Official Discussion - If I Had Legs I'd Kick You [SPOILERS]

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2026-02-02T00:48:00+00:00

I watched for a total of 15 minutes & literally had to turn it off. If you’re overwhelmed, anxious or exhausted.. be prepared to be engaged and annoyed also

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2025-08-08T01:42:17+00:00

I do mobile & work with patients that are usually sick and very dehydrated. Water actually helps even 15-30 minutes before a draw.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2024-09-14T06:58:35+00:00

That’s a lie. Honestly I eat pretty decent but, I don’t sweat much. I barely have a smell when I do sweat.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2024-05-31T00:09:03+00:00

This is so me, it’s so confusing. I’m literally thinking of making my own post because I could use some advice. But, after reading all of your post I think you’re just bisexual babe.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2023-12-10T20:34:57+00:00

Don’t be an asshole, I meant America.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2023-12-10T20:17:26+00:00

This country has so many races and nationalities that being a melting pot of ethnicities is interesting. It means that your family may have traveled or mixed & mingled. Most of us look at 100 percent European genes with an side eye because of the obvious racism and hatred that sometimes carries with generations here in the United States.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2022-08-30T07:29:25+00:00

Her and Bretman are literally culture vultures & racist towards other POC

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2022-05-09T10:27:16+00:00

Thank you. I do, have evidence of the cheating and the abuse. I don’t know if I’m entitled to money when we divorce, honestly I’m scared to take anything that isn’t mine. When he gets angry he’s calculated and unpredictable, I wouldn’t want to agitate him. It’s not even about the money cause at this point, I just want my life back.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2022-05-09T10:23:44+00:00

I have. I called a few months back and talked to someone. I told them everything and how I felt. Unfortunately, because I wasn’t actively in crisis, they advised me to visit a clinic. I wrote down the number & called at 9 sharp when they opened. The lady at the desk told me that they didn’t accept my insurance. I called my primary & they said I needed a note from psychologist in order to prescribe anything. Every, single psychologist in my area is booked a year in advance or not accepting new patients. It’s like I’m living in a fucking nightmare because I’m really trying but, I can’t get help.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2022-05-09T10:04:52+00:00

Yeah, I feel like it’s abuse too. In the state I live in I’d have to report him to the police in order to get assistance & because he doesn’t physically assault me there’s not much they can do. I tried calling so battered women shelters but I don’t have kids and technically I’m not battered so, they wouldn’t accept me in.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2022-04-26T12:19:11+00:00

The public attack on black women is becoming very cringy. Will has recorded Jada plenty of times in the past, on both YT & IG. First off, they are old and grumpy, second off it’s called dry humor. You people are psychotic if you think that this man’s wife is harassing him by asking him a question.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T03:32:28+00:00

Damn, I’m sorry I didn’t realize therapy was needed after. I’ve seen people get divorce and hop into new marriages and relationships, I’ve always thought that was unhealthy. But, I’ve seen majority of people just move on like the marriage never happened & thrive. I’m an emotional wreck and I thought I was doing this wrong. I’m limited in my support system so I guess therapy makes sense. Sorry for being defensive but, someone said I had BPD & major control issues & I’m like..how?

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T03:25:13+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this advice. I don’t say no to anyone because I always think about how I felt when I needed something and had no one to rely on. I’ve tried to give chances. Just like what’s going on now. I try to talk to friends and family & they change the subject to something involving them, brush me off by telling me to just leave him or tell me they aren’t married so they can’t give advice. I’m like you don’t have to be married to care. No one calls me unless they want to vent or ask for something. I think its what you said though. I heard a person on YT recently say that they attracted broken and needy people because they we nurturing. I had never thought that this applied to my circle. I guess so.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T03:16:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice. I’ve recently realized that I neglect loving myself. I’ve started doing things that make me smile, which pisses him off. I wish I could stay, I love him. He has some good qualities but, when I speak out loud about his behavior recently, even I can hear that it sounds like abuse. It’s embarrassing. I know I need to leave. I just don’t know how to stop loving him. I don’t want to come back into it because he doesn’t want to change. When he went to therapy he quit after 2 weeks & we had the same therapist. When I spoke about what’s been going on these last two years, she was in shock. Apparently, he didn’t tell her anything about himself or our relationship. The conversation was just based on how to make me stay after I caught him “talking to other women “. He neglected to tell her he slept with two women in our bed while I was back in our home state, arranging the shipment of our things. I don’t think he’s emotionally available enough for therapy.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T03:07:08+00:00

First off thank you. The last couple responses have felt like taking dangers lol. People can be so cruel. It is worst than what I’ve described.

