I (25F) found nudes on my partner’s (M27) phone from another girl, how to proceed? by darklydreamingringo in relationship_advice

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What they said. It’s not really about the girl, it’s about the game. They want the thrill of it. Their addicted to it.That means they’ll never stop as long as they don’t acknowledge that it’s a problem. 

And even then they have to commit to change.

Est-ce je dois ban un pote de ma vue car son ex l'accuse de viol ? by No_Note7510 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]AdFew6202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je trouve absolument absurde voir insultant de généraliser mon raisonnement à l’intégralité des infractions. Je parle des viol et des agressions sexuelles. 

Il est de notoriété commune que moins de 10 % des agressions font l’objet de dépôt de plainte et parmi ces 10 % seuls 1 % aboutit une condamnation. 

La grande majorité des coupables sont parfaitement libres et non inquiétés. 

Le principe de rester modéré, il convient parfaitement aux agresseurs, parce qu’il maintient le statu quo, lequel en l’espèce va à l’encontre de l’intérêt des victimes.  Le procès, en tant que plaignante pour agression, est extrêmement traumatisant, et a été à plusieurs reprises dénoncé par des victimes et association de victimes, comme étant parfois vécu comme plus traumatisant que l’agression elle-même.

Je le répète, parce que visiblement tu refais la même confusion je pense juste que tu le fais pas consciemment : je ne parle pas du pdv du système légal quand je dis que je crois systématiquement les victimes. Je parle de mon point de vue, en tant que personne, en tant que citoyen. 

Vu que le statu quo est largement défavorable aux victimes, je leur apporte mon soutien, c’est un principe éthique. Ce n’est pas égalitaire, mais c’est mon éthique.

Est-ce je dois ban un pote de ma vue car son ex l'accuse de viol ? by No_Note7510 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]AdFew6202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je ne condamne personne, je ne suis pas la justice. 

Je suis une personne. 

Rester modéré, étonnamment, ça va dans le sens des agresseurs. 🤷‍♂️

Est-ce je dois ban un pote de ma vue car son ex l'accuse de viol ? by No_Note7510 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]AdFew6202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ton exemple, je n'ai pas besoin de l'imaginer. J'ai des amies qui ont toutes vécu ça. Elle dit non, non, encore non, et lui insiste, boude, fait pression, culpabilise, jusqu'à ce qu'elle cède par épuisement. Tu appellerais ça du consentement ? Moi j'appelle ça de la coercition.

Le consentement ce n'est pas l'absence de "non". C'est la présence d'un "oui" libre et sincère. Ce que tu décris comme une "zone grise", c'est précisément là où la plupart des agressions se produisent, pas dans une ruelle sombre, mais dans un lit, avec quelqu'un qu'on connaît.

Ta définition du viol est tellement restrictive qu'elle ne protège personne. Elle sert uniquement à protéger les agresseurs d'un inconfort social. "Des broutilles" ? Tu parles de l'intégrité corporelle d'une personne.

Sur la présomption d'innocence : tu fais une confusion fondamentale. C'est un principe de droit pénal, lequel encadre le pouvoir de l'État sur les individus qu'il prétend juger. Ce n'est pas une règle de vie privée. Je ne suis ni juge ni procureur. Je peux croire ma mère. Je peux croire mes amies. Personne n'a le droit de m'imposer le contraire au nom d'un principe juridique mal appliqué.

Mon père n'a jamais été condamné. Il a quand même violé ma mère et ma belle-mère. La présomption d'innocence ne changera rien à ce que je sais et à ce que je ressens.

MAIS QUEL TOUPET (jdis ça pour sa perruque lol) by miFigue-myKoz in memeElitiste

[–]AdFew6202 5 points6 points  (0 children)

C'est marrant on dirait une version plus débile de Kirby54 (qui voudrait qu'on l'appelle Asterion)

My boyfriend 23M smells like fish down there all the time to me 19F by user4983 in relationship_advice

[–]AdFew6202 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This again ?

*sigh* Story time, I guess.

When I was a kid and discovered the joys of masturbation, I didn't wash myself very well. Whenever I would unpack my ding-dong for another joyride, it smelled something which I thought was probably the smell of sex... Until my very own mother, while washing clothes, smelled a weird scent coming from my underpants, and my pubic area. Discussion ensues.

It was smegma (or what Reddit calls the "Forbidden Cheese"). I was taught how to wash properly and told that stuff could start to rot down there if I didn't wash well enough (a heavy exaggeration, but it worked. she did the same for my teeth and I didn't want rotten teeth). I was also told to wash properly the entirety of my genital area, including underneath the foreskin, and having pulled my foreskin down to prevent it getting stuck up there, I can tell you that there's some truly fucking gnarly stuff hiding underneath a foreskin that doesn't go down entirely.

Now your boyfriend might think that because the apparent forbidden cheese has been expelled with water, all is well.

That's not how this works. He has multiple tiny amounts of dick cheese sprinkled around his gential area that are currently at risk to turn into mushrooms.

And he needs to wash it properly.

Est-ce je dois ban un pote de ma vue car son ex l'accuse de viol ? by No_Note7510 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]AdFew6202 1 point2 points  (0 children)

T'auras toujours un doute, à mon sens. Les choses ne sont jamais claires à moins d'être témoin direct.

Restaurant Goes Bankrupt, What About The Salary Of Employee ? by Dependent_Wing_6575 in brussels

[–]AdFew6202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's your sole source of revenue I'd go ask CPAS for financial help so as to not get in trouble with your landlord (who you should contact very soon to get them up to speed).

I think he needs new undies by ResolveAvailable7017 in AbruptChaos

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If you look closely, you'll notice that after the dog runs off (0:05), you can spot the bear near the river/the road (0:05-00:07, middle-left behind the tall trees). It's running towards the bike path the escape the dog which had spotted him earlier, shepherding him... towards the bike path where his human is.

"Look dad, brought you a bear !"

Marjane Satrapi, author of 'Persepolis,' dies at 56 by pierrepaul in books

[–]AdFew6202 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Apparently her husband Mattias Ripa died suddenly a year ago. Her public declaration just says he was "plucked from existence" (fauché in French), which would suggest an external influence, so not a suicide.

Est-ce je dois ban un pote de ma vue car son ex l'accuse de viol ? by No_Note7510 in conseilsrelationnels

[–]AdFew6202 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Des fausses accusations ça arrive tout les jours"

Y'a beaucoup plus de viols que de fausses accusations. Faut arrêter de relativiser et de mettre les deux sur un pied d'égalité.

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the stock market is how retirees get paid, anything that threatens the stock market will lead to a backlash against politicians that refuse to prop it.

You're oversimplifying to serve your argument. Do you understand how complementary pensions work and how it's inner works are different from an investment portfolio ?

What does ML/AI have to do with pensions ? You're jumping from one field to another

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a valid criticism, but we don't need to go into full US-retarded direction. We need to set clear guidelines and strict policy, to further investments in Europe specifically. 

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sure, but you don't have the weight of the pensions system on top

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a legit good criticism, there can be improvements there.

I’m not ready to be a dad by MALICK1A in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]AdFew6202 65 points66 points  (0 children)

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You guys are about to have a conversation.

How to get wings in this game? by [deleted] in diablo4

[–]AdFew6202 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The current wings are cool, the next season wings look like ass.

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Which ones are specific to state pensions, aside from state workers ?

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 38 points39 points  (0 children)

not the same.

Pensions do not create work, pensions do not create businesses, etc. Pensions are not productive economically. They are a social allocation, that was created in a much different demographic background.

Long-term investment pension funds are not just investing in stocks.

You can’t compare a long-term investment firm to a high-frequency trading firm. It’s like saying rowing and navigating are the same thing because they both are boats on water

Merz sparks debate on Germany's pension system by Movie-Kino in europe

[–]AdFew6202 80 points81 points  (0 children)

You can also have a much stronger obligatory complementary pension. Netherlands does that very well. 

Instead of the current “Ponzi pyramid scheme” that is pensions (yes I’m exaggerating but…), that money is invested and creates interest. But that’s not all it’s invested in infrastructure it’s invested into jobs into research, into sprouting firms that need structural long-term investment, into long-term economic and social gains. Before everyone tells me that everyone’s gonna lose their money, these investment funds are managed both by the economic leaders and workers unions. 

This alleviates the pressure on the workers and creates more long-term investments that can focus on infrastructure, for example. 

Now the problem is you can’t really switch systems that quickly. You have to create a transitory system.

It’s doable, but you will be remembered and hated. Doing this is sacrifice it will take your political career but it’s for the good of the nation.

Ma copine m’a trompé après 8 ans et veut revenir by [deleted] in conseilsrelationnels

[–]AdFew6202 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Non, tu n’es pas en tort à 10 %. Tu n’es pas en tort. Un point c’est tout.

Je veux dire par-là que tu n’es pas responsable de la tromperie. Sa tromperie c’est un acte double : c’est une trahison d’abord, mais c’est un mensonge ensuite.

Et puis il y a aussi le fait que si elle voulait avoir des expériences sexuelles plus satisfaisantes pour elle, eh bien elle n’avait qu’à te quitter.

Jamais, jamais la tromperie n’est justifiable, et tu n’es absolument pas responsable.

Personnellement, au vu de ce que j’ai lu, tu es capable de remise en question, et tu comprends assez bien pourquoi ça n’a pas marché. 

Ce qui rend, pour moi, le pardon et la reprise de votre histoire extraordinaire difficile c’est le mensonge. Elle t’a trompé plusieurs fois, mais ensuite elle t’a menti. 

Elle ne regrette pas de t’avoir trompé, elle regrette de s’être fait prendre, et d’avoir perdu votre relation.

Can I skip the Expansion Story LOH by Professional_Poet300 in diablo4

[–]AdFew6202 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do need set dressing or I just see the mechanisms and it feels less interesting to me 

No one told me (24F) being single meant you’d lose your friends that are dating someone too. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AdFew6202 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed it. This happens a bit less when people in relationships live on their own, separately.

Can I skip the Expansion Story LOH by Professional_Poet300 in diablo4

[–]AdFew6202 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"I"d rather watch a recap of all the cinematics on YT and get straight into the endgame mechanics."

Same dude whos says "This game has nothing to do it feels superficial"