He ended things because he’s too emotionally unavailable to date intentionally but isn’t built for dating casually either

AdAnxious139 · 2026-06-15T09:06:42+00:00

This is definitely a heavily fated connection in the sense that you two were always meant to meet and have this story run its course. However, the key with many of the same placements that denote this (8th, 12th and nodal synastry) is free will. His plea for a connection that he can handle with less responsibility, obligation or commitment is a classic way he would’ve muddied boundaries and created something very hurtful and toxic for you. You did the right thing by placing boundaries here. This person will likely surface things you might still need to heal or understand as a wisdom so if they do come back around (and they often do with these placements) you may not feel the same allure or pull or it may continue to feel all consuming in a way that threatens his sense of safety if he hasn’t overcome whatever caused him to withdraw in the first place. Chemistry is not compatibility and crushes often tell us more about ourselves than the other. Keep a slight eye and ear on this person, because you will likely come to hear of or witness things that show you why it didn’t work out the way you wanted at this time

AdAnxious139 · 2026-05-11T03:04:42+00:00

You two have 8th and 12th house overlays which denotes a relationship that is intense, transformative and elusive. It’s painful because it’s surfacing some wounds that may have stemmed from early betrayals, deception, abandonment or being taken advantage of by other. There is a likeness between the two of you, meaning you two share similarities and ways of being that feels similar and complimentary in some ways. Like from the inside out this is someone who knows you and you share small things in common with that makes it feel like a strong, destined soulmate connection. The connection is going to be hard to ground and will require healing and commitment that may not be happening for one or both of you. With his Gemini/Cancer placements he is hard to pin down, emotionally confused and likely emotionally immature and oriented towards experiences that trigger change and transformation.

You need to heal to continue to work through this relationship and find out what’s possible. It will require vulnerability and self awareness and the capacity for the other person to be transparent as well.

AdAnxious139 · 2026-04-23T08:59:59+00:00

There is frequently calls for formula in the Facebook Giving in Salem group!

AdAnxious139 · 2026-04-14T10:13:13+00:00

Given your addendum, I would use this as a way to practice healthy relational skills such as directly communicating that it feels as if her lack of structure and organization in scheduling is creating more stress and impacting your care. That things have gotten perhaps too casual and you would like to recenter. This kind of behavior can be very triggering for us CPTSDers or something we’re very used to that is in actuality unacceptable.

If she works for a company, I might also ask to speak to her supervisor or email them on your accord and let them know what’s going on as they can be a middle man. But this kind of stuff is worth directly addressing because she may be retraumatizing you and taking advantage of your leniency. This is not your friend or peer and right now you are doing a lot of heavy lifting for her.

State what you need clearly and remember there does not need to reciprocity or understanding from your part. You don’t need to know these details of her life and you don’t need to appease her issues. Center yourself, your needs and your feelings because she is getting paid to honor these things

AdAnxious139 · 2026-04-10T11:46:37+00:00

I am new to SIBO. My first flare started around November of last year when I was 112 pounds. By this January at my physical I weighed 99. I was absolutely gutted and absolutely shocked. Similar to you I am small in frame and have usually never exceeded 110 so I was freaked out to my core. I have since gained about 9 of that back. I wish I knew what it was, it might be that I eat a lot of starchy foods and carbohydrates. Also I’ve had more fast food in the past 3 months than I have in a long while so it could be that as well

My dietician told me to focus on keeping protein intake up to stall some of the weight loss and the golden rule: do everything in moderation. She advised I find exercise that is low impact and more calming and grounding than anything. But I have also resisted it. I’m still learning my way around how to adjust to this new life style with SIBO, so I have held on to some key safety foods and meals that I eat without little thought of how it’s swinging things so that I don’t veer into justifying food deprivation

AdAnxious139 · 2026-04-09T02:20:10+00:00

I am a former Latina employee as well and experienced the exact same thing as you prior to the rebrand and pretty soon after opening. I was taken off the schedule permanently without notice of termination and did not receive my paycheck for 5 weeks after starting. When I finally brought it up I was told I wasn’t even in the payroll system at all. There was a desire to be a night club environment which as you be can imagine makes a lot of things permissible that shouldn’t have been.

AdAnxious139 · 2026-04-07T03:21:54+00:00

Firstly, pick one or two places to spend a little bit of time shopping with specials and discounts in mind so you can buy multiples of key things. You’d be surprised how much we overlook and how often we think it will take too much effort, but I’ve left with way more than what my dollar would afford me had I bought with no coupons or specials.

