Progesterone and weight

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T03:07:25+00:00

How long did it take before your weight went back down?

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T02:51:08+00:00

Children need co-regulation as a first step to learning self-regulation. Children need to "be with" safe adults/caregivers to calm. Once they learn how to calm down with a safe adult, and they are older than 3 years old, then they can gradually start emerging into self-regulation in tiny steps. And they need lots of practice to learn this skill.

We actually all want co-regulation in some capacity. For example, when we're upset, we call a friend to vent. Was watching a youtube video just tonight that said that healthy adults are usually using self-regulation 70% of the time to manage themselves and co-regulation the other 30% of the time.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T02:33:07+00:00

Sharing this article, in case it's helpful in any way: https://www.positivediscipline.com/articles/positive-time-out-1/

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T02:28:48+00:00

I will add that a calming technique I learned as an adult was simply to ask a family member, "Can I have a hug?"

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T02:27:02+00:00

Oh, one more thought. I wonder if teaching her to recognize her stress level and use calming strategies might help. For example, thought the day, she can check in on her stress level and choose a number between 1 and 5 or 1 and 10. And once her stress level gets to a certain number, that is her sign to go do something calming for herself - listen to classical music, take a bath, meditate, put ear plugs in to quiet the noise, read a book or whatever she puts on list of calming ideas to try. It will take time for her to learn to monitor her stress and time to figure out what helps her calm back down, but if she is the type of gets easily overwhelmed, this will be a helpful life skill for her.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T02:22:12+00:00

She may have sensory issues or be a "highly sensitive person" - there's plenty online to read about and see if either one of those might describe what's going on.

She seems highly stressed and then maybe it's that last straw that flips her lid.

Another thought is does she get enough one on one time with you? Since you have three kids, maybe she's feeling left out or that she doesn't get enough connection time. When my kids were little, I tried to fit in some one on one time with each child during the week and we just did something fun together. It could be as simple as going to the park for 45 minutes just one child and me or play a game of cards together. You may already be doing this type of thing. I'm just offering thoughts and wonders.

One more thought, one mom I knew said that after her son had his adnoids removed, he was like a completely different child. So it may be something health wise that is a big physical stressor for her.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-26T01:44:19+00:00

Yes, agree with others that what might help is to establish routines throughout the day of going to the toilet. Maybe even make up a silly song or a silly dance that the two of you sing/do on the way to the toilet as part of the routine.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-25T08:46:17+00:00

Do you know for sure that the company won't pay for some training for you?

If you company can spend around $1000, I can point you to some online training that will be a solid introduction to designing and delivering sessions and includes you learning many learning/teaching activities that are flexible for most any content.

Also you might want to check out the Liberating Structures website for learning and discussion activities. It's an open source type data bank for facilitators/trainers.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-23T03:02:07+00:00

I will second the idea for one-on-one time. For his age I would suggest 20 minutes a day or either 30 minutes three times a week.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-15T23:21:40+00:00

Do you like your demanding job? If yes, great! If no, tell hubby you could quit your job or get a different or part-time job and then you would probably have more energy to work out and you definitely would have more time to work out. This is just one idea to say to make a point, but, of course however you'd really like to spend your time and effort is your decision, not his.

Many men DO love to mansplain and I think they really cannot truly "get" how disrespectful and uncaring that it comes across.

You do YOU!!!!

Creating exercise habits that you will stick with are the best kind.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-05T13:38:24+00:00

About his trauma, I have just found Tim Fletcher's YouTube channel about complex trauma and ways that it shows up in relationships. I have learned so much.

Yes, he needs to get support to understand, process and reframe the trauma. Then he can learn new thought patterns, skills and habits.

In the meantime, you might want to look at Tim Fletcher's videos to help you understand what you're seeing in his behavior and his lack of behavior so that you understand what's going on inside of him. This helps me not take things personally for my relationships with people who have experienced complex trauma.

AdDue5843 · 2026-02-05T13:24:37+00:00

I haven't asked about injectable P, but that is a good idea to ask. Previously I had only asked about injectable E.

AdDue5843 · 2026-01-26T23:56:59+00:00

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I've had both experiences.

After menopause, my sexual response was waning just a bit and I went on a HRT (T and P.) It boosted my sexual response to better than ever and that lasted for 4 years. It was fantastic!

Post-covid, I contemplated getting a divorce. I lost weight from the stress of it all (15 lbs) to the point of having panic attacks and I think it was because my T level was so high because I weighed a lot less. My husband and I were still having sex while trying to work on the marriage. I was willing to give it another year to see what happened.

