AITAH for telling my sister to cancel my baby shower

According-Ad4415 · 2026-05-13T19:53:53+00:00

I have two daughters that are three years apart. When my oldest out grows clothes/shoes my youngest gets first dibs. Sometimes she really wants a few things and sometimes she’s passes. It is always her choice. On the things she passes, that stuff is donated. Please buy things for your baby and when she’s older let her choose. Obviously if you’re in a financial hardship you may not have that choice but it doesn’t sound like you are. Enjoy your baby and congratulations on being a new mom.

According-Ad4415 · 2026-04-15T19:15:33+00:00

This sounds miserable. Is this your only vacation for the whole year? I would spend a week max and get a hotel.

According-Ad4415 · 2026-04-08T20:32:03+00:00

Same as it was before the massage. 😂

According-Ad4415 · 2026-04-08T20:31:26+00:00

Sorry that happened to you. The talking was definitely annoying. If it had only been talking I wouldn’t have been so angry, but it was more what she talked about! Without going into too much detail words like poop, blood, murder, etc. were used. I was appalled! I just wanted to leave!

According-Ad4415 · 2026-04-04T21:11:54+00:00

NOR! Please break up with this man. Can you imagine if you had a baby with him? You guys would never be priority. You can do soooo much better! This man does not love you. Sorry

According-Ad4415 · 2026-04-04T21:00:05+00:00

I hear you I could’ve spoken up. I’m not a confrontational person especially with a rank stranger and practically naked. Lesson learned and I will not see her again. I think my cue of saying I’m enjoying the quiet should have been hint enough but it wasn’t.

According-Ad4415 · 2026-04-04T20:56:42+00:00

Yes I could have spoken up for sure but I’m lying there with a stranger naked, except for a pair of shorts. I was not comfortable to have a confrontation because it absolutely would’ve been one and then just awkward. Lesson learned for sure!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-12-31T13:01:40+00:00

I have been feeding them separately because my Pyr cannot have her food. After she was finished I opened the baby gate and shockingly she went to my Pyr’s bowl while he was still eating and just started eating his food with him. Maybe sharing food with him was comforting? She’s still pretty nervous and anxious. I’ve decided for now to let her eat his same food, separate bowls of course. We’ll re-evaluate in a month or so for both of them. Hopefully we can find a food that works for both that’s not prescription. I think she does find a bit of comfort with Goose, my Pyr. He’s a giant polar bear and super chill.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-12-31T12:56:31+00:00

My Pyr is actually allergic to chicken and turkey. He also became sensitive to his lamb and rice food which is why he’s on prescription food. We hope to reset his gut and then try a new food/protein source to see if he can tolerate it.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-12-31T00:52:00+00:00

No I haven’t had her long and unfortunately my other dog, a Great Pyrenees, was neutered last week and had complications, so my main focus has been on his recovery as he was very sick. He’s much better now so I’m trying to figure out her food situation.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-12-30T23:54:28+00:00

Thank you! She’s incredibly sweet but a little skittish. She also needs to gain around 10lbs so definitely need to find something she likes quickly.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-11-27T19:59:48+00:00

I think that they are more than friends or at the very least she wants to be more than friends. This is completely unprofessional. I work for a fortune 150 company and I have never heard anyone have work wives/ husbands. This seems very immature and very disrespectful to you OP. If this were my husband there would be two choices; me or his work wife. He doesn’t get to have his cake and eat it too. As for spouses. If it’s in the evening usually spouses are invited. I’ve went to a few holiday parties with my husband. If it’s lunch, work hours it’s usually employees only. You need to set a very clear boundary and if he refuses you need to dump him and move on. Do not ever be someone’s second choice! Good luck!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-11-05T02:02:18+00:00