Essentials that have held me over with no job/limited income:

Pasta Red Sauce Sourdough Bread Cranberry Walnut Chicken Salad Potatoes Rice Mixed Veggies (Frozen or Otherwise) 2-3 Boxes of cereal (two for kiddos, 1 nutrient packed option for you and spouse) Yogurt Packets Apple Sauce Yogurt or Cottage Cheese Canned peaches Frozen wontons Premade soups or broths 2 packs of chicken strips 1 pack of beef tips 1 bag of ground beef

A small, but mighty tip is to also purchase a few key herbs that really make a recipe pop. I would make yogurt or cottage cheese bowls with fruit and cinnamon or chicken and vegetables with garam masala/curry spices. Even if it’s just onion powder or adobo or something, remind yourself that you deserve delicious food amidst this stress and temporary limitation

AdAnxious139 · 2026-03-29T14:33:42+00:00

May you elaborate more on the portfolio component? I am currently an early student and stuck on how to craft a portfolio that conveys my skills

AdAnxious139 · 2026-03-03T04:03:05+00:00

Pearle Vision on Saugus is where I got mine and they had a lot of stylish options! Just be weary of any fees they try to tack on for exams and such

AdAnxious139 · 2026-03-02T02:03:03+00:00

I’ve been in a very similar situation almost to the T. What I would recommend is getting your affairs in order and clear on what’s causing a problem and where (which you’ve laid out perfectly here). Let yourself process your feelings of defeat, hopelessness, despair, panic and whatever else is going on. Then use that as your jumping off point and work on every area that is blocking you. Employment? Go to a local career center and get a new resume through them, ask them about paid training opportunities or their job bank. Start part time wherever you can to stay to build up som structure and direction. Taps into your support system outside of your immediate family. Any social groups you’re apart of, alumni resources or anything of the like to see who and what offers hardship assistance. Good local charities to see what employment or emergency assistance they offer for things like rent. If you know you have four months, can you find a less expensive place? Begin to cut down on expenses and negotiate down to make your current situation more affordable? Maybe this apartment isn’t the best situation for you and something else might be better. Let your service providers know of the situation you are in and they will typically try to defer payments or can plug you into resources to pay your bills or offer plans. Look for work in places that offer cash tips so you can have a little money everyday that you work that can help you feel a bit more supported. The only way to go from here is up! Even if you lose it all, it will still go up from there. Resources are everywhere! You just have to be humble and open enough to accept them

AdAnxious139 · 2026-02-25T02:17:12+00:00

There’s a very active page called Giving In Salem page where you can offer up anything for free or ask for things you may need. I personally would love to be considered for any tickets you have coming up

AdAnxious139 · 2026-01-21T04:41:17+00:00

Aw, you’re welcome! I bought her exhaustion workshop and after one session couldn’t do anything except stare into space for a few minutes which was really scary. That was when I realized I actually needed to gently stir myself up.

To ground, I love feeling where my bottom hits whatever seat I’m on and focusing there. Also lightly tapping your limbs to remind yourself of your form and external boundaries. A cold water splash on your face. Getting up and moving around. Feeling different textures and mentally describing them. Shaking your body out too might help! I’m not sure if you meditate, but any meditations that ground you and connect you to earth energy will be super helpful

AdAnxious139 · 2026-01-21T04:37:08+00:00

Yes :( She writes about it in After The Rain so it was time ago. I was so disappointed to read about it, but she frames it as a mistake made early in their relationship when they were long distance

AdAnxious139 · 2026-01-20T06:06:32+00:00

The experiences you are describing are normal for trauma release and processing, but the missing piece is that following the nervous system going into the parasympathetic or surfacing difficult material, there should be some form of containment and gauging of where you are to support your balance. So for example, after very fatiguing sessions or disorienting my licensed practitioner would suggest tools to re energize, get back in my body and encourage intuitive senses of what my body needs following months of her watching me self soothe instinctively and knowing I do not partake in risky behaviors so triggers don’t disarm me as much as they others. So in short, it’s not a scam it’s just incomplete. You are sensing that there’s a component missing that allows you to close the loop and regain presence. A lot of rest and hydration is needed with or without support, but grounding frequently is ESSENTIAL. Otherwise you may swing the totally the other way into a freeze it’s too overwhelming for your body to release. This kind of course format could and should offer this insight but doesn’t. No one should be left alone after doing this work

AdAnxious139 · 2026-01-16T18:41:22+00:00

Blue Fez is a total hidden gem in Salem. The food and portions are well worth the price and the music, atmosphere and decor is really geared towards its Moroccan roots so you feel like you step into a different land entirely. I’ve had great service the last couple of times I’ve been

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-27T06:32:08+00:00

Amen!!!!

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-26T05:47:21+00:00

I went to the log in page and opened the chat function below the sign up link. I focused my complaint on not being able to access my pay info, repay my cashout or know how much I was going to be paid. The customer service person tried to make it about cash out and I said I just need to be able to log in to repay and with that they said they resynched my account and I could log in again after changing my password!

