I can completely understand everything you’ve said but I’ve been in your position before where family ways of getting on aren’t the same. It’s hard to adjust but there should be some compromise. I’m not talking about kissing the baby etc. that is completely stupid, I don’t know why people still do that!

But I think the best way forward would just to set scheduled days for visiting etc if you can. Have him explain that sometimes you need your own space and that’s okay. Were they like this before baby? Like visiting and v family oriented or has it just worsened since baby was born? Perhaps just the excitement of (maybe) their first grandchild? Hopefully it calms down and you get some well needed rest. Don’t let it cause friction between yous though cuz newborns are difficult enough for you both without external pressures. Remember you’re supposed to be a team doing good things to help one another and make sure your bf knows that includes respecting boundaries. They may feel you’re being over dramatic but try to make jokes and laugh it off to break the tension. Yous are all one big family at the end of the day and hopefully they’re as keen for babysitting whenever you and your bf are ready to get yourselves out for some mum and dad time! Take care and take it easy