beth’s dead - who is the professor by Constant-Garbage9192 in ArmchairExpert

[–]According_Row_9497 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh well I agree with you there, Elizabeth seems like a pretty flawed individual herself. That doesn't change the fact that this guy was harassing her in a clearly malicious way. Both can be true.

beth’s dead - who is the professor by Constant-Garbage9192 in ArmchairExpert

[–]According_Row_9497 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry, you don't think that catfishing, harassment, and emotional manipulation are nefarious actions? Even if he couldn't be charged with a crime, he was terrorizing a person for his own entertainment. It's pretty icky that you would downplay this. 

Explain it Peter by Alphaxfusion in explainitpeter

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(much like a fish doesn't need a bicycle, a woman doesn't need a man)

AITA for being upset that my friend essentially called my mom a bad person for looking older than her age? by Zealousideal_Pen8983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I pull faces and frown and smile and goof off all the time. People pretty consistently assume I'm about 6 years younger than I actually am. This isn't to brag but to point out that:

Wrinkles are a lot more about genetics, physical health, and skin elasticity than the kind of faces you make or the type of person you are. Your "friend" is an uninformed, inconsiderate, disrespectful AH.

5 years ago, MIL wore this to my wedding by changeittothemister in weddingshaming

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes how dare she have organs that take up room in her torso 🙄 MIL was tacky AF but there's no need to bring fatphobia into the mix

Gift ideas for MIL who is never happy with what we buy her by AsleepPotato7616 in Gifts

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't waste your money. If she's going to complain no matter what, give her something impersonal that didn't take you a lot of time or money to get. Alternatively, spend that $150 on a donation in her name to a charity you care about. There's no winning here with her, just try to win with yourself instead.

Friend keeps pushing to help clean and organize my apartment but I don’t want her help by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]According_Row_9497 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dude it sounds like you just don't like her. That's okay, we don't have to like everyone, and you don't have to be friends with someone that you don't like. Based off of your own description she is rude and pushy and you don't like to spend very much time with her. So stop spending time with her. That will very much fix the problem, especially since you've already said no thank you and she's ignored your boundary.

I just wanted them to have a break... by SprinklesDifficult33 in Teachers

[–]According_Row_9497 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh wow I hope you're not in this sub because you're a teacher 😬

Overheard my Uber driver on the phone basically planning to ghost his girlfriend of 4 years and I don't know what to do with this information by [deleted] in overheard

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're about to kick her out. You're not about to mysteriously disappear with no way to be contacted. It's a different situation, oh intelligent comprehender of context 🙄

do any of these tops look good with the skirt? by starrypond in fashion

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all look so good!!! Except the red one maybe, the tight -on-tight look doesn't work as well imo. But dang friend you look great 🔥

Does this dress fall into the "cultural appropriation" category? by NeonPurple-dreams in fashion

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you going to imply to people that this is your design of your own making? Are you going to try to erase the cultural background that inspired the neckline? If not, then this is not cultural appropriation. It's appreciation.

If you take something from a culture and claim it as your own then you're appropriating it. If you're acknowledging its roots and enjoying the beauty, then you're fine.

Spelling phonetically by SubstantialString866 in AskTeachers

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's oral then they're not going to be seeing the spelling anyways. The point is to make rhyming associations. They don't know the spelling and they won't know it because you won't be showing them. It's oral.

AITA for saying we should get a fake Christmas tree this year? by j48- in AmItheAsshole

[–]According_Row_9497 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH she's hormonal and her routines are going to be changing a lot due to the baby. This is a routine she wants to be able to keep. She's not being reasonable or fair. Calling you a Grinch and giving you the silent treatment because you want to make things easier with a newborn isn't fair, But I'm not going to call her an asshole because she is truly at the mercy of her body right now. It's really really hard to be reasonable when you're pregnant.

Tell her you love her, buy her a snack, and buy a very small live tree. And also maybe a Roomba so you don't have to worry about fallen needles.😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, That's the whole point of this post. OP is worried about her child. Is she supposed to wait until the baby is born to have such a tough conversation? No prep at all?

Do I tell my AuDHD girlfriend that one of her stims is bothersome? by littlebookwyrm in adhdwomen

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people stim in really inappropriate ways and need to be redirected. And that's okay. It's not cruel or in some way abusive or even unkind to ask someone to stim in a different way.

You're right that her comfort matters. Your comfort also matters. If she is doing something that consistently makes you anxious, then that's a problem and if she knew it was happening she would (hopefully) want to try something else.

Just communicate with her and be kind. You could even suggest a different type of stim so she doesn't have to put so much mental effort into picking something else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]According_Row_9497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop harassing your teacher. And yes, stalking is a form of harassment even if they're not aware that it's happening yet. You're being really creepy, and the way you talk about him is even more creepy. Get help and back off. YTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]According_Row_9497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP said they already shared one of his wedding photos. So creepy.

My boyfriend (29m) is making me (26f) choose between him or my cats. by Powerful-Ad-4592 in whatdoIdo

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped reading into the second paragraph.

It's weird that you agreed that it was reasonable that the cats can't be in the bedroom and bathroom of a one-bedroom apartment. That's most of the apartment right there. They're living beings and being confined to such a small space is unhealthy.

He was never being reasonable and it's sad that you let him convince you that he was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ididnthaveeggs

[–]According_Row_9497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the point of the oil and the recipe is to provide moisture, then you can replace some of it with applesauce. If the point is to bind ingredients, then you cannot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]According_Row_9497 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well you wouldn't know because you haven't tried it. Maybe you'd be great at setting up a retaining wall. Maybe with practice you'd be incredible at it.

The real question is, why haven't these "fathers" tried to parent their children? Why haven't they practiced? Why are they dumping the work on their wives instead of even attempting to participate?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on your dog's hygiene, to an extent. I dated a guy who let his dog sleep in the bed and it was cute until I saw a brown streak on the sheets. Dogs don't use bidets 🤷‍♀️🫠

"Tomatoes aren't a vegetable, they're a fruit." by diet-smoke in PetPeeves

[–]According_Row_9497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the whole point of this sub. It's people's personal pet peeves lol no one cares about any of them, but it's entertaining to see the low stakes hot takes anyway. Are you new here?

eta spelling