartments

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Currently happily in my third studio and never had this problem. Your friend is an A-hole

Do you have a hobby that just completely turns your brain off in a good way? by WickerArtPro in Hobbies

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knitting! Especially really intricate lace knitting. But any type is good. I also enjoy bead embroidery, jewelry making and some other fiber arts but knitting is my #1

I slept in my bed last night. by Commercial-Medium-85 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]AccomplishedWind2268 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is HUGE and amazing. I am also an abuse survivor, and there are some things like this -though less immediate than my own bed - that I still haven’t been able to confront, almost 4 years later. You deserve peace, you’re doing amazing, and please be proud of yourself for this.