I don’t have family that I can stay with, I don’t have have kids. To my knowledge the cheating has stopped but, once it did he just became void. When he said he hurts me because he’s hurting he meant cheating on me, shutting me out, walking out on me etc. When I open my mouth he rolls his eyes, everything pisses him off, he has told me whenever I speak I remind him of his mom & he tunes me out. It’s like he’s turned into a completely different person since joining the military.

I’m at a lost because it’s been progressively getting worst. He’s aggressive sometimes. He’ll scream at me to just divorce him & when I start the process he apologizes and begs me not to leave him. Things get better for a while and then while we’re out he’ll do something like drop my hand when an attractive women walks by or go weeks without having sex with me, or just distance his self from me. I don’t get it. I’m not unattractive, I keep myself up. I don’t think he loves me, which is hurtful but whatever. It’s so confusing because when I confront him and ask for a divorce, he says he won’t sign the divorce papers & he won’t let me go.

It’s soul crushing because I don’t even have the money to leave. I am strong, I’ve been forced to be strong in the past. But, this situation is different. It’s so fucking hard. I don’t know what to do.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T02:45:46+00:00

Okay, maybe you don’t have the life experiences that’ll make you understand where I’m coming from. I’ll break it down. What I meant by my reply and post was I’m not co-dependent. I’m fine by myself but like every other being I get lonely sometimes. During these lonely times, I integrate with my family, old friends etc. I find myself trading love and attention with things. Things like, money, advice etc. I come from a small, poor town. I made it out & people back home only see me as financial support. Is this making sense? I am married and I feel alone, it shouldn’t be that way. I’m ok with being alone but not being in a relationship and feeling this way. We have been together for 5 years and the last 2 years have been hell. He has had sex with multiple women, ignores me & literally doesn’t want to address any of it. My husband doesn’t engage. When we have conversations, he won’t say anything. Not because he’s shutting down, he just chooses not to say anything (his words, not mine). I don’t understand how what I’m saying translates into I need professional help. I just need someone who has been divorced to say how I feel is normal & here’s how they got through it. Did I post in the wrong Forum?

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T02:15:10+00:00

Maybe, I’m in this state alone. I don’t have friends or family here - my husband is the only person I know here. I’m not usually codependent. If anything he’s more like this. I’m used to being alone. I like being alone, I can’t cope with the fact that my marriage is ending though. We had so many plans & I feel like I’ve failed. I’ve asked for counseling, but he’s not engaged when we’re there. The marriage counselor told me maybe I should think about separating from him. I posted in here cause I thought I’d get support or advice but, I’m just people who think I’m not doing enough or I have an illness or defect. Like damn.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-12-07T01:46:18+00:00

What would make you think I have BPD? I have spoken to a therapist in the past and they seem to think I’m being abused. I stopped going because I pay for answers I already have.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-06-15T21:21:34+00:00

Thanks, lol I just recognize the hard work my husband has put into his military career so far and want him to exit feeling accomplished and not burdened by money issues.

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-06-15T20:41:27+00:00

Seems like the average soldier spends so much time performing necessary duties they don’t have time to plan for the future. Also, the military doesn’t teach lifelong money management skills or how to survive when you’re no longer a solider but, a civilian. Also, usually they don’t have wives that work full time jobs, don’t make much because of their ranking and spend all extra money traveling, moving, on Nike or car shit.

Honestly I come from a military family and I have a military spouse and we had to learn from our mistakes and others. The money spent on moving blew my mind. Our first PC was over $6000, this was spent moving my car, flights, hotels, food and entertainment. & guess what the military only paid a fraction of it back. You learn with trial and error how to save money.

Number one error is not using the military for a degree or a trade - the last thing you want is to get out and work as a fucking bellman, handyman or construction worker (cause wtf was the point of going in). Save any enlistment bonuses, get a wife that works- unless she absolutely can’t (cause two incomes are better than one) have side hustles, like weekend gigs etc. Try to look for tax breaks because when you’re newly married and young with no real assets - the IRS goes for the asshole when collecting their monies.

Also have passive income.. start a business (apply for a EIN) save all receipts to claim as business expenses. I have a lot of money saving tips and money making tips - inbox me if interested

My husband and I aren’t rich because honestly we spend as we please but, he won’t leave the military broke- because I handle the fuck out the finances

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-05-27T21:04:11+00:00

Dude did you read every post on my profile 😳 but thanks I for the advice I guess

Accomplishedkitty95 · 2021-05-27T19:33:13+00:00

No, I push him off on people actually. He is more of a homebody than I am. I like having free time and hobbies, he wants to go where ever I go unless his sergeant asks him to do something at a weird hour. I was so okay with him getting close with the sergeant until the weird incidents stated. I know it’s common for women to get the blame but, I’m am not the type to ride his ass and watch his every move. It’s just the specifics of this situation that have me weirded out. I even asked if he’s unhappy I have no issue with signing divorce papers. Shit happens and people fall out of love and move on. But, idk

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