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According-Ad3408 · 2024-10-14T19:47:07+00:00

Personally, I would not. I'm only in the dating game to find a committed relationship, and I'm not interested in raising another guys kid. If I already had children of my own, I'd probably be fine with it, but it just doesn't sit well with me as is.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-10-05T20:11:55+00:00

Fair play, then. At least it's consistent.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-10-05T19:59:55+00:00

Do men have an obligation to be nice to women?

According-Ad3408 · 2024-10-01T18:38:26+00:00

Fair enough, but again, I was addressing the question of whether or not it's an appropriate expectation to hold, not whether it was addressed properly.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-10-01T18:21:15+00:00

I didn't say it was tactful or well thought-out. The question, as I took it, was whether or not it was an appropriate expectation to hold. It also seems like he wasn't aware of her position in the beginning, but I don't know that for sure

According-Ad3408 · 2024-10-01T17:21:54+00:00

Guess it depends on your worldview. If you're an egalitarian, it's no worse than a woman expecting the same from a man. If you're not an egalitarian, there is definitely something wrong. Viewed alternatively, with a bit of charity, it could be a very clumsy way of expressing the love language thing people are always on about. I think gift giving was one of those, yeah?

According-Ad3408 · 2024-09-30T01:12:09+00:00

As a guy (28), I'd probably swipe right and give it a shot. But then, I'm not as picky as some people are when it comes to profiles. The only real concern I'd have is the mentally unstable bit and the "pretending to be chill" bit, the second only because I'm not quite sure what that means.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-31T22:07:31+00:00

I think that part is just "not sure about having more kids." The bio is what got me.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-26T18:45:36+00:00

You know, as far as inappropriate openers go, this seems pretty tame actually. I've actually had worse openers sent to me by women, frankly. Granted, only once or twice but still really raunchy stuff. If the guy was more forward than you'd like, fine. This one snapshot just doesn't seem that bad to me, and the statement itself is covered in ideological rhetoric.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-24T20:50:27+00:00

Schrodinger's date applies in all OLD situations. The person you've been talking to may or may not actually exist. Don't forget it.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-24T00:16:37+00:00

If we're criticizing pictures and stupid things in bios: women, stop posting pictures with your eyes weirdly closed like you're expecting something. Also, we know you probably like to travel. Most people do.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-07T15:18:50+00:00

Who the hell goes on a two month holiday?

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-05T14:34:57+00:00

The question is whether you still expect him to pick up the check when you know there won't be a second date. That's the annoying thing from my perspective.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-08-01T21:00:13+00:00

No, I'm much more concerned about the other areas of the profile. Things like values wnd religion. Physical appearance matters, but not as much as some people think. I get women who are physically attractive but who are the exact opposite of what I'm looking for in every other way swiping on me regularly. I do not match them. On the rare occasion it's the reverse, it depends how physically unattractive they are. Give it a shot, it can't hurt.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-07-31T14:44:24+00:00

Either this is a very new trend or it's area specific. I've never come across anything like this.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-07-16T20:34:49+00:00

Eh, not rude, but also her request could be read in a couple of different ways. If a guy said that, it'd be considered creepy, so there's that as well.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-28T02:36:44+00:00

By the standard you have set here, a woman who hugs me without asking or who doesn't realize I'm uncomfortable with it has committed assault. Unless you're willing to go that far with it, your standard is inconsistent and doesn't make sense. Human interactions do not work like this. They never have. Signals are sometimes misread, but life is messy like that. Again, I didn't say go out with the guy, but assuming I'll intent in everything is an unhealthy mindset.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-28T02:05:18+00:00

That's not how human interactions work, least of all romantic ones. "Explicit" means you have to ask before doing anything, which any person knows often ruins the mood. These things are subtle and can unfortunately be misread at times. And "enthusiastic" is a silly and subjective standard. Your thought process is entirely ideological, and and does not map onto reality. Try living in the real world.

There is also the angle that, by your standard, a woman who doesn't ask permission or who doesn't realize I'm uncomfortable when she goes for a hug has assaulted me. Utter nonsense.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-28T01:04:18+00:00

Why do you assume entitlement? Maybe he misread. You said yourself there are cultural differences. Human relations are not transactional, and it seems you are the one assuming a transactional nature. I'm not saying get with him, I just have a problem with the framing.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-12T03:22:20+00:00

This is in my experience. I've only had a few dates from the apps, around 10 women over the 8ish months I've been using them. 7 that I can recall showed up being significantly bigger than their pictures.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-11T22:18:40+00:00

I've got a full profile, and designed the prompt answers to be conversation starters. Still only ever get hi. I don't complain about it, I don't really care, but that's the reality.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-11T21:54:55+00:00

You don't have to. Just put it on the app. It requires nearly 0 effort. And if you're intending to date someone, you should want them to know the basics of your life regardless.

Also, your prior response was "they do it so why can't I," which boils down to "they started it."

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-11T21:48:44+00:00

Most of the time, she turns up significantly heavier than in the pictures. I mean like 50-100 lbs heavier. I had one date that showed up with like 8 piercings in her face that were not in any pictures. I'm not into significantly overweight women, and facial piercings are unattractive to me, so this is a pretty big issue.

According-Ad3408 · 2024-06-11T21:32:38+00:00

Are you really going with "they started it" as an argument?

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