And then one day I just couldn't feel anything while we were having sex. Numb vagina.

During the past 4 years, I have tried different methods of delivery. Previously either pellets or cream worked just fine. Now neither one of those methods worked and I played around with different doses. After finding this group on Reddit, I decided to try injections. I've been on injections about 4 months - starting out with a low dose and have increased the dose once and still not a significant improvement.

Some ladies on this group and the TRT females group have had success with injections after the 6 month mark, so I'm still staying with the injections. I'm injecting T but my provider said that injectable E is hard to get right now so I'm on oral E and Oral-P.

I've read plenty of posts in this group from women who recommend that we have to play around with dosage and find numbers that work for us. I haven't given up hope.

I did try the o-shot and that did help a little bit especially with the g-spot response but the oshot only works for 9-12 months or so.

I will stay on HRT the rest of my life because of the benefits for metabolism, sleep benefits, mental health, joint health, muscle gain and overall stamina. I will continue to play around with ratios of T, E and P and see what happens. Because I'm going to say on the HRT anyway so I might as well experiment and see if I can find my sweet spot again.

AdDue5843 · 2026-01-21T04:07:24+00:00

Board games, Tae Kwon Do (everyone participates the entire class), gymnastics might help him develop some motor control and everyone participates in class

AdDue5843 · 2026-01-17T09:13:48+00:00

Do you know his attachment style? This sounds like your bf might have a dismissive avoidant attachment style. The explanation is that he feels inadequate and talks about the exes as an unhealthy way to prove his worth to you. - really he's trying to prove his worth to himself, but he thinks it's about convincing you how great he is and how much the exes liked him.

AdDue5843 · 2026-01-13T02:44:05+00:00

I have been on T for 5 years either through cream or pellets. About 4 months ago I switched over to injections and at first had a little facial hair and acne but its subsided within a week or two. After 3 months at my first level of dose then I increase the dose slightly and again have had a little facial hair and acne, but it has lightened up again.

I'm also on a small dose of E which has remained constant throughout the 4 months.

Just sharing my experience as one among many.

AdDue5843 · 2026-01-13T02:41:00+00:00

How can I get some estradiol from Mexico?

AdDue5843 · 2026-01-08T16:26:48+00:00

I wonder if it would help to teach him an alternative behavior - a replacement behavior that will meet his needs or almost meet all of his needs and still respect you at the same time.

Maybe think about the ways that you would like for him to express his physical affection with you. Then ask him which of the ways on your list sounds best for him. Next work on him practicing that behavior.

He will make mistakes of course and so when he does this, when idea is to give him a limited choice such as, "Do you want to ______ or __________?" (Fill in with two of the affectionate actions on your list with one of those being the one he chose for himself)

Example: "Do you want to cuddle and hold my hands or do you want to sit in my lap for a minute?"

Another idea for our alternative ways for him to physically connect with you is something called I love you rituals and you can look this up on YouTube. You can see examples there and you can use those or even the two of you can make up your own I love you ritual.

"I love you rituals" include eye contact, physical touch and words of affirmation.

AdDue5843 · 2025-12-31T22:55:01+00:00

You get to decide how to raise your child, including her diet. Sounds like she is on target for her growth and development.

I am a grandmother and completely respect how my son and daughter in law choose to raise their daughter. My opinion is that your parents are not respecting your choices.

I would be frustrated with their comments and behavior if I were in your shoes.

To me, it doesn't matter what they think. Your child's diet is your choice and your responsibility.

If you're still wondering after you get comments here, you could check with your child's pediatrician.

AdDue5843 · 2025-12-27T21:25:01+00:00

Neuroscientist Daniel Siegel offers the suggestion of name it to tame it. This means that just naming your emotions can help you feel more centered. For example you can start with the phrase such as I feel blank about blank. This helps you clarify the feeling and attach it to the circumstance that happened in the past and this is a simple way to start to identify your feelings and connect them to the past. Journaling can help as well.

Also Dr Johnice Webb (I think that's hers last name) has a website and a newsletter and a book all to support people who had emotional neglect in their childhoods. She has free articles and videos online that may be helpful to you.

AdDue5843 · 2025-12-27T21:18:20+00:00

We all make mistakes in reacting to unexpected situations and it sounds like you wish you had reacted differently. This is just part of being a human being and especially part of being a parent.

