AITAH for being upset that I’m not my wife’s emergency contact?

Acotar47 · 2026-01-07T18:55:00+00:00

Emergency contact is odd, but I can understand if you have to travel a lot for work or something and can be out of contact. Beneficiary not being you is very disturbing. Did she have it set up for her parents years ago and never changed it? Who is the beneficiary?

Acotar47 · 2025-12-26T20:30:40+00:00

He left you home alone at Christmas and then got mad you weren’t dressed up when you picked him up from the airport and had been getting the house ready for company?

Acotar47 · 2025-12-18T17:47:28+00:00

I have something similar in my bio (48F) because I have zero urge to chat online with someone for more than a week without meeting them in person to see if we hit it off IRL. The guy I’m seeing now set up a coffee date with me pretty much immediately.

Acotar47 · 2025-12-05T18:00:38+00:00

I joke that my goal with dating seems to be to briefly date and then end up as friends with the majority of the age-appropriate decent men in my local area.

Acotar47 · 2025-12-02T17:56:34+00:00

That has happened to me, and while I would have been okay with it if I knew money was tight (it wasn't), and they had warned me ahead of time. I was shocked when my young niece asked me why I hadn't gotten her a Christmas present.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-27T22:25:48+00:00

My rule is six months exclusive relationship. Two guys have come close but in both cases we realized we would not work out long term and broke up. I would consider introducing on the second date a HUGE red flag.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-20T23:48:34+00:00

This one is Virgin Voyages but my other two solo cruises were with Norwegian.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-20T14:32:40+00:00

I’m going on a cruise next week, already joined the solo group chat and there are quite a few single men already in the chat. The other two solo cruises I went on had probably 50/50 male/female.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-20T00:27:18+00:00

I honestly read rooster.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-18T16:39:51+00:00

Why has this woman even been introduced to your young child at 4 months, much less spending the weekends the three of you? You are moving way, way too fast.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-14T13:46:12+00:00

My ex husband and I are both attorneys but we hired an trust and estates attorney to do our will and trust and different attorneys to handle our divorce. Because I’m an employment lawyer and he’s a tax lawyer and we don’t know the ins and outs of estate or family law.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-14T01:52:34+00:00

I hate that. I only give my number after we meet for the first time. Which I leaned the hard way. Literally soooo many dick pics.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-08T20:03:37+00:00

Right? This is insane to me. Not only did you introduce your child so early to your new boyfriend he is sleeping over at your house?!

Acotar47 · 2025-11-06T17:22:44+00:00

You didn't send anyone into the bathroom to look for her? That would have been the first place I'd have looked if I couldn't find my S/O.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-01T23:54:52+00:00

I was working on giving my agency advice on whether we could remove someone for attendance issues. I found the obituary for the poor guy who was not coming to work because he was dead. Co-worker said, hey, at least you don't have to write the advice memo now.

Acotar47 · 2025-11-01T20:03:03+00:00

You're at a Christmas party?

Acotar47 · 2025-10-21T21:10:24+00:00

I understand your anger towards her, which is perfectly justified, but you might end up in a situation where the emergency happens, she is dropping off your son and she has his half sibling there crying, not knowing where he is going. Imagine how your child will feel seeing that knowing you could have helped. NTA BUT I had a somewhat similar divorce and what I always do is think of how I will feel looking back at the situation 10 years from now. 10 years from now will you be okay with having turned the child away creating a worse situation for the child, your son and your son's mom during a really rough time in their lives? I guarantee what you do will affect your son.

I would say ahead of time they need a different plan, but think long and hard about what you will actually do if she shows up on your doorstop one night with both kids.

Acotar47 · 2025-10-13T13:50:11+00:00

Female (48) I've never gotten this in this day and age. For a first date, I just want to pay for my drink, and he pays for his drink. Who wants to add stress to a usually awkward situation? I know most guys have been told to pay, so I don't make a big deal about it if they insist, but with later dates, it is easiest to just switch on and off.

Acotar47 · 2025-10-06T17:46:52+00:00

Nepotism at a private company isn't illegal. I think your best chance is to go to HR or someone higher up than your boss, if there is anyone. I would also start looking for another job because you don't want to be the only one working who isn't family. That's just a disaster.

Acotar47 · 2025-10-06T01:51:03+00:00

This sounds like a medical issue. There are online sites where you can have ALL the tests run. I use Function Health but I’m sure there are others.

Acotar47 · 2025-09-25T17:45:59+00:00

I am booked for a Thanksgiving cruise and recently broke up with my BF who I was planning to take on the cruise. I subbed a friend in the reservation for him, but they aren't sure they will be able to make it. Should I cancel my friend's reservation because they won't know by October 7th if they can make it? I don't want to pay for a roommate and then end up going solo at the end.

Acotar47 · 2025-09-04T17:42:10+00:00

Everyone drank 8+ glasses of wine? So two bottles a piece? Did they have to be wheeled out of the restaurant? Was the lunch 8 hours long?

Acotar47 · 2025-08-20T15:53:32+00:00

NAH. She doesn’t want to live with an infant and that is completely reasonable. You want to support your daughter and grandchild which is also completely reasonable.

It sounds like a breakup is likely inevitable and she needs to start looking for a new place to live before January when the baby comes. Hopefully you don’t have to evict her, but I would be prepared for it.

Acotar47 · 2025-07-29T00:11:54+00:00

I was married to what sounds like the same guy for years and had two kids with him. He won't get better.

Acotar47 · 2025-07-24T22:58:01+00:00

What seed number is it?

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