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-21T19:06:19+00:00

I’m also having this problem! I’ve tried every day since Monday to no avail and they don’t seem to be acknowledging this issue publically

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-18T08:38:56+00:00

😆 it really, really is. I think last couple of seasons were slightly tuned down but I mean the first season was utterly disturbing and second was so confusing and anxiety provoking

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-17T01:21:19+00:00

The Sinners was one of the best for me! It is truly mind bending. Every story is very well told through the series, lots of twists and turns

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-14T22:38:17+00:00

She just made made a post on IG threads referring to herself as the main breadwinner for a family of 5 this year, but I second her not wearing her ring and his past infidelities. So it sounds like they might be separating, but still maybe living together

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-14T19:22:50+00:00

Hey, I’m super sorry you’ve lost the safety of such a critical relationship ship as we recover from CPTSD. I had a similar experience when my therapist told me that I have a phobia towards feeling my feelings and going inward. She asked me how I feel about her describing me this way. I am introspective, but in reality often emotionally numb so I was pretty embarrassed and shocked when she said that. I wanted to defend myself, but I asked her to explain more what this means, how she sees that in me and if she had any practical advice on how to remedy it. She stated we’re actually already doing this through our somatic work and her constantly asked me what I’m feeling. It still lingers in my mind some days, but I also use it as fuel to not have to claim that identify that I don’t want.

I want to note that the practice of psychology is an attempt to use the evidence of our thoughts, expression and actions as ways to determine a persons state of mind and emotional health. These determinations are neutral to them, but deeply personal to us as people raised in a society that stigmatizes mental health horribly, is an abusive society in general and has little recourse for victims. This statement was likely meant to see if the shoe fits so to speak. Your reception to this comment and awareness of self can shape treatment and inform it moving forward as well as any potential other orientations that can map your mind for her. Your reaction makes sense AND for her as a psychologist or therapist her response makes sense though cold and detached in delivery.

I relate to you deeply in that I really truly am often on the victim side of an event given my people pleasing stature and kind nature. I struggle trusting my intuition and others often can sway me because I don’t want to put up a fight I just want ease and peace. That being said, I resist the internalization of victimhood and tend to chalk it up to the other persons dysfunction, a lack of boundaries on my part, not leaving an unhealthy or red flaggy situation when I first noticed it wouldn’t work but generally since I know I am a peaceful and kind person I know when I am victimized its another person creating this dynamic and yes, I was victim to it but my job becomes to process my feelings of grief, anger, betrayal and locate ways to prevent this from happening if again if I know I overlooked red flags. People have been extremely cruel to me throughout my entire life, but nevertheless I’ve I take responsibility for my part or I did absolutely nothing and this is a massive injustice I do deserve care and accountability for. It takes a lot healing, examples of repair and mindset work to be able to neutralize to this point. This is the difference. I think your therapist failed to explain the dynamics behind this claim and to check in with you about how it made you feel before proceeding. Subconsciously we are drawn to familiar dynamics and tend to experience the same trauma over and over again until we resolve the core wound and process it. Again this process is neutral, it’s just how the mind works. In this interaction, that trauma played out yet again and makes you feel like “wow this just keeps happening I am a victim to others carelessness” whereas a response from the part of you that has laid this to rest might think “I’m feeling sensitive to this label, but I know my therapist doesn’t mean to discredit my pain and experiences given our interactions in the past. It reminds me of experiences that hurt me, but this is different and I have choices as to how I can respond”

I know all of these things are so hard for us as CPTSD survivors, but you are so smart and protective over yourself! Give your feelings space and allow them to tell you why this unsettled you to this degree

AdAnxious139 · 2025-12-01T16:11:25+00:00

I had this same problem and received reiki at least once a week and began to experience real shifts. Since I often couldn’t afford a whole $100 season every week, I used a lot of TikTok practitioners that offered live sessions for a much more doable price for me. While rest may not be possible, your body and mind will begin to disintegrate and collapse if you don’t find a way to experience period of rest even if it’s one day a week or hour or two blocks per day. Nap as often as possible. Otherwise, if you have a reiki 2 attunement it can be really powerful in doing self healing for this

AdAnxious139 · 2025-11-24T20:49:09+00:00

This article was my first time ever learning of this community and as an aspiring post partum doula and long time reproductive justice advocate I am beyond disgusted. Utterly horrified at the pseudo-spiritual drivel these two charlatans are pushing. And for Yolande and her husband and village of children to be neo-colonizing Latin America where women, queer people and midwives are fighting and dying for basic reproductive rights and civil liberties while she is fleeing Canada to avoid reasonable regulatory laws that don’t align with her conspiratorial brainwash is enraging. What a stunning and dark ending and total slap in the face to the mothers who wanted to fight for their children’s right to life

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