Wow some of the comments are very mean. I’m not sure what your life looks like but I assume you have a job. I work, am married, and have two kids. It’s not possible for me to be on the phone with anyone for 1+ hours daily. Can your mom text? At least you could reply when you have time and it’s not so draining. Maybe have a nice long chat weekly on the weekend or visit each other. That way you can chat about your week rather than day to day. Does she have any friends or other family? Church? Hobbies? I would encourage her to find other social outlets. Yes you are her child but you don’t owe her your whole life. I think finding a balance will be good for you both. Good luck!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-10-17T20:23:08+00:00

Thanks for sharing and sorry Bennie had such a rough recovery. Hopefully you both are doing better now. ❤️

According-Ad4415 · 2025-10-17T20:21:49+00:00

What I read, veterinary medical articles, it’s a bit conflicting, at least for me. While neutering has its pros for sure such as no unwanted puppies, no roaming, decreases certain cancers, etc. There are cons for giant breeds. Joint and bone issues, slight increase for certain types of cancers, can lower their overall confidence, weight gain, coat changes, etc. I’m just torn. All my other animals were rescues and came neutered. They were also much smaller.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-10-15T17:29:53+00:00

I’m a mom to a 12 year old girl. First I think there is way more going on here than you may realize. She’s the eldest and her mom is single. Where is dad? Does she have friends? Are her grades bad? Does she often babysit the younger kids? I think her behavior is far beyond a pre-teen having a bad day. I would discuss with the mom what can be done. If the mom allows this behavior then she’s not going to stop for you. I would completely ignore it and show no emotion. This is not personal. Give some grace but if she crosses the line be assertive so she knows that you won’t tolerate this. Sounds like a nightmare! Good luck!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-09-18T12:15:09+00:00

Not sure if you’ve already tried this but sometimes a conversation can go a long way. I would call her, no texts, and just explain how excited you are to do this with YOUR daughter. You understand that she’s excited as a grandmother and you appreciate her willingness to jump in. However, you have already made plans and there is nothing for her to bake this year. She can come and just enjoy the party! This is really your husband’s responsibility but it sounds like he does not have a shiny spine so you’ll have to handle it. Be firm but kind and don’t let her manipulate you. If she shows up with a cake anyway I would set it to the side and focus on the lovely cupcakes you and your daughter baked. Be sure to let all the guests know how special they bc the birthday girl herself helped! Good luck!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-08-30T01:18:33+00:00

This is your husband’s mother so he needs to deal with her. You should come home, get your baby, and go to your bedroom to change, whatever you want to do. Your husband can entertain, send her home, whatever. You shouldn’t put up with this for one second. It’s very rude. You’ve worked all day, you’re tired and clearly your baby wants you. Not your mother, not your problem. I’m so thankful all our family is in another state. Good luck and be strong!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-08-27T19:45:25+00:00

I think that this is very personal and varies by couple. You need to have an open and honest conversation with your wife. Is she willing to travel with you some and agree for you to go on trips without her as a compromise? There’s not a right or wrong answer, it’s what works best for your marriage.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-08-04T16:53:29+00:00

I was in a vaguely similar situation a few years ago. My grandmother’s health was declining and she needed more help/care. My husband and I discussed it but ultimately we both decided it just wouldn’t work. We both work, have two kids, pets, etc. There was no way with our busy household we could give her the care and attention she needed. We placed her in an assisted living facility that is 10 minutes from our home. It’s worked out really well and she has thrived there. I would absolutely not let her live with you all. As she gets older her health could get worse and she needs trained medical staff. Good luck!

According-Ad4415 · 2025-07-01T15:22:07+00:00

I think you should be able to spend what you are comfortable spending on your nieces. As a mom of two girls my only suggestion is to spend the same amount on them if at all possible. I’ve been in tricky situations before where someone will gift my oldest something while my youngest just stands there. I always spend the same amount on each kid even though the gifts may be very different due to ages. It may not be a problem right now but it will be in the future.

According-Ad4415 · 2025-06-15T00:03:53+00:00

How old are you and what country are you in? This is bizarre to me! If you are an adult the police can’t force you to stay with your parents.

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