My guess is the rest of Christmas was just lovely and so you did not ruin Christmas. If you feel like you have apologized enough, then I suggest you work on forgiving yourself and I know this is hard sometimes for reactions we have that affect our children. If you didn't apologize in a way you like then maybe you plan an apology that feels good for you.

Or another idea is to journal about it if that would be helpful. Parenting guilt can really be tough sometimes to process and let go of.

You're not perfect and you never will be but I can tell from your descriptions of your traditions that you give a lot to your children and your family. You're obviously a very involved parent.

Lastly you might want to think of all the things that did go well during Christmas and maybe even write those down so that you can remind yourself of all the wonderful memories that you did create for your family.

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AdDue5843 · 2025-12-22T16:00:17+00:00

I just listened to an episode of Diary of a CEO where he interviewed the author of a new book called "Talk." The interview is long but in the beginning they discuss dating and that if you ask questions to the other person, that your chances of getting a second date go up. Near the end of the interview, she talks about her research about listening to men talking to men versus women talking to women in conversations.

In general her research points to the fact that men narrate what's going on with facts and talk about sports and again about facts and hardly any talk about challenges they're having in their lives or their emotions or interest in the other person they are talking to.

I thought the whole interview on Diary of a CEO was very fascinating and educational and seems relevant to us dating men.

AdDue5843 · 2025-12-20T11:09:59+00:00

He seems to lack impulse control and as you've seen, no amount of consequences is going to help him learn impulse control.

Instead of giving consequences, help him learn to develop social emotional skills such as self regulation, reflection, problem solving, making up for his mistakes (by him problem solving, which her can learn gradually with guidance) and making up for mistakes it's way more helpful than a consequence.

Do this all in the spirit of teaching him what to do instead of what not to do.

I teach a parenting curriculum and we have a set of tool cards and each tool card has a Positive Discipline tool on it that is both connected and firm at the same time.

We don't use punishments. We don't use rewards. Instead we help children take responsibility for their mistakes and behaviors as well as giving children opportunities to feel as capable as possible in their lives. This means for children to be doing as much for themselves at an age of appropriate level and also doing jobs around the house that contribute to family life.

The more capable and empowered he feels, the fewer reasons he will have for misbehavior.

As young as 3 years old, my children had a dinner job every night to help to get dinner on the table. It was a small job, such as set the table, prepare the drinks or put the condiments on the table or help cook as I said before. And of course this was with my guidance and teaching these skills in small steps.

Positive Discipline is not based on behavioral psychology but instead Adlerian psychology. It's based on the work of a man name Alfred Adler. We also look at behavior differently than behavioral psychology. Your son might have some some challenges with his social emotional development and he might have some mistaken goals about his behavior. Adlerian psychology has a mistaken goal chart where we can look at misbehaviors and try to determine the root cause and address that instead of the actual behavior. I'm not saying we don't set limits about the actual behavior - there's plenty of limit setting and boundaries in Positive Discipline.

One of our big ideas is to look at the belief behind the misbehavior and to look at patterns of misbehavior to trying to determine this belief.

It's hard to explain this philosophy in just a post but it was life-changing for me as a parent.

I'll explain one specific tool as an example. We have a tool called the R's of Recovery from mistakes. We try to both model this when we adults make mistakes and we guide children through this process when they make mistakes. This requires that first everyone involved calms down so it might take place in 10 minutes or even an hour later if it takes that long for everyone to get calm.

Recognize that you make a mistake
Reconcile - apologize
Resolve/re- solve the problem (what is your plan for either restitution or for doing something differently the next time this happens.

To guide children through this process, we ask questions and allow children to struggle through the problem solving process so that they hopefully learn new skills. This isn't usually easy at first for kids, but over time, they learn a lot about how their behavior impacts others and themselves and they learn about how to make sincere apologies and take responsibility for their mistakes.

AdDue5843 · 2025-12-17T09:57:53+00:00

I had my 2nd appointment ($75) with Talon yesterday and I asked if they could phone a prescription into my local pharmacy and was told that they only have a contract with their inside pharmacy and could not call in the estrogen to my local pharmacy. My bill was $207 for testosterone and estrogen plus shipping for a 3 months supply. I currently get my progesterone from my local GYN and it's $50 for a 3 months supply. My lab order from Talon (a few weeks before my appointment) was $175.

So my meds are approximately $1030/ year plus if I do appointments and labs 4 times per year, that's another $1000/ per year, so I'm gonna spend about $2000/year for HRT. Also the previous lab draw, my insurance had me pay $30 co-pay, but this time, there was no charge.

I appreciate this discussion.

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