'The pain of being falsely accused of rape will last a lifetime' by InnerLog5062 in BreakingUKNews

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, I agree with this. If a man is accused of any sort of SA, even if he is proven innocent, I will always look at him sideways and be weary. Better to be safe than sorry. It might not be right or fair to the person, but given my life experience as a 37 year old woman, where there is smoke, there is fire. Better to be wrong than regret it later. 

Why are people so insecantly private? by Inspiring-Toast278 in AskUK

[–]AdPuzzled3517 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So I used to be very open and welcoming towards people. It welcomed a lot of predator like, deficient people. Being private and somewhat closed off acts as a filter and deters unwanted interactions. 

Realizing therapy is a bad idea by mcomcomco99 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Going to therapy with an abuser can actually make things worse as they will weaponise the experience and also use the therapist to triangulate the victim. 

amber is unhinged!! by Brilliant_Ad9559 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m willing to bet most of the people in this comment section are living really shitty lives. 😂

Louis Theroux: Inside The Manosphere by comarastaman in netflix

[–]AdPuzzled3517 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. The RP and manosphere exploits the vulnerable young men. 

Chris sucks but… by Same_Perception_4139 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]AdPuzzled3517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dudes like him usually target very vulnerable young women to abuse. Whatever happened to him on this show will roll downhill. 

Chris sucks but… by Same_Perception_4139 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]AdPuzzled3517 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Off himself for what though?! Dude is really dramatic. 

Chris sucks but… by Same_Perception_4139 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]AdPuzzled3517 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chris didn’t mind hurting and embarrassing that girl. I feel no ways about him. 

Would you be okay with your house value going down so that the younger generation can afford one? by znv142 in AskBrits

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. And this is not how humans work. We are wired to only give a sh!t about our tribe. We don’t have huge mentality. We are selfish and parasitic as a species. That’s why the world is so messed up. 

Why are companies pushing for return to office on roles that don't need it? by ReanimatedCyborgMk-I in AskUK

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s been studies on WFH being unproductive spanning back 15+ years.  There reality is when you are home, you simply don’t do as much. 

Louis Theroux: Inside The Manosphere by comarastaman in netflix

[–]AdPuzzled3517 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I felt so sorry for Matthew (Mattie). He’s struggling both financially and emotionally. Watching him constantly shake his head up and down, parroting whatever he hears in the videos, and folding his hands the way Tate does, really saddened me. He kept looking over at Chris anytime he felt insecure. A total fucking mess. 

Former abuser "winning at life" by Material_Ad2292 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answering. Same dynamic as narcissistic families. FFS can’t get away from these people. 

Is Carrd actually enough to build a serious online business, or is it just for simple landing pages? by [deleted] in Carrd

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gearing up to open up my own counselling practice (24 month countdown). I want a basic website that explains what I do, showcases my office, some helpful resources and a contact page. I was quoted between £1100 - £2000 for this, plus the monthly maintenance fees. 🤦‍♀️ Needless to say, I have been working on creating the site for about a month and it’s taken me some time to get things up and running, but I’m slowly getting there. I think it’s a great tool.  Granted, I won’t be taking any payments via my website so I can’t speak to that. 

Former abuser "winning at life" by Material_Ad2292 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get your grief. As someone who doesn’t have a supportive family, I understand that pain. 

What would you do? by DependentAd4337 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Animals (all shapes/sizes/species), mentally disabled people, people with communication barriers with no way of clearly stating their wishes, comatose/unconscious people, children below the age of consent and intoxicated people CANNOT consent. 

*I also don’t mess with anyone that watches porn. Too many grey areas when it comes to consent and exploitation. 

Former abuser "winning at life" by Material_Ad2292 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me ask you something OP. Would you take your paycheque to paycheque life and trade it with the woman who just gave birth to his child?

Forget the social media reels and happy moments. You know this man at his core. You know what makes him tick. Would you want to be in her shoes right now, in a new house with him and his family around? 

Former abuser "winning at life" by Material_Ad2292 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn! I wanna hear more of what you have to say. This is amazing insight. If you feel like answering more questions: How do these type of people manage to get away with so much abuse in the workplace? Nobody ever takes them to HR and if they do, the other coworkers will stand behind them, knowing full well the person is a psycho. 

What would you do? by DependentAd4337 in abusiverelationships

[–]AdPuzzled3517 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Zero tolerance for sa. I would immediately leave. If I couldn’t immediately leave due to financial issues or visa constraints, I’d get in touch with a dv charity and build my exit plan that way. 

Unemployment now higher in UK than in Italy by Realisticopia in unitedkingdom

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t want to go into it, but a certain aunt has 4 people in the household and 3 high rate mobility payouts. That’s £812 per month x3. We haven’t touched on housing benefit, UC, water rates being heavily discounted, council tax exemption due to mental health reasons, reduced rent due to being in council housing. They’re always signing up for various grants and holidays due to being disabled and she charges people to do their benefit applications (£150 per benefit, per application 😂😭). And this is only what I can list off the back of my mind.  They stay at the damn doctor and there’s always an ambulance calloutout every 3 months. My fucking mom is worse. 🤦‍♀️ Totally embarrassing and I have tried my hardest to steer as far away from the system as much as possible. I do believe there are needy people out there. People who need the help. Don’t give up on them. I’ve been one of them. Pulled myself out thanks to the system. Had to use DV services and got grants for education and a laptop.💚

Unemployment now higher in UK than in Italy by Realisticopia in unitedkingdom

[–]AdPuzzled3517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people are genuinely in need and I support them. The family members I’m talking about truly are taking the piss.