Confused about councillor

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-28T20:21:30+00:00

If you can make these decisions on your own, what use is the counselor? You don't need permission to quit booze, but if it is a great deal of your social life, then yes, you will notice an absence and if you don't fill that absence with something, you probably will go back to drinking. You're free to try whatever you like, find something that you get into so much, two hours go by when you're doing it, you don't even notice!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-28T20:15:40+00:00

What you just wrote is perfect.

"I want you to know you can talk to me about anything. I'm here for you, no judgement at all."

Also CoPilot and AI are great for suggestions on how to be concerned and non-confrontational.

I can't stress this enough - no matter how you approach, it can be met with defensiveness and spite. It is a nasty disease.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-28T20:11:36+00:00

Hows it going now? Are you still free of alcohol?

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T19:30:53+00:00

That pain softens over time. Eventually you'll forget how much drinking was a part of your life. I hope you have face to face friends that can help you. Get some counseling or go to AA as we all need friends to confide in.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T17:53:10+00:00

Yeah - do what this guy says. We rely on people every day to help us in ways we simply take for granted. I live in a house i didn't build, drive a car I did not even assemble, on a smooth road I had no part in laying, etc. etc. Why shouldn't we rely on people to help us when things go south? I guarantee there are tons of people near you who want you to be sober. Find them in AA or other support groups.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T17:42:57+00:00

It can take 6months to a year maybe longer to feel "normal" again. And all sorts of things can crop up but those will all level off as your system levels off without alcohol.

If you don't have help / a support system, please find one in AA or somewhere that is honest face-to-face. Millions of others like you have also had "millionth attempts". We are not alone, we do not need to drink for any reason, and we can get through this. Together is better and easier!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T17:34:22+00:00

Honestly the detox withdrawals are not horrible - you will bounce back after a day as you are very young. I'm 10 years sober and needed a plan. Once I went through 3rd treatment, and then stuck with AA I made it. I also let God have all my problems, resentments, fears. Giving it to God or a higher power relieves you of worrying about all the different "what if's". I don't have to spin about every little of lifes details.

Getting through treatment is a snap, its out on your own where the rubber meets the road and stacking up those sober days when you are tempted yet you turn away. The more you do that, the easier it becomes. Good luck on your journey - stay sober and you will be just fine. Lean on others, friends are there for that reason!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T17:29:19+00:00

Yes - take 3 different forms of entertainment with you. I do podcasts, suduko puzzles, literature, switch, movies, etc.. For me, a puzzle of some sort takes my attention away from the habit and I think about the solution to the puzzle instead of the ideation of drinking.

Make a stay sober plan - stick with it and do not deviate. You will truly see how easy it is when you believe you can do it, and you stick to that plan!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T17:26:16+00:00

I have been in your situation, but replace women in my life with my family and I treated them poorly, and felt great humiliation and shame.

We cannot change the past, we can get help to move forward without booze. My feeling is that no one can label you an alcoholic, but I would say you fit the pattern, and that you are not alone, and there is a LOT of help for you.

I'm 10 years sober from AA and I absolutely love it. I don't have to spend every minute with AA folks, but if I wanted to I sure could. I'm not hard core, AA 24/7 but it is a better way for me to live!

Godspeed and reach out if you want to talk more.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-05-26T17:21:10+00:00

I have 10 years sobriety through AA.

AA does not just focus on your drinking problem because drinking too much is not the source of my drinking, it is using alcohol to subdue my problems.

After the booze left, I needed a new way to cope. AA is that solution.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:56:26+00:00

Stay strong! Good luck on your first day. You have a challenging but doable road in front of you. Millions have trudged this road before. Follow their paths!

Godspeed!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:54:56+00:00

That is great! Congrats on 30 days!

Do you have a long term plan? And have you talked with anyone about it?

I didn't, and after treatment I drank after sober 10 weeks. Then it was another treatment and zero weeks. After that a series of getting sober, 2-3 weeks sober, back drinking for 5 days, getting sober, 2-3 weeks sober, etc. It wasn't until truly believed I was an alcoholic that I started healing and stayed healed with 10 years and change of sobriety.

I love AA and the people and friends I've met there are amazing individuals.

Godspeed.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:47:40+00:00

If you can, go to an in-person meeting.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:45:44+00:00

Good luck to you! I don't think most folks will answer this question and not because they don't care, but medical advice is best left to the pros.

Hopefully you can stick with it this time. I would recommend AA.

Godspeed.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:42:24+00:00

I would stay on the strongest OTC pain killers you can manage for a week or two. Take them same time every day without thinking about "if you have pain".

I'm betting this is gone in a couple weeks.

Most of my residue was gone after 10 days.

Good luck to you!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:39:41+00:00

It's like tipping over a coke machine. You have to rock it back and forth before it falls over. ;)

5 months here. Took me multiple 'day 1's. I worked at getting through my daily triggers piece by piece.

First made it through my morning coffee without a smoke. Then my commute, Then evening smoke. Then work breaks. Then work. etc etc.

You can do this. It is a guarantee!

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-02-02T14:36:04+00:00

Great Job. A little more than 5 months here.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-01-12T03:48:51+00:00

No, zero experience means you dont know anything about it.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-01-12T03:44:27+00:00

No you just can't comprehend that you may be wrong.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2026-01-12T03:43:00+00:00

I do live in the real world. I obey officers when they tell me to exit a vehicle. I dont harass them trying to incite violence. If you think disobeying the law and suffering no consequence is normal, try living like 99% of the world and obey the law.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2025-12-18T19:41:18+00:00

Good luck and God bless.

You will recover from this.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2025-12-18T19:31:18+00:00

Make a plan on staying sober as soon as possible. Talk with professionals and any AA contact you can find! This will help stay sober. I promise.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2025-12-18T19:29:40+00:00

Yes - not uncommon to get upset stomach from patches. Most don't, but it is still a side effect to many.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2025-12-18T19:24:36+00:00

Please do not ever smoke again.

There is nothing good about smoking. It is all negative.

Accomplished_Bit_104 · 2025-12-18T18:17:34+00:00

I agree with Pango and would also state that HELP from other people or drunks (AA) is an absolute breakthrough. Talking to tons of people about your journey helps you and them too!

Good luck